My sister contacted me for the first time in over a year yesterday texting that she is resigning as POA for my mom and that's she done with our mother. My mom has been living in an assisted living facility for over 2 years and my sister has been managing her finances and taking her to various dr appointments. I think my mom refused to go to an appointment yesterday and that was the trigger for this but my sister's frustration, stress, resentment has been building up for years. My mom is aware that my sister finds it a burden to take her to appointments and that may have factored in to my mom refusing to go. My sister is 12 years older than me, has a junior in high school and has stayed at home since her daughter was born. She does not really have hobbies other than working out at the gym. She used to volunteer at school when my niece was younger. She's a homebody and does not have a lot of friends.
My siblings and I have encouraged my sister to ask the assisted living facility if they can take my mom to appointments or if a transportation service can be hired to help but my sister has not wanted to look into this. Though she finds it a burden to do all that she does for my mom she has not wanted to ask other people outside the family to take her to appointments.
Not having heard from my sister in over a year, I responded to her that I understand she had a bad morning and encouraged her to focus on the good things going on in her life - that is what I do when I am stressed or having a bad day.
Today - she pretty much resends the same text from yesterday but in all caps. I ask her if she's looked into talking with a therapist - it was something I asked her to do before we last talked - I told her today I love her and out of concern I am encouraging her to talk to someone about her stress. I told her that I understand she's stressed and frustrated and that if she talks with a therapist he/she may be able to help her find ways to manage that.
After that she responded again "Good luck taking care of Mom."
A) Any advice on how to respond/help my sister?
B) Can my sister "resign" from being POA? I am already POA for my dad. My sister has not talked with him in years. I visit both my parents but I do not have the time to take my mom to appointments, manage her finances and I would really prefer not to be my mom's POA. I don't want to say OK to my sister.