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Ugh, that is soooooo frustrating! I got comments like this from my SIL and it was so annoying!

If you can't just ignore her, can you say something like "The World Health Organization recommends nursing until 2 or later and I plan to follow that recommendation until the baby and I choose to stop. I don't need your opinions about it anymore."

@CatchAFallingStar: Yeah, I agree with pp's that since she's been so persistent with the comments, if you feel comfortable doing it, I would also say something along the lines of what @adira: or @meganmp: said. Basically, you've made your opinion known for a really long time. We just have to agree to disagree and please don't bring it up again.

I'd personally be very blunt with her the next time she made a comment.... something like
"I'm well aware of your position on bf'ing and I'm aware it wasn't for you, however I feel differently and your comments will not change that and quite frankly they make me uncomfortable so please stop, k? Thanks"

If you’re not comfortable being super blunt/confrontational I would direct your comment to your baby in a sing songy/baby talk way and say something like “Oh, well we know better now, don’t we sweetie? Yes we do, yes we do!”

Or you could address your MIL directly but kind of make a sarcastic joke like “Haha, well kids used to ride around in the floorboards too but now we know better!”

But to answer your question, yes I would tell my husband If it’s something that’s bothering you.

@CatchAFallingStar: I have found that this is cultural and cyclical. There was time maybe 20 to 30 years ago where things like breastfeeding, cloth diapering and midwives were thought to be not as sophisticated options as formula, disposable diapers and OBGYNs. My mom has such a love for formula and says she never trusts that breastmilk is really filing up the baby [eye roll] I try to educate her and overtime she is changing her views slightly.
For a MIL situation it is trickier can you DH talk with her about being a bit more respectful of your choices? Even if she doesnt agree with them she should respect them

Had you ever said that to her directly before? If she still keeps at it, I agree with pp, just bluntly answer her questions. But also know that well educated women can have many reasons for not loving bf or thinking it wouldn't be enjoyable... I would keep those comments focused on this is what's happening (matter of fact) and not get caught up in why, personally.

I personally wouldn't approach it in a passive aggressive way or sarcastic way, as that would feel hurtful if someone dealt with me that way. I'd decide how to handle if based on what kind of relationship you want to have with your MIL. If you're not concerned with having a close relationship with her or don't think that's possible, I'd just ignore it, or handle it like you have been- responding to the question honestly and letting it drop and minimizing the times you spend with her where it could come up. If you're interested in being closer, I'd say something like @meganmp: recommended, which is neutral but honest. Maybe add something like "I know you don't mean to, but your commentary really makes me feel like you're judging choices I've made clear and am committed to. It's starting to bother me and I'd really appreciate if you could stop, since I'm sure that's not your intention."

I also agree with @meganmp: 's response.

My mom let me know that her own mother (they're both nurses) bound her boobs to help her milk dry up because formula was so easy and (at the time) thought to be "better" than breast milk.

Think about how sure you are that breast is best. That's how sure you MIL is that formula is better. It's a no-win situation.

I'd let your MIL know that she is making you uncomfortable. That you've chosen how your child will be fed for now, and it's not an open discussion. If she continues to judge your methods, you'll choose to not feed the baby around her, which will limit her time with the baby.

If you need to, get DH on board. But maybe if you frame it as being related to the time she gets to see the baby, she might realize how it could affect her relationship?

I skipped reading the comments.

I would tell her once, clearly, that this is not her call, the comments are unwelcome, and how you choose to feed your baby is none of her business. Then end the conversation or visit each time she brings it up again.

She is being unsupportive. Breastfeeding is hard and requires a lot of support. I personally would not make room for someone who can’t respect or support my choices. Parenting is hard enough as it is!

Sigh. Man oh man..... I don't know what I would say to be honest. I'd like to think I'd give her a piece of my mind. The reality is that I'd probably just keep saying stuff in a polite way like, "I've decided to nurse." "My doctor doesn't recommend solids at this age." Or, in all honesty, I would just not nurse around her and I'd leave the room when I did want to nurse - not because I would feel uncomfortable nursing but because I wouldn't want to hear it and I'd rather be alone with my baby than around someone like that.