We're still TTC for our second baby, so this is all very hypothetical right now, but it's been on my mind lately.

LO was born during a blizzard that shut everything down for a week, so I was fortunate to have DH home to help me for the first week. DH was only working part time while waiting to be bumped up to a higher position, so while money was really tight, it was great having him only working 20 hours a week so he could help with the baby. We didn't have any outside help, but we managed.

I'm having a hard time envisioning how we're going to take care of a newborn and 2.5 year old with DH working full time (he gets no paternity leave) and no help from our parents. I do stay home full time, so I'm thankful I don't have to worry about going back to work, but we can't afford a nanny, daycare, etc. because of my choice to stay home. Plus, I have a health condition that prevents me from giving birth vaginally, so I'll be recovering from a c-section.

I remember those early days where neither of us were getting any sleep and we walked around like zombies...I can't imagine adding a toddler to that mix (particularly since we don't do TV). Is it realistic to expect to be able to do it all myself? I'm sure DH will help some when he's home, but he can't be up all hours of the night with work the next day. Have you been there? Would you do it again or do you regret not trying to find a different solution?