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I think you have to do what you need to do, and if that means writing the full work up, you should do it. Information is power.

I remember when I toured daycares for my 2 year old and I saw all the kids sitting for story time on their little piece of tape with their name on it. I was like haha, this isn't happening, but lo and behold, it did!

DD is in preschool with an IEP for speech. She goes m-f from 730 a 2. Totally understand you fears and they are all ok to have! DD is also in a classroom with half "typical" kids her age and half with IEPs. She received speech 2 times a week for 30 minutes each in a group setting with anywhere from 1 to 3 other children. When we started I gave them a quick rundown on DD on their questionare and in person when we went for the introduction. We have hit a few speed bumps along the way, she started last August. Just make sure to voice any concerns you have right away if/ when they come up. Don't let it stew, the teachers need the feedback. some of DDs teachers are great but there are a couple that maybe forget not all of the children are typical in terms of speech and behavior. DD definitely gravitates towards the teachers that allow her the time she needs to think and process instead of expecting her to immediately respond.
Just being in the preschool with all of the kids has helped DD so much with her speech! She has really taken to the schedule they keep and how they do things. School makes things fun and makes things like sitting still for a story easier for kids. And they always take into account each child's needs and adapt from there.
I think the kids have all been more accepting of the difference between all the kids than the teachers though. Older adults, even teachers sometimes forget it's ok to be different. We have one teacher who had hit a couple of hot buttons for me on this point. But DD picks up on these things too and like I said she gravitates to the other teachers
Sorry to ramble. Just wanted to say I am sure your DS will do great! I don't think the teachers are bothered by the individual information on the children. I would expect them to know everything by heart of what you are telling them. But I think the more info the better. It has worked both ways for us. The school has given DD ways to cope and deal with behavioral issues that we had not tried and really work for her!

No kid does well at the beginning, even the kids who don't have special needs. As a teacher/childcare worker, I would have loved to receive as much information as possible so it's great that you are planning to do that. I think it's great that you're going to put him in a preschool program; it will probably be amazing for him! You might have a bumpy ride at the beginning, but it sounds like it's a pretty good place based on your observations so go all in! You always have the option to pull out if the poop hits the fan. I'm a big believer in socialization for young kids-it's going to be good for your kid and the others in the class and don't worry about the classroom dynamic changing based on him coming in. Your kid is not the only one bringing some added character to the class, guaranteed.

My son, who has been complication-free and did not require EI, behaves 1,000 times better at school than he does for me at home. He totally ignores me most of the time, and in all the photos they send from daycare he participates just like the other kids.

I have no idea what challenges your son faces, but I don't think you should assume that he will behave in a classroom identically to the way he behaves at home. Peer pressure is an amazing thing. And he's spent his entire life testing your limits, but a teacher is a brand new stranger so he has no idea what he'll be allowed to get away with.

I've spent 11 years as an Early Childhood Special Education teacher in preschools and Early Intervention, all your thoughts, questions, concerns, etc...are very normal! Every mama goes through this. First thing, if you just visited the school yesterday then you have to take into account that probably the majority of the children you saw have been in the school since the beginning of the school year so they've had months of experience and practice!! The first few days and weeks can be challenging for ANY child, needs or not. It takes time for everyone to get to know each other and adjust to new routine and expectations. In kind and respectful ways, definitely communicate as much as possible to the team and teachers that will be working with your kiddo. They may think you're nuts but you know him best and therefore are his best advocate. That being said, also respect their years of experience and that school is a very different environment from home so what works in one environment might not work in a different one. Transitioning to school is a growing process for everyone, kiddos and their families. I wouldn't worry too much about the other children. Young children are absolutely notorious for saying whatever they think but at the same time, they are most often incredibly accepting. In my years of experience I've worked in classroom with so many children with such significant needs, physical deformities, etc...and yes children will mention it, talk about it, but that's ok. They're trying to learn and process through the world around them. It's so beautiful as a teacher to watch though, you just explain to them why so and so can't talk, walk, see, etc...and how we are all different but still so similar. Almost 100% of the time the kiddos with questions just say "ok" and move on. They just needed to have an answer, shushing them or not talking about it often creates unnecessary fears because then they get a sense that something is "wrong" if no one will talk about it. Kids are so intuitive! In the classrooms I've worked in we often talk about the classroom being a community and a community works together. This helps teach empathy on all sides and if someone needs a little extra support or needs to do something a different way to access the environment, so often it's the other kiddos stepping up to meet the need. One more thing, if you are currently using specific tools such as apps, visuals, schedules or anything to help with communication and behavior, ask the school if you can bring in an extra set for them to use initially. I've had a number of parents do that and it can be very helpful for a child to initially see familiar tools. Best of luck! And with such a supportive mama, I'm sure your little guy will do great.

I work in the evaluation process with kindergarten students and preschoolers with ieps who receive services. Integrated pre school settings are great! As someone who has seen children who have not been exposed to school settings versus those who have been in preschool there is a huge difference! If you weren't worried. I would say you weren't doing your job as a mom. But it's going to hugely beneficial for your child! Research shows earlier exposure and services really benefits kids with ieps. I wish you the best in your journey!

No advice, I just wanted to tell you, you're doing a great job mama!