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I have absolutely zero tips - only here to commiserate. 1st tri makes CRAZY I MEAN CRAZZZZY. Hugs!

@ladybee: Sorry I don't remember how soon the heartbeat can be heard with the Doppler. I only remember one particular crazy episode of anxiety ~16 wks before we went on a cruise and I know I used the Doppler then but I don't remember if that was the earliest.

As for symptoms disappearing, mine randomly disappeared ~10 wks and I freaked out too but my ob said not to overthink it. He said the presence of symptoms or lack of symptoms does not have anything to do with a healthy baby/pregnancy.

Hang in there.

I can commiserate. I also have issues with anxiety. The usual cognitive behavior therapy exercises have worked well for me -- writing out what you are afraid of, what evidence there is for this outcome happening, how likely it is, what evidence there is for it not occurring and how likely that is.

I eventually just had to decide that right NOW I am pregnant, and I might as well enjoy that. If something bad happens, I can deal with it then. There's no sense ruining such a happy time with "what ifs". For the most part this has worked well for me, and I have really loved being pregnant so far.

Chiming in to say I understand! Unfortunately I have no tips...it was really hard for me to make it from the positive pregnancy test to the dating ultrasound at just past 8 weeks and I only had it so I could confirm a heartbeat. I found out at 4 weeks so that month was horrible. I got by, and by got by I mean I coasted until my first midwife appointment at 10 weeks, by essentially pretending it wasn't happening. That's probably not the best idea, but I was so anxious about it and thinking about all the bad things that I couldn't talk about it. My husband and I didn't talk about the baby until 16 weeks when we got a good listen on the doppler at the midwife. So 3 months of denial was my technique I guess, which was weird because I thought I would be ecstatic all the time. Anxiety does weird things to you though.

It's too early for you to use your doppler or for the doctor to. Don't worry yourself by trying to. I think they say after 12 weeks a professional should be able to find it. My midwife found it for literally 1 second at just before 12 weeks and then a bit easier at 16 weeks.

So my only advice is talk to someone, at least one person if you want to. Take the advice of people saying use the mantra "today I am pregnant" and countdown to appointments, that made it easier for me. Find something to distract yourself from thinking about your pregnancy.

I had a few weeks of no symptoms which makes you feel really uncomfortable.

Hang in there! I am nearing the third trimester and the anxiety comes and goes, but is far less now than it was in the beginning for me.

Only 4 weeks until you get to see your little one! I didn't do that 12 week scan...next time I will for my sanity. I used my doppler at 16 weeks-18 weeks and then sent it back.

Oh, also, all over the internet it says once you hear/see a heartbeat it makes it far more likely everything is going to stay good.