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@catgirl: I am sorry that you know how I feel. It's not a good way to feel at all!
@avivoca: a surprise would be perfect! Haha. I think next spring we will also be having a serious talk, my son is turning 2 in December and I had a little dream of having our second next spring but since the chance for that has come and gone, I am gonna try to be patient and give him some time to come around. The older and more fun our son gets, I think argh I want more of these amazing creatures while he contrasts the fun toddler stage to the baby stage and makes comments from time to time how much he's not a baby person. I am such a baby person!
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Neither of us feel done. DH wants 2 more, I want 0-2 more depending on the day (or hour). We will have at least 1 more. I don't know if I could do 2 more even though I hate the thought of 3 kids.
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We've always said we wanted 2, and I'm pregnant with #2 now.... Dh has said he's definitely done after 2, I could maaaaybe see having a third sometime, but we'll see, maybe I'll feel differently after 2 is born!
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No. I'm pregnant with #2 now but always saw myself with 3. DH always pictured 2, maybe 3. He's open to the idea of a third after we see how things go with #2 but we had a tough time conceiving #2 (I have diminished ovarian reserve) and now I'm 36. I'm really hoping #3 is in the cards for us but trying to find peace that it may not be (I'm also not sure I want to go through the miscarriages and failed months TTC again).
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We have four. My husband is done for good but I want to adopt one more but I won't force him into it. If he comes around to the idea than maybe we can pursue it but if not I will just have to make peace with it some how.
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My family felt we were done the day I had my son. Expecting our third. I'm thinking I'll be done after this
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Done after our third. Although if I had a million dollars I would have 4, 5 or 6.
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I really thought I would want 4 kids, and DH wanted 3. But after how hard this pregnancy has been, we are both pretty sure we are going to be done at 2. I can't imagine doing this to our family again with me being so sick. I guess we will see if time erases these memories, but I'm skeptical.
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nope, we're not done. we'll have one more and we both agree.
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We are both on the same page and totally done at 2.
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I've always said 2-3, and could have been happy with two. DH has always said 3-4, and I'm currently 32 wks with #3. He's already talking about #4, but I feel very much done at this point!
Perhaps my feelings will change once baby is here and things settle down, but we will see!
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Pre LO, I wanted two, DH wanted to be one and done. Then with the reality of hyperemesis, induced early with pre-eclampsia, and a colicky and acid reflux baby we both were one and done.
Then I started picturing our family down the road, and I want three! I told DH this is going to sound totally crazy, but I could see us with three kids! He said he's not totally against the idea, it's just completely different than what he imagined. I don't think we would regret having a larger family, and we both have steady jobs with good income, so I don't think our lifestyle would take a big hit. And we just bought a third row suv to have more space with our one child- true American style lol. He would like our kids two years apart, but I would prefer 2.5-3.5 years apart.
We have compromised by loosely TTC #2 starting at 14 months, but it just so happens I'm having ovulation issues, so it's out of our hands regardless. I'm enjoying the break from breastfeeding, and getting a little bit of sleep. I know we missed ovulation this month. But, I just started a pure barre challenge at the new studio that opened up right by our house! We will pick up TTC #2 around the holidays.
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My family doesn't feel "done" and both DH and I agree about that. I would like 2 more and he pretty much goes along with what I say
That being said, my family doesn't feel incomplete with "just" my daughter. After a loss a couple months ago, I know how unpredictable and precious a healthy pregnancy/baby is, so I feel really blessed to have my beautiful, healthy daughter.
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Nope definitely not complete! We are TTC#2 right now, and I would love to have 4 total. But we might be done after 2. Not sure!
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Have two boys and done. If I was younger by 5 years I wouldn't have minded a third 2 years ago.
@T.H.O.U.: I've been MIA for a while, but you had a third? Congrats! I read elsewhere and then couldn't find that thread again.
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We have 2 and I feel pretty much done. DH, on the other hand, is 100% that he would like a 3rd. He's 1 of 3 and I'm 1 of 2, so that's probably where we are both coming from. I do the majority of the childcare so I'm just not sure I'm up for having another. I told him we could talk more about it once DD turns 2 next month.
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DH is 100% done. I guess I am too... but if I thought my body could handle another pregnancy, I might not be done.
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DH has always been 100% one and done. I thought I might like 2, but I'm surprised how complete our family feels with our one and only. Everyone said I'd change my mind when he was around 6 months old. Well, he'll be 7 months old in a couple of days. He's completely easy and adorable...and I still don't want another.
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We were 99.999% sure that we were done. But just recently we've been having brief flashes of 'what if?'
However, I really don't know if my body can handle another pregnancy- it was really rough on me. Plus, 3 kids means a whole bunch of changes (bigger cars, bigger house, more daycare, etc). -
We are happy with our two kids and feel that our family is complete. Now only if other people would stop asking us to try for a girl. It's kind of insulting that they think our family can only be complete if we have a girl.
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@MrsB2012: what do you think happened that suddenly made you both want 1 more? I hope we won't feel that way, lol!
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DH got a vasectomy in June, and I keep telling people that we will adopt if we decide we want another child. But, honestly, our family feels complete. Two and through!
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We don't know. Our DS is 2 and we definitely aren't ready for another and aren't sure if we want a second, but we haven't ruled it out yet either. Given a number of different factors a 4 year age gap would be our preference anyway so we have some time to sort it out I guess.
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@junebugsmama: I got pregnant earlier than we planned to try, so I think accident/surprise is the way to go, haha. But in all seriousness, I think while on paper, we both want 1, and we're ready for 2. DH def has a harder time accepting the reality... And he's the one that's technically benefits from having them closer since he's 7 yrs older than me and he knows it's just gonna get more exhausting the longer we wait.
I think it's super important to think long term too... All this infant/toddler stuff won't last forever. I hope he comes around soon
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@yin: our 2nd girl is still baking in here and people already ask if we'd try for a 3rd boy
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I don't know. I am only 21 weeks pregnant with #2. I wanted a bigger family, but I only felt really good at about 18 weeks. I don't know if I can handles another pregnancy.
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@snowjewelz: I agree. Thanks for the support! It means a lot
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We have two boys and I'm pretty sure I'm done.
My husband talks about having a third a lot (and he used to only want one!)We're waiting until my second is 2 to talk about it seriously again, because right now they're 3 and 10 months and I'm already stressed as it is. If we did have a third, I would want a bigger gap next time (3-4 years)
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@yin: Yes! If I had a dime for every time someone said this to me, I would be rich.
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We keep considering having one or two more but it's such a complete lifestyle change. We have enough space in our home, but would need one more larger vehicle. Also I would probably no longer work because 3 in child care wouldn't make financial sense.
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We have two and for some reason I feel like our options are 2 or 4, because I've always had a thing for even numbers and no one feeling left out.
I'm 50/50 about having more, but know I'm not ready yet. DH is 75% done. The worst part is not having a plan, because I think I could make peace with either.
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Not sure
We were solidly one and done before having the baby but once he arrived I think something switched. I've gone from wanting one to wanting minimum of 3 and now my husband really wants to experience having a girl too.
He's 4 months old and I already miss the newborn stage. I loved being pregnant, childbirth and the all consuming nature of newbornhood so I can't imagine never going though it again.
If we do decide to have more, we'd like them 3-4 years apart so we can stretch out the baby years. We've tabled the discussion for now and will reassess when DS turns 2.
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We are TTC number 2. We agree that we will likely be satisfied with two.
If we had unlimited time and money, my dream would be 4, for sure. With a large age gap between the 2nd and 3rd, kind of two sets of two. Maybe if our business really takes off we could make it happen. The bigger constraint might actually be our age.
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I am currently pregnant with number 3. DH is on the fence about a 4th. I am not. I want another after this but we agreed to talk more about it after this baby turns one.
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I definitely don't feel done and my husband could go either way, but he has agreed on 1 more with the possibility of two more. The problem is finances, mainly daycare. So we may be done. Sigh.
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