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@Mrs. Blue: I agree that they are fine without extra activities, but my reasoning for ballet is so that LO1 has something that is all hers. She shares so much of everything else with her little brother and this gives her something we can all do for her, that she doesn't need to share.

Growing up, my sister and I (twin) shared just about everything and it led to some rough feelings, so this helps ease that from the start.

@MaisyMay: I don't think there's anything at all wrong with having LOs in extras, especially if it's something she loves and wants to do, which is what I meant at the end of my post. I'm more just trying to say that it's about what's best for you and your kids and if it feels like too much, than you shouldn't feel like you have to do it or your kid is missing some critically important thing. I think if it feels right to you guys and your kiddo loves it and isn't feeling to rushed for events, it's great to do extras. We're not personally at a point yet where we think we're ready and our kids have never asked to do any of those kinds of things yet, so we're good with putting it off a bit longer.

I'm particularly sensitive about the twin thing and how they have to share everything all the time. We are going to try to give them options of what they want to do when they get to that stage and make it work if it's different activities, but man, as a parent it would just be so much EASIER for me if they wanted to do the same thing! . They will be in separate classrooms next year, and I think that will be good for them to at least have different teachers, different friends, etc!

No. I use all the things PPs said about why not to ease my guilt that we don't have her in anything because it seems like *everyone* does have their kids in something. What it really comes down to is that I'm not willing to tie us down on the weekends (we visit my parents at their lake house a lot) and it would add too much stress to my life to do it on weekdays.

My daughter is in daycare 4 days/week and my parents have her the other day. They have her in swim lessons and music (both their idea). If she was in 5 days daycare we would not have her in those things right now, although I know she really enjoys it! When it gets cold and we have less to do on weekends I'm thinking we might do gymnastics on weekends.

We did soccer and gymnastics with LO 1 when I worked FT. Usually after daycare or early mornings on Saturdays.

Yes, he has hockey on Mondays (really just skating lessons lol). And we were doing swimming on weekends but we finished the last one and haven't registered for the new one. Getting to hockey on time is tough- it's at 5:40 and I'm usually done with work around 5. So we eat afterward at 7.
But I'd hate for him to miss out because we work and he loves having things to do

Nope! I have no idea how you guys make this work. I feel like we don't have enough time to hang out as it is.