Did any of you see this Reddit thread?
https://www.reddit.com/r/beyondthebump/comments/5xqy4q/mil_basically_kidnapped_my_baby/
I'm enraged that the husband doesn't think this is a big deal. I can't even imagine going through that. This poor woman 
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WTF!! I would never speak to my MIL again.
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OMG!!! I could feel this raising my blood pressure. That poor mama!!
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If this were me, someone would end up in jail. Either my MIL, or me, for murdering her. My MIL once had my daughter and got ahead of us in a kid's museum and didn't wait for us so it took us 30 minutes to track them down and I was IRATE, so I can only imagine what I would do in this situation.
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Whoa! That takes the cake of outlandish crazy things MILs do and that their children (usually husbands) think is okay. Not okay!
I can only imagine the sheer panic that mother felt. Not finding your baby in the bed/ room where you left your baby is scary AF.
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Holy freaking crap. I've had moments where DD1 wasn't in her bed but she's 4 and can get out so I knew to look for her somewhere but still panicked. I don't even know how I would recover from not finding my baby in her crib and then finding out it was my MIL. Awful.
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I can't even imagine the panic at waking up and finding your 4 week old missing. I can't believe she hasn't called the police... MIL or not, that's kidnapping.
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Omg. I would have called the police and had them go over with me to get the baby!! I don't blame her for not wanting to go back home. I would never speak to my MIL again. That poor woman.
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I've been talking about this in some of my mom facebook groups all morning. Holy hell. I don't know how/if I would recover from thinking my baby is gone. He's been in his own room for a couple weeks, and I have this fear that he'll get snatched in the night. I check the monitor multiple times throughout the night. A) I would not have let my husband go alone to get the baby B) I would have still called the cops and filed a police report -- start a paper trail and document things! and C) If my husband didn't understand the gravity, we'd have SERIOUS issues.
ETA: Also, she HAD FORMULA in her house to feed the baby. This was planned. Who knows for how long. Wtf.
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This story is horrific! I can't even imagine the sheer terror that this woman went through when her child was missing! I absolutely would never speak to MIL again and file a police report/restraining order. If that meant my husband and I got divorced because of that, so be it. There's no way our marriage would be able to survive if he sided with MIL over me in this situation.
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That poor woman. I'm really glad all of the comments have been supportive and no one told her she was over reacting because she's not. She's really, really not.
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OMG!!!! I would've had her arrested!! Call the cops on her ass and NEVER see her again! EVER!
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What a nightmare this woman is going through. I feel sick for her.
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Omg. I cannot imagine. I would lose my mind.
This poor mom
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Holy Crap! What an awful situation! I would have reacted just like she did, that is insane!
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OMFG... I would call the police on her. that is completely UNACCEPTABLE. this makes me so mad.
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First, I am relieved to find that the baby is safe. Also I am glad to see the update that she's taking further steps to appropriately deal with the incident.
Second, omg. What is wrong with that woman! I do not think it's an overreaction to consider divorce after this incident and certainly not one at all to never see the MIL again.
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I'm so glad she walked out and got a hotel room. I so hope she takes legal action because that is not okay. I hope the post doesn't blow up too much because it seems like a unique situation and she created a new account for privacy.
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I cannot believe her husband. It doesn't matter if it is family coming into your home while you're asleep to take your newborn
. It is wrong and illegal and I'd be getting a hotel too.
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Holy crap. Reading her first post is bringing back some PTSD from when my MIL nearly wrecked our marriage when our first was born. I didn't go as far as leaving, but I nearly got a separate bank account and plotted ways to leave because of the immense stress and anxiety I was under when my MIL visited and caused all hell to break loose. I remember feeling like I was crazy when in fact it was my MIL whose bonkers. That incident pretty much ended a MIL/DIL relationship she wanted. I protect myself from her emotionally and won't let her hurt me like that ever again.
With all that said, I can relate completely to how the mom felt. I would have flipped my crap too if my baby wasn't in the crib where I put them. All of that stress lead to me sleeping on the couch with my baby nearby for months before transitioning to a crib. I think it's partly why I can hear the kids crying long before my husband. I was already a light sleeper before kids and it's even more so. Yeah, that thread brings back so many feels of what happened with my own MIL.
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@codeitall: My husband reacted similar to this husband. He didn't see anything wrong with how his mom was behaving either. It's like a brainwashing or something. It took counseling for him to understand how she behaves isn't normal. There's been some progress on him seeing the flaws of his parents especially his mom. I remember the one time that his brother said that his mom wouldn't hurt anyone. I had to stifle laughter and eye rolling.
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holy crap.... I would literally never speak to my MIL again, I would have a had a locksmith and alarm company out at my home immediately and I would have 100% called 911 even if the baby was "returned." I would also be having my DH move out until was on the same page.
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I would have filed a police report (in the hopes that charges would be pressed-sometimes you can't control that), filed/applied for a restraining order against MIL, and, seriously consider filing for divorce (but custody is an issue, and if he has visitation, then MIL could get access again without Mama's knowledge). What a fucked up situation. Nuclear would be a flattering description of my reaction.
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Well, this certainly puts any of my complaints about my in laws into perspective.
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I wanted to puke just reading that story. That makes me RAGE. WTF was that woman thinking??! And yeah, Hubs would be sleeping at his mommy's house if he defended that shit. 'DA FUUUUUCCCKKKK......
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This made me feel physically ill while I was reading it. I cannot imagine the horror this mother went through to go to your child's room and have them not there. That is every parent's worst nightmare and that this MIL willingly put her DIL (and her own son - what if he had been the first to wake up and find his baby missing?) through that is so messed up.
I don't think its an overreaction for her to consider divorce. My DH is an only child and defers to his mom and gives her total pass on a lot (A LOT) but he would no question cut off contact over something like this. Completely unacceptable to break into someone's home and steal their baby. If that's even an open question for your spouse; there is some serious issues there.
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also hard to overstate my frustration that her husband and MIL are basically teaming up to call her hormonal and make her feel like she is overreacting. that is a seriously fucked up thing to do--she may be dealing with hormones too, but her totally sane reaction to her MIL's objectively UNACCEPTABLE and ATROCIOUS actions is not about her hormones. ugh. so glad her mom is coming in to give her some actual support.
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This is horrifying. I'm not sure how Reddit works, will it be a new post if she updates? I hope she has a restraining order by now.
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This makes me sick. She should have called the police right away and have them recover her baby. It's illegal to take a baby from the parents, I don't care who the f*** you think you are. And her husband should be on her side. What a loser. My heart goes out to her so much.
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Holy hell. I had PPA, and this was a legitimate fear of mine. I can't believe this MIL had the nerve to do this. It honestly would make me want to vomit if that happened to me. And I can't believe that her husband isn't on her side. Good for her for getting a restraining order against her. I agree that making a decision on whether to stay married to her husband shouldn't be made right now without some therapy, but man, it would be tough for me to get past this.
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Oh my....WTF?! I am so horrified for what she went through!
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One time we had my parens staying over and in the middle of the night DS woke up and when I looked on the camera I saw hands reaching in to get him. DH was right next to me and for a good few seconds I had sheer panic. I ran out of our room to find it was my mom, lol. In my groggy state I'd forgotten someone else might've gotten him. But for that moment I was in such a panic. I can't even imagine how it feels to actually find your child gone and not know where they went. I think that's every here's worst nightmare
. And to find out it's your MIL...oh heads would roll.
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@cascademom: That's understandable because they grew up in an environment where they were raised to think it was normal behavior. My husband had to talk to someone else who was in a similar situation for him to see it. He learned different tools on how to deal with it from a therapist.
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I read the update and I hope the MIL goes to jail. I feel like the husband needs therapy. He doesn't realize how bad the mom brainwashed him.
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Seriously wtf! Who would do something like that and who would think that was ok?! The MIL should seriously have been arrested. You cannot just take a baby from their crib in the middle of the night and take them to your house! That poor woman! I'm so glad that she posted on the internet so that she could hear that she's not the crazy one here!
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OMG.
That is literal, actual kidnapping. I hope she presses charges!
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Wow. Just wow. She has some serious restraint not going over to get the baby herself. I would have insisted on going.
I'm furious on her behalf. That minute of thinking your baby was GONE??? Pure torture.
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Omfg my mother in law already annoying the living fuck out of me on a regular basis, if she pulled anything like this I might of legitimately killed her. I would have called the police anyway just to get this on record..there is no relationship worth salvaging once you kidnap someone's baby.
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just reading this made me want to barf, I cannot even fathom someone doing this and trying to pass it off as "helping" WTF!
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@FancyGem: I didn't see the update...what did she say?
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