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Yikes.

You really need to being in a canine behaviourist to change the dogs behaviour ... and a husband behaviourist to slap some sense into your husband. I love dogs, but vicious dogs are not funny, regardless of the size.

Ugh. Maybe you can leave the door open by accident..? HAHA. kidding.
Sorry. Your husband needs to stop encouraging her bad behavior and kick her out of bed!

@MsMini: I agree.

Please don't hate the dog, it's not the dogs fault. It's your husband's. Obviously this dog wasn't trained properly. That's not the dog's fault, but the trainer, in which case was your husband. It's downright selfish of him to not acknowledge this behavior of this dog. It's not to late to change the behavior.

Please look into training or a dog behaviorist. I hurts me deeply to hear you say you wish the dog would run away when this poor animal is defenseless. It loves its "master" and was and is trained and encouraged to behave this way. By your husband laughing when this happens, he is encouraging this behavior.

I cannot stress enough that this is not the dogs fault, but rather your husband. I truly hopes he changes his ways.

@septemberlove: I totally support you in getting your husband to recognize his role here, and step up as a partner!

But advocating for a dog to be killed... I can't get behind that, especially when the behavior is the result of your DH's training and encouragement!

Hmm I think you should really talk to DH about him encouraging this. It is not fair to you...

@septemberlove: by "you" I meant both of you. Not getting this dog the training it needs is setting her up to act how she has thus far (which I agree - is unacceptable) I just hope your husband isn't shocked when he does need to give up his beloved dog since he seems to be refusing the reality of the situation (Your LO coming home to a dog that has behavioural issues). I would be pissed if I was in your position too.

I totally agree with you, @MrsBrewer.

It makes me really sad to hear how much this dog is hated. It sounds like this dog has behavioral issues that really need to be addressed, and your DH also needs to make changes in how he treats her.

I second what others have said-you need to get a behaviorist involved for your husband and the dog. It's not the dog's fault- your husband is encouraging and allowing her behavior to continue. This thread makes me sad. I know you are upset, but saying you would kill the dog? C'mon! I think it also bothers you that your DH is caring more about the dog than how you feel.

I had a dog for 4 years before DH came in the picture. Sometimes she loves him more than me! But, she is never vicious towards him. There needs to be some classes or counseling going on in the near future.

@hilsy85: this.

This thread has been bugging me. I feel at a loss of words because it honestly upsets me.
First off having it run away or sending it off to the pound will not resolve anything. This is NOT the dogs fault. This is a behavior issue which needs to be addressed and clearly is not.
I honestly understand the frustration of it. I foster dogs and fostered a Chihuahua that was VERY MUCH the same way you are describing. Guess what...with some dog behavior skills and training....she ended up being the best dog ever and we decided to adopt her.
If you do not have the patience for training a dog then perhaps pets are not your thing. It seems your DH is very much guilty in working against you and you two need to get on the same page in regards to this. Do not let it be at the dogs expense. Dropping it off at the pound will only pass "the problem" on to someone else because you choose not to address it. Pounds and shelters are VERY stressful and a dog of this type would NOT do well and would prob show fear, anxiety which will come out as aggression to potential adopters which clearly will not be in the dogs benefit for getting adopted. So IF you choose to re-home this dog please find a Rescue that will work with her.
Remember despite your frustration you are the "higher being" here. Wishing death, abandonment etc..is not going to get you anywhere.
Im really sorry your husband is not working with you on this, but seriously there is no such thing as a bad dog, only a bad owner/trainer.

Like I said, I had a dog like this. She wanted to EAT my husband and my personal dogs if they came near me. It caused fights between us because I wanted to stick with her training and DH wanted me to swap her for a different dog within our Rescue we work for. I convinced him to give me a couple weeks. LIke I said we ended up keeping her and she is nowthe biggest Daddys girl EVER.
She is not the only dog I have had to re-socialize. It takes time and patience. Its not the dogs fault that it has been allowed to behave this way. The dog doesnt know better, but we as people, as trainers and "pack leaders" do know better and you have to be the bigger person and keep that in mind.
Best of luck, the prob seems to be your DH working against you and not the dog.

@septemberlove: I really hope you are reading these posts. Especially the one by @Rescuemom10: because if you are reading them, they are saying ITS NOT THE DOGS FAULT! I didn't put that in caps to yell or anything, but rather just to get your attention. I just feel like you aren't seeing it that way at all. I sure that dog is a sweetheart deep down but just isn't able to express itself to it's full potential. Please before you Even consider the pound, actually try and work with the dog with training. Don't just cop out,work at this. You married your husband with the dog, so it's your dog now as well.

@Rescuemom10: THIS.

This post really bothers me, too. Also, this statement: "I agree that DH's behavior is a factor in her behavior. However, this doesn't excuse her behavior or make it acceptable." Your DH's behavior isn't a factor in her behavior - it's what's causing the behavior. And a dog's behavior isn't "excusable" or "acceptable" - a dog is an animal, without the ability to think rationally. A dog doesn't know any better.

If your DH isn't willing to work on his behavior, then it seems like the only option available to you would be to find a rescue that will train her so she can hopefully be a great pet for someone else.