I'll try to keep this brief...

My husband currently works for a large company in his field - one of the top 5 in the country. He is on a good career track, makes a very good salary, has a great relationship with his boss, and has work from home privileges whenever he chooses (which is almost all the time, which is really nice). This job is also in our hometown, very close to my family and not too far from his.

He was recently recruited by a company that is much smaller (still mid-sized and growing, but like 1/40th of his current company's size). This job would pay 30 percent more in base salary, offers a substantial signing bonus, and has a higher potential annual bonus. It could give him management experience in the near future, which he probably won't get at his current company for quite awhile. It's about 2.5 hours away from any major city (which would be ours). We don't know anyone in the area.

We decided to accept, he communicated his acceptance via email a few days ago and just received the HR paperwork yesterday. The hiring manager still hasn't clarified a few things, so although they've asked him to send back his signed offer letter tomorrow by the end of the day, I don't think that's happening (the questions to be answered are somewhat important). This company has been SLOWWW throughout the entire interview/job offer process, which I know is typical, but it's still a little annoying.

So he gave his current manager notice today... and they asked if he would be willing to consider a counteroffer. He said yes, I agreed. His boss, and his boss's boss (who both seem to really value him) are taking it to HR tomorrow. I really don't want to list our house for sale and try to move in the second half of pregnancy with a toddler and two dogs to a small town where we don't know anyone. The money is really, really good - so good that I was willing to do it, but if his current company comes close, I would really like to stay. Is that a bad move for DH, though, career-wise? Will there be resentment?

This whole process has been really overwhelming and emotionally draining. I'm just ready for it to be over, either way.