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@looch: I was wondering this as well! What if an interracial couple wanted sperm that matched the husband?
That is an appalling rule they have. There are many reasons someone might seek out sperm from another race, not that someone needs to justify it, but there are medical reasons. For example: I'm a CF carrier, Caucasians are significantly more likely to be carriers than other races, so choosing Asian sperm would give me the lowest chance of the donor also being a carrier. I would say avoiding a lethal condition is a totally reasonable reason to want to pick a sample that wasn't of my own race. Who are they to play judge and jury over who deserves a family & what they should look like??
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These are all interesting points, thanks for sharing them. It's such a difficult topic to discuss and I feel like we all have different reasons for the choices we make.
At the end of the day though, I would probably choose donors that had physical resemblances to my husband and me. I hope that doesn't make me come across as a terrible person, but I do support other people's rights to choose differently than I do...which is what I belive this comes down to.
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@Radish: that's often true! Mr. Bird & I canceled out issues that could have been problems had we not been an interracial couple.
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In the UK adoption policies are that you can only adopt children from similar racial backgrounds as yourselves. This is be ause they think a black child for example, adopted by White parents would attract questions. I imagine most people would assume the baby had a different father. They say that it creates unnecessary difficulties for the child.
Personally I don't think it matters that much as all kids experience some difficulties growing up, but maybe that is more along their resoning? -
@looch: I think the difference is that you would make that choice. What is right for your family. And I don't think there's anything wrong with that as each family needs to make their personal decision. I think it's ridiculous that this clinic makes restrictions on their own.
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I have friends, two lesbian couples, who want to have kids, both couples are interracial and the person carrying the baby would want sperm from the other's race so that they'd have a mixed baby, which reflects their make-up.
@looch: I don't think choosing a donor that may look like your or your DH is a terrible thing at all. I think many people feel that way. Mixed race couples should be allowed to do the same!
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