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@Mrs. Jacks: damn.
sorry.
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I'm grateful when the kids aren't invited, because I want to enjoy my friends and not worry! I'm in agreement with all of those that said that it's the bride and groom's prerogative- not my wedding. If it's a PITA for me to get a sitter, that's on me. If I don't want to leave my kiddo, then it's up to me to weigh that decision- do I not want to leave my kiddo more than I want to go to the wedding. A while ago I left breastfeeding twins at home and paid a sitter $100 to sit for a dear friend's wedding. Worth all of it, including the engorgement I got from not being around my kiddos at nursing time.
Of course, this is just for me. This is not suitable for other people, I'm sure!
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Some. I didn't mind them. I think it's personal preference if you want kids to attend but I can certainly understand if you don't. Weddings are expensive!!
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@illumina: ok, now that makes complete sense. We went to a wedding last month and the ceremony started at 6:30...which isn't unusual for my friends.
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I've never been invited to a child-free wedding. Although Xander wasn't invited to the last wedding we went to, which was both fun and sucked because he was 5 months old and I was nursing and I had to go pump every 3 hours. I missed seeing the bride and groom visit our table and my food was cold when I returned from pumping.
We have a wedding we're attending in May that Xander and Logan were invited to. I'm sooooooooo excited! I think it'll be so much fun having the kids there! And I can't wait to dress them up in cute outfits for the wedding!
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@Mrs. Jacks: destination wedding and kid free.....no, no, no. If those are the circumstances that you chose for you're wedding, that's fine, but you have to expect that you're putting a lot of people in a bad spot and have zero right to be upset if people can't make it.
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I've never been to a wedding that was specifically child free (actually, every wedding I've been to other than my own had children in the bridal party). That said, we tried to make our wedding as child-friendly as possible, and almost everyone chose to get a sitter instead!
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I've only been to one child-free wedding, and it was okay. It was nice to be able to enjoy the ceremony and reception, but findig a sitter was stressful. I'm glad my parents were able to watch her.
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@lady baltimore: ours was the same! we invited over 30 kids and i think we ended up with less than 10 and that included 2 ring bearers and 2 flower girls!
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Most of the weddings I've been to have been no kids! I kind of like them, and treat it like an extra-special date night.
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I don't believe I've ever been to a wedding with kids at it - and we've probably been to at least 40 over the last 10 years. Maybe it's a northeast thing like others have said? Even as a kid I can remember going to the church for a few of my aunt/uncle's weddings but never ever the reception. I love my son to pieces but I wouldn't want to bring him to a wedding reception!
ETA: At our wedding, and most of the other weddings I can think of, the flower girl and ring bearer may come to the cocktail hour (ours did) but don't stay for the reception.
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I have only attended one wedding where there were more than just bridal party kids or immediate family kids- neices & nephews of the bride and groom. Even then it was just one couple that brought their toddler and she was the life of the party. She did make people nervous when she explored the open hurricane lanterns and kept lifting up her dress.
I definitely like it better when there are less children.
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@Rainbow Sprinkles: exactly! I also remember loving weddings as a kid- gettin wild on shirley temples and going to town on the dance floor!
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Most I have been to have been child free. I always prefer child free weddings.
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We brought DD to one wedding at 6 months. She was super good but I just didn't have as much fun. We choose to leave her home now!
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Never been to a child-free wedding!
My daughter went with us to my SIL's wedding when she was 3 months old and there was no problem, people loved passing her around, especially the pregnant bridesmaids who wanted to get in some baby practice
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All of the weddings we've been to were child - free. If our son was invited we would not take him unless it was the wedding of one of his aunts or another very close family member.
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Most of the weddings I've been to recently have been child free. I found it difficult when LOs were younger and we just declined sometimes instead of figure out logistics. But now I enjoy having a good excuse to go out and have fun sans kiddos for awhile.
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None of the weddings in our circle of friends have been child free. I'm not sure I've ever heard of them in the UK actually, although I'm sure they do happen there too. My sisters had kids when they got married so obviously included little ones and all the weddings on DH's side were in Spain so no one could expects guests to leave their kids back home and come without them.
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In the past 2.5 years since our son was born, we've been to 8 weddings and he came with us to all of them but one. He was invited to all of them, but some dear friends let us stay with them during that wedding and insisted on babysitting.
I don't begrudce a couple for whatever they decide to do, but it majorly bums me out when weddings are child-free. It is definitely NOT more fun for me to attend without him because of all the hassle & expense leading up to the wedding. We'll be going to a child-free wedding in August (on the other side of the country) and we're lucky my parents are going to fly out to stay with our son for the weekend. If they hadn't offered, we couldn't have gone & that's sucky.
I love taking my son to weddings! There's been two out of seven that were less-fun (once we left early because he got sick, the other was so crowded & my husband was a groomsman so it was stressful to keep track of my 2 year old). People definitely drink, dance to loud music, and stay up very late but I don't consider it inappropriate. It's a wedding not a rave - he's in a safe place and child-friendly weddings have a ton of familiar people who are happy to help care for a child. -
@autumnlove: I've never been to a child free wedding before. When my H and I got married it was a 7pm ceremony, and still lots of people brought their kids. Why anyone would want to bring an 8 month old to an evening wedding past their bedtime is beyond me, but they did.
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Most of the weddings we're invited to are child-free.
I'm going to one in May. It's 4pm on a Friday two hours away. It didn't make sense for both of us to take the day off from work and hire a sitter for 10 hours, so I'm going solo.
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I've never been to a child free wedding. My sister-in-law is getting married in October after our LO is here and there will be for infants under six months old plus some other kids. Kids are just part of weddings to me.
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I just had to make the decision to not go to a wedding I had been planning on (and looking forward to introducing LO to my side of our extended family!) because it turns out to be child free. Which is not usual at all in our family, there are a bunch of kids and the reception is at her family's place, so that was unexpected. But it's on the other side of the country and I was going to fly over with LO myself (too much hassle to coordinate childcare around DH'd schedule alone, and expensive!) which isn't worth it if I then need to find a sitter and miss out on showing LO off!
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honestly, until i started planning my own wedding and reading wedding forums, i never paid attention to these details. so if i think back to all the weddings i've attended, i can't even remember if they were child-free or not! And i have not been to a wedding in the past 4 years since my own wedding. Well actually, i can think of some weddings where there were definitely kids present,...i just can't recall if i ever went to a child-free wedding.
sorry.
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