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Exciting! It can definitely be a bit of a roller coaster and it's darn near impossible to tell you what to expect. I told myself I'd give us 3 months without opks or temping to see what happened and I didn't make it because it was too nerve wracking. That being said, we conceived the fifth month with my daughter, the first try wherever we tried for a second but then miscarried and then 4 months with my current pregnancy. Most people conceive within 6 months if they have decently timed intercourse.

One tip is be careful if you use lube since most aren't sperm friendly.

I'm crazy too and found OPKs more helpful especially if your cycle is regular. Temping just had too much room for error/interpretation! For my first, the first cycle I used OPKs and we did it the day I ovulated (I think), we got pregnant.

I like the Ovia app- just for tracking cycles in case you need it down the road. I vote sex every other day- that's how we got pregnant after 2 months. No OPKs or intense tracking (temping) is needed right away IMO. Just have sex and enjoy it and give yourself a couple months.

I also never used opks or temped or any of that because I'm waaay too much of a control freak and knew I'd drive myself crazy. FF or Ovia (used for different pregnancies) was close enough to help me estimate when I might be ovulating, and we just had lots of sex around that time (though 2/3 times that I got pregnant, I actually thought I'd missed my "fertile window," so it's def not exact!). TTC can be such a stressful experience, for me at least--I haaate uncertainty--so I definitely would have gone down a rabbit hole of obsessing even more than I already was if I was more actively charting!

I also read "Taking Charge of Your Fertility". I was charting in a half assed manner.

I know my mom really struggled to have us. Before me (her first) she had several miscarriages, one in the second trimester. The one thing DH and I discussed before TTC was how far we were willing to go. I didn't think I could handle that, and I definitely did not want to do any fertility treatments. We felt at the time that we would be good either way. It ended up not being an issue for us, but we discussed what we were willing to do and not do. I think that was important for us.

Also, when I got a positive pregnancy test, I immediately felt like I was in over my head and freaked out. I think my exact words, as I told my husband, were "what have we done!?!" DH wasn't exactly sure what to do. So. Maybe be prepared for that.