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We still went forward with TTC #2. We actually tried earlier than we would have if DD was super easy. DH and I did not enjoy the newborn phase and the further we got from it the harder it seemed like it would be to go back. Ours are 27 months apart.

I struggle with this too. I always wanted three and now I'm not so sure I want anymore after my first. And the thing is, she's being a pretty easy baby. But an easy newborn is still exhausting. I think we're going to wait until she's 4 or 5 to revisit the topic of ttc.

I always wanted more than one. My husband didn't feel as strongly about having kids at all and thinks more than two is insane. We unofficially agreed on two. Now our son has been so difficult I just don't know what to do. I love him to pieces but I don't know how I'd handle two tough kids. I'm hoping maybe if we wait a couple more years we'll all be ready to add to our family but there are days I think no way. The little baby stage was tough and he was a terrible sleeper but I could live with that. Now he knows what he's doing more and I guess can't control it. I was on the phone with my husband listing the antics of today and he got really upset like he knew I was upset with him but since he's so aware why doesn't he just stop acting up so much.

My pregnancy was really rough on me in terms of nausea, and i didnt even have it as bad as you--and we had a LOT of feeding and sleeping issues the first year (well the sleep ossues are still here at 23 months), but DH wanted another kid ASAP so we could get the infant years over with and eventually i just realized that if I was going to go through the illness again, i wanted to just get it over with.

The nausea was actuslly worse and longer than the first time, but I was more savvy about it this time around. The second i got my BFP, my doctor called in 3 prescriptions and i started on all of them the second the nausea hit--so although i was completely miserable from 5.5-23 weeks, it was more survivable.

And i keep telling myself i never have to do this again, and that helps!

It didn't change my number, and it didn't change the spacing between #1 and #2. Now that both have been colicky newborns, however (MSPI, yay), I won't be having a third anytime soon.

The first two are 22 months apart, and I'm happy that they will be close but I am freaking exhausted (they are now 5 months and 27 months).

I always say, thought, that I want children in spite of the baby phase, not because of it. Older baby, toddler, and beyond... so far, it's all great! I mean, sometimes challenging, but mostly super fun. First six months = horrific, at least for me.

Hang in there. It blissfully becomes a distant memory later. I sometimes catch myself watching videos or looking at picture of LO1 around 2 months, when he was a screaming banshee 95% of the time (and of course we only documented the 5% of the time that was pleasant) and feeling nostalgic.

I'm hoping to feel the same way with #2, but man, these are trying times

We're still deciding. We wanted 2 about 2 years apart when I was pregnant with LO. My pregnancy was fine and labor was difficult ending a c section with complications that leave me sort of terrified to ever do that again. Then there was the month of screaming and the feeding issues and the sleeping issues and the fact that LO has just generally been a needier baby than most it seems. On one hand it makes me feel like if I can love her so much even being this difficult then maybe #2 would be easier because odds are (hopefully) that kid would be easier. But the bigger hand says omg what if #2 is worse??? So i think we might be 1 and done lol.

@dc yoga bee: I had an HG pregnancy and a difficult high needs baby. We wanted 4 kids, and to try for each after a year. So we did that with our second, so I was pregnant with a second HG pregnancy with a one year old. The second HG pregnancy was worse, and it was much more difficult to be working, parenting a toddler, and having HG. It was such a bad experience that we decided not to have a 4th, and I am thinking we might wait until LO#2 is closer to 2 and a bit more independent before we try for a third.

My first pregnancy was rough and my daughter was high needs. I had to hold her all the time, she never slept, and wouldn't let anyone else watch her. I used to want four kids pre baby but changed to two after that. I actually switched my spacing preference from three years apart to two because I felt like if I starting sleeping again I would never have another baby and I really wanted two.

My first LO was really difficult, but I always knew I wanted 2. We are definitely done at two and you couldn't pay me to go for a third!

We always wanted 2, possibly even a 3rd later on through foster adopting or something. I don't know that DS changed that per se, but we've been batting around whether we should adopt our second. We'd always been open to adoption and every single thing about having this kid was hard. Like, it took us 3 years to get pregnant with DS with two MCs along the way, I had awful MS up until 6 months, then had a complete previa which put me on pins for the second half of the pregnancy, and then I had a failed 36 induction that led to a C-section. DS got jaundice badly, went to NICU, my milk didn't come in for a week, he had colic and reflux, he hated breastfeeding, and did not sleep or stop screaming for the first 11 weeks (I counted). I truly thought I would not survive the newborn stage. DS became less of a terrorist by 4 months and was tolerable by 6 months and I think around 8 months the thought of having another child didn't terrify quite so much. He's 10 months now and he's a cute, fun kid and we know what we need to do to keep him happy, but I don't know about going through all that again. I'm 34, so I don't have a whole lot of time, but I did take a full year off work with the idea that this could be my one and only shot at having that newborn/infant stage.

DS is 10 months now, so I think we'll see how we feel sometime next year.

Our plan was always for 3, maybe 4. I had a pretty easy pregnancy with DS, but he was an incredibly difficult newborn. For at least 6 months after he was born I felt like I didn't want any more children. But we fell into a groove and I turned out to be much more of a toddler person than I imagined (not saying they aren't difficult!) I am now pregnant with #2 only 3 months later than we originally planned - I wanted a little more time with my body to myself. If all goes to plan DS will be 27 months when this one is born. I would say don't put pressure on yourself to decide either way - give yourself time and just take it as it comes

We originally wanted at least one and possibly two, but were learning towards two. I had an easy pregnancy but between LO's near-colicky newborn days, the terrible sleep regressions, and almost a full year of elimination diet, DH and I were on the fence for another for awhile. Now that she is getting closer to 2 though, we are finally ready to go for it. I am hoping this time is a little easier actually since the first time was so rough (I feel like we are so much more experienced now). LO is definitely a toddler with toddler moments, but in general, she has a fun and spunky personality that I never would have predicted from the tough newborn days, so that helps.