I don't really know what I'm looking for here, just hopefully some people who will understand, or who can say good things about your boys even if you don't really understand.

I know it's stupid to try to have any expectations over this sort of thing, but I always pictured myself as a mom to girls. When I found out my first was a boy I had some disappointment and worries about relating to and connecting with him - of course, those fears turned out to be totally unfounded, he's amazing and I wouldn't trade him for the world! But I guess I was holding out hope for a little sister someday and, well...you can probably see where I'm going with this. Just had an ultrasound for #2 and found out I'm expecting another little boy. I know I'll love him just as much as I do my son, but two kids is our limit, so this means I'm never going to have a daughter...and I'm struggling with that more than I'd like to admit. Feeling awful about that because I know I'm so lucky to have two healthy babies, but I'm pretty sad about knowing I'll never get to experience the other side of a mother/daughter relationship.

What helped if you've been in this situation? Is it easier once the second LO arrives? DH was kinda bummed too but quickly got over it (we just found out today) and is sure it will be fine. I'm more worried that on some level I'm always going to wish I'd had a daughter at some point. Is that totally ridiculous? I kind of hate myself for this post.