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  1. SweetiePie

    honeydew / 7463 posts

    @bubblegum: you need to go over to the justnomil subReddit.
    https://www.reddit.com/r/JUSTNOMIL/

  2. bubblegum

    pear / 1717 posts

    @snowjewelz: YES! I'm so excited for her.

    @SweetiePie: Omg!!! These stories!!! I just read the "is it stalk week?" and am amazed as too how familiar this sounds!!

  3. SweetiePie

    honeydew / 7463 posts

    @bubblegum: Right?! There are two women I have to share with you. They will either help you see how serious these toxic situations will become - or it'll have you thanking your lucky stars that it's not this bad.

    This one is a doozie. I recommend starting from the beginning (very bottom and working up to "last will and testament")

    https://www.reddit.com/user/hedgehogsdontshare

    And this one I actually heard about on HB, I think. ETA: just realized its not justnoMIL, but everyone commented that it should be in that sub so I got confused.

    https://www.reddit.com/r/beyondthebump/comments/5xqy4q/mil_basically_kidnapped_my_baby/

  4. bubblegum

    pear / 1717 posts

    @SweetiePie: I did read the one that was on HB a month ago or so about the MIL kidnapping the baby. I wanted to throw up! The other one though is CRAZY!!!! I'm very grateful that I have the full support of DH and he doesn't easily fall for MIL games. Just a few months ago he spoke to her about the BS she was trying to pull with me while I was 9 months pregnant and she tried to flip the script and talk about how he's a horrible son for not reaching out to her. Thankfully he shut her down and was told her that's no the reason for this call and they can discussion that another day. HOWEVER, what sucks about MIL being the way she is, is that DH's entire family on her side minus SIL sides with her ALWAYS. Beyond annoying.

  5. Coral

    clementine / 874 posts

    @bubblegum: So hopeful for your SIL! She really does deserve this joy in her life. I hope that motherhood inspires her to put up healthy boundaries and to value herself more.

  6. bubblegum

    pear / 1717 posts

    @Coral: Thank you! I agree!! I think this will show her the true amazingness of a child and mother relationship

  7. youboots

    honeydew / 7622 posts

    @bubblegum: seriously becoming a parent made me furious at mine for all the crap the pulled/ignored.

  8. bubblegum

    pear / 1717 posts

    @youboots: I totally understand!

  9. 2littlepumpkins

    grapefruit / 4455 posts

    @bubblegum: that's madness. If I were your SIL I would not accept that and cut her off especially from the kids.

  10. bubblegum

    pear / 1717 posts

    @2littlepumpkins: I totally agree but I know SIL and she won't do that. I understand it's her mom but her mom has always been so harsh with her.

  11. erinbaderin

    pomelo / 5573 posts

    @bubblegum: How is the baby - did her levels come back ok? Fingers crossed!

  12. bubblegum

    pear / 1717 posts

    @erinbaderin: So her the levels did double from the last time which we're soooo thrilled about. She has an appt early August which seems so far but we're hopeful all goes well between now and then. I was hoping they would take her in for an ultrasound but nothing so far.

  13. erinbaderin

    pomelo / 5573 posts

    @bubblegum: Yay! That's fantastic news, thanks for the update!

  14. bubblegum

    pear / 1717 posts

    @erinbaderin: Of course love! Thanks for asking

  15. bubblegum

    pear / 1717 posts

    Update on SIL: She's currently bleeding, enough to fill a pantyliner and she's currently wearing a pad. She was bleeding last night, went to the ER and they said all was fine but because she has a DR appt today, they didn't run any blood tests. I was super annoyed when she told me today that they basically talked her out of getting blood tests. Praying when she sees her DR, everything is okay.

  16. snowjewelz

    wonderful kiwi / 23653 posts

    @bubblegum: Oh no... Prayers for her

  17. Mrs. Lion

    blogger / grapefruit / 4836 posts

    So scary ❤ I hope everything is okay.

  18. bubblegum

    pear / 1717 posts

    @snowjewelz: @Mrs. Lion: Thank you ladies

  19. bubblegum

    pear / 1717 posts

    UPDATE: SIL loss the baby. thank you to all the ladies who kept her in their prayers and thoughts. Please continue to think of her during this trying time.

  20. Mrs. Lion

    blogger / grapefruit / 4836 posts

    Oh I am so sorry Such sad news how is your SIL? Is she staying away from MIL? 😞

  21. birdofafeather

    pineapple / 12053 posts

    @bubblegum: so sorry for her loss.

  22. Adira

    wonderful pomelo / 30692 posts

    @bubblegum: Such sad news. I'm so sorry for your SIL. Hope she's taking care of herself.

  23. bubblegum

    pear / 1717 posts

    @Mrs. Lion: She seems to be okay. I personally think that everyone is down playing it and that's why she's being so quite and "okay" about it. I really hope she's able to grieve, speak freely about her emotions and have a great support system. I doubt that she's staying away from her mom. I didn't ask because I didn't want to stir the pot. But I'm sure her mom isn't making things easier.

    @birdofafeather: @Adira: Thank you ladies.

  24. snowjewelz

    wonderful kiwi / 23653 posts

    @bubblegum: omgoodness, I am so so sorry I hope your MIL can be supportive at such a difficult time.

  25. bubblegum

    pear / 1717 posts

    @snowjewelz: Thank you. I really really hope so too!

  26. Coral

    clementine / 874 posts

    @bubblegum: I'm so sorry for her loss.

  27. 2PeasinaPod

    pomelo / 5524 posts

    @bubblegum: I'm so sorry to hear. You know this because you've had a miscarriage, but she'll need support even though she's telling everyone she's fine. I told everyone I was fine too because I felt ashamed. Inside I was dying.

    As for your MIL, she sounds exactly like my mom. I had dealt with her treating me similarly my entire life, and I finally snapped just before LO2 was born. We didn't speak for over 6 months, until she finally came around and realized that she needed to change, because I wasn't changing my boundaries. It was the best thing I ever did for myself. As someone who had to figure that out for myself, I'd advise letting your SIL and your DH set those boundaries with your support. They have to be able to come to those terms when they're ready.

  28. bubblegum

    pear / 1717 posts

    @2PeasinaPod: Exactly! She's down playing it 100%. It's the worst feeling and the blame you put on yourself is even worst.

    Oh without a doubt!!! I tell DH all the time, I can't do this for you. As much as it pains me to see him go through his and well as his sister, it's up to them to make ask for the change they want to see in their mother. Good for you for putting your foot down! I can only imagine how difficult it is when it's your own mother.

  29. bubblegum

    pear / 1717 posts

    @Coral: Thanks love!

  30. Mrs. Lion

    blogger / grapefruit / 4836 posts

    @bubblegum: ❤❤❤

  31. 2littlepumpkins

    grapefruit / 4455 posts

    @bubblegum: I'm so sorry to hear about her loss. T&p to her.

  32. bubblegum

    pear / 1717 posts

    @2littlepumpkins: Thank you love!

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