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I just posted something similar about unwanted kisses, but some of my center’s teachers are generally this affectionate with the children. Just this morning I addressed my concerns and preferences with the lead teacher. The convo was way more awkward for me than her. I encourage you too to talk with the teacher.

We had the opposite scenario - DD was wanting to kiss her teachers on the lips, so they taught her to do "nosie-nosie" (what we used to call Eskimo kisses) or kiss on the cheek. Shouldn't be awkward for daycare teachers to avoid passing germs, you'd think they would want to keep themselves healthy too!

I have no problem with this. My thought process is that I am super lucky to have these women who care for my boys on a daily basis love my kids so much.

Mouth kisses-absolutely not. Forced kisses-no way. Cheek kisses or forehead- totally fine as long as DD is happy with it. What bugs me more is one of her teachers wears perfume and she always comes home smelling like it. DD is my first kid too but this is her 3rd year at the school.

@youboots: Yea this. Mouth and forced, no bueno. But if she’s just kissing cheeks and forehead and he’s not upset by it (crying, trying to move away, etc) I don’t care. I’d be glad that she loves him and that he is comfortable with it.

I’ve never seen it happen in my daycare, and I’d probably be weirded out same as you with my first. But, in the preschool room (age 1-3) my daughter got lots of snuggles and hugs etc. She is now in the pre-k (she’s 4) room where the teachers are not as affectionate. I really think she misses it and she definitely has not bonded with those teachers like she did with the preschool ones. All that to say, that I would be ok with it now - I think it helped her feel more secure and cared for when I was away. So I wouldn’t want to undermine that (unless it was mouth kisses or unwanted kisses, like PP have said)

@Aspen: Someone else just posted about day care teachers kissing their kid and I’ll say the same thing I told her. I have worked in day cares and preschools and the thought never crossed my mind to kiss one of the kids. Nor have I ever witnessed it and if I did I would give a serious side eye. In my opinion, this is super weird and totally inappropriate. I feel like if anyone should be giving kisses, it’s parents and maybe other family members or close friends, if it’s okay with the child and parents. Second, there’s enough germ spreading going on in child care facilities, there should not be kidding to add to that. I guess my option is strong but if it was my kid, I’d be really put off.

@turquoisemama: this may be a cultural thing. I live in the south and have worked in centers and am certain I have probably kissed babies on the head. Definitely not the lips. I would have totally understood though if it was weird to a parent and would have respected their wishes.

As a parent what you described wouldn't bother me at all, as long as the child was comfortable.

I would not be comfortable and would definitely bring it up. It's both a boundary and a germ issue for me.