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well i'd pick something between "he is dead to me" and "totally cool with it". Obviously you are a hurt he didn't tell you about his major life event and i'd probably mention something about it and take it from there.

That is so bizarre???! I don't even talk to most of my very best friends 2x a week ... So the fact that you are in such constant contact and he never mentioned his wedding?! Wtf?

That's the weirdest situation. I'm not one to play guessing games with friends though, so I would just come out and ask him why he didn't tell you about it. No need to hold onto resentment, if a short talk could help you guys sort it.

I'd totally call him out on this! If you've known each other for that long, and obviously attached to other people... What's up dude?!

My first thought was that maybe his wife has some kind of issue with your relationship? Even so, though, it's super weird that he didn't even tell you after the fact. You have to update us once you talk to him!

@mfa_lady: That would be my guess as well. Because he wasn't bothered and didn't disappear when OP got married, it doesn't seem like romantic feelings on his side would cause a rift when HE got married. I would guess maybe his wife had a problem with him having a close female friend and he didn't know how to address it so he ignored it. I'd totally ask him wtf was up with that though just to be sure.

That is so bizarre to me! I have 2 guy friends (also from highschool days) whom I chat with daily on whatsapp. I would be super confused why they didn't tell me they were engaged or had gotten married! Especially when we chat about random daily life stuff like vacations, work, pretty much everything except girl talk.

In my expirence of friendship with opposite sex is that sometimes the wife or girlfriend just doesn't have close male friends. She may LIKE you but may also get on him for being so close to you(because she doesn't understand it). I sadly have had a few close male friends drift away because of that. If that is why he was keeping it from you and didn't want to fess up, I may excuse it.
I can see you missing the fb announcement and engagement but I would not be happy with him not telling me at all. I voted that he would be dead to me me, because there is no way it didn't cross his mind he should tell you! (Unless it's truly his personality for him to not think about you or your feelings but still, not a good friend to have).

Eta: saw your update! Um, I'm not sure. Obviously the wife has no issue! So that's good.

@Raindrop: Oh, i think what is done is done. If you enjoyed being friends otherwise, I would totally do the playdate. As to why he didn't tell you, guys are weird. One of my coworkers didn't tell us that his wife was expecting until she was 8 months along. My other thought, is that lots of people only announce things by facebook. I find out tons of things second-hand because I'm not on there. It's the price I pay.

I edited my advice because I just saw that you said that it has been 1.5 years.

I would do like Mrs. Lemon-Lime said. I'd have a meet-up with him and his wife, and if there is any place in the conversation where it could at all be natural to bring up, I would just say, "Hey, you know, it was so weird to me that you never told me you got married and I had to hear from someone else. What was the deal with that?"

If it's been that long, I think it's a little late to confront him about it. If he's your friend and that is the only issue, I'd try hard to get over it and start over where you are now. Give a play date a try and see how it goes!

@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: yes. This.

Weird!

Does his gf/wife have weird feelings towards you?

I think the moment has probably passed now on asking. Maybe one day in private you can say "hey, why did I have to hear about you getting married from ___?".

It could also be what others are suggesting: they weren't going to invite you and felt weird telling you about it.

I would mention it casually and just ask why he didn't tell you ahead of time because you would have liked to get him a gift or something.

I would probably give this guy the benefit of the doubt if it was a family-only wedding and outside of the country, especially if it seemed like it happened last minute. My first thought is that the bride had someone in the family who was very sick or something and they wanted to get married quickly with that person present. This is what happened to me (my mom diagnosed with terminal cancer the day I got engaged, we had to rush the wedding and keep it family only, and honestly I probably forgot to tell some of my friends about it in all the stress and craziness).

@Raindrop: That is weird about the emails. Maybe he felt awkward about the fact that you weren't invited and didn't want to bring it up. Strange though, I agree.

@Raindrop: Men are weird, that is my conclusion, haha! His wife couldn't have disliked you that much if she's all about the playdates too..??

I def agree that the prime time for asking is kinda over... At the meet up where you realized he was married, I would have been like WAIT WHAT?! lol.

After reading that it was 1.5 years ago, I would let it go at this point. It is weird he never mentioned getting married. But sounds like he still wants to be friends if he's trying to make plans with you. And he's probably wondering why you have stepped back from your friendship over the past 1.5 years.