IF you are planning on sending your child to private shool, why?
squash / 13764 posts
We are debating it...mainly because our zoned public school, while very good, is very overcrowded/lacks a lot of the resources private schools have and as of right now, there is no guarantee LO would even get in there. If we did private, I would want to do it for elementary and middle and switch to a city public/specialized school for high school.
ETA preschool will be private because public pre k is very hard to get into. And of course the downside for private schools is the cost, and it's also very difficult to get into private schools!
pear / 1809 posts
DH went to private school K-12, and he has strong feelings about our children attending private school. We both agree that private school offers more opportunities and variety as far as classes go, they often have superior equipment (like in science labs), and the student to teacher ratio is lower. We live in a large city, so there are several top private schools to choose from, but it is competitive to get in.
coconut / 8279 posts
Right now J's in a private preschool because the schedule is more accommodating than the public preschool - they have an afternoon session from 1pm-5pm, where the public school is like 9:15-11:45.
They also took him in at 2.9 years and not "if 2.9 by September 1st".
I'm not sure what we're going to do when he's ready for Kindergarten but we have a few years to think about it.
pineapple / 12566 posts
While we live abroad, our LOs will go to private school because of the language. We want them to be educated in a language we speak at home.
pomelo / 5237 posts
We moved to a good school district so LO will go public but my parents sent me to a private high school. There were more classes, activities and better equipment at the public high school but it was not safe.
pomegranate / 3314 posts
I'm sending LO to Catholic school for two reasons: 1) I attended Catholic school and had a wonderful experience and 2) our city schools are not very good.
eggplant / 11861 posts
I am a teacher but think if I would send my DD to public school or not!
My only reason is public schools try very hard to main stream all students which in many cases is good, but with extreme behavior issues I think is not!
I have seen and been involved where the situation is well not ok!
I believe private school would not allow such behavior and it would not be tolerated as long as it is in public schools!
But in my district public schools to me education wise ROCK
hostess / wonderful persimmon / 25556 posts
We will send LO to private school if we stay in our current house because the public schools suck.
pineapple / 12793 posts
Our public school is very good, but we may send the girls to private for high school for better resources. DH went to boarding school and had so many incredible experiences and has lifelong friends with influential connections that have served him well into adulthood.
apricot / 419 posts
We sent our DD to Catholic school. We had just moved to SLC and we are not LDS (or Catholic) and we had read some crazy things online about non-LDS kids in public schools. We also didn't know where we were going to live so we had no idea about the school district. My husband toured this school and liked it so we decided to go Catholic school. We can afford private school right now but it will be a year by year decision for us. I went to public schools so I have no issue with them.
cantaloupe / 6610 posts
DD1 is going to a private preschool in the fall...It's the pre-K feed for a private school, but she will go to public school once she gets to kindergarten. We live in an area with phenomenal public schools, and really high real estate prices, so when we built our house, we paid more than we would have somewhere else, but we looked at it like we were putting the money toward our property instead of toward tuition, as opposed to paying less to live in a less desirable school area, and then paying a ton for tuition bc our LOs would have to attend private school. So we decided to kind of pay it forward by investing in the real estate where our kids could attend public.
DD is going to the private preK just because I know it's an excellent program and I had put her on the wait list when we first moved here...She finally got in, but it was my first choice so I didn't really invest too much energy looking at other programs bc I knew this one is the best.
wonderful pear / 26210 posts
I am still not sure what our official plan is for my son's education. More long term, for sure, he will not attend the high school of the town we live in. I really want him to attend an IB school.
grapefruit / 4110 posts
We tried to get him into private school this year. The reasons where that I was working there so our schedules could match and they have a programming/robotics curriculum throughout. Which he shows a talent and interest in ( nurtured strongly by us). We are moving to a new town and haven't found a non religiously affiliated private school for him there.
pineapple / 12802 posts
I'm not entirely sure. Our options are public, catholic, or charter. We can't afford a full on private school, but the charter school in our area actually seems like a very decent school. When the time comes, if we can swing it financially, we'll be trying out the charter school.
We're not religious, and I grew up attending catholic schools; I don't want that for my LO. Our two older kids are in the public system and it is lacking. We've tried getting them into other, specialized schools, but their mother will have none of that (???). So, I feel like, if we can make it work, the charter school is our best option for L.
squash / 13208 posts
@.twist.: are charter schools not free where you live?
grapefruit / 4455 posts
If we stay in the same city we will probably go the private school route because the school system here is pretty bad. But we don't have it figured out yet by any means.
@Mamaof2: Nope. There are annual fees. At least for the one I'm looking into.
persimmon / 1313 posts
DH and I both went to private school and I loved it. Most of my friends also went to private schools in different places and we all enjoyed several aspects of it. I also dislike the public school system here immensely. We are in a great area for what it's worth but I really like the curriculum of the private school here.
pomegranate / 3981 posts
If we stay where we are we will need to enter the charter lottery or go private. The alternative would be to move to a better school district out in the suburbs. Not a fan of either choice at the moment.
grapefruit / 4817 posts
DS is currently in a private preschool and will continue until kindergarten because our county doesn't offer public preschool. We're hoping he'll test into one of the (2) public charter school's for elementary, but if he doesn't, we're considering private. The school we're zoned for is ok, but I'd prefer a more rigorous curriculum. And I'll be pushing hard for a private middle school, because middle school is tough stuff and the school he's zoned for is a hot mess. There are no charter options for middle, so we'll likely end up in private then, if we're not already in it. High School will depend on a few factors, so we'll just see when the time comes.
GOLD / wonderful coffee bean / 18478 posts
We are choosing a private school for its more rigorous curriculum.
wonderful cherry / 21504 posts
It really depends on where we end up living by then. We are in the city now and schools are so so, for elementary at least, but the zoning / assignment system is crazy so we wouldn't know what school she would be going to until spring of the year before she starts. We are open to that or the local catholic school for the first couple of years, if we are still in the city.
Then we will be weighing the cost of a house in a great school district vs private school and a house in a less great district. I think id rather go public in a great district but we haven't started that research yet.
pomegranate / 3113 posts
We bought a house in a neighborhood with two consistently highly-rated public schools (one K-5 and one K-8). We're walking distance to the K-8 and assumed our kid(s) would go there. However, as DD is growing up and I'm looking more into educational philosophies, I'm becoming increasingly uncomfortable with the public system (not public school generally or the teachers themselves, just the laserlike focus on standardized testing and lack of exploration, individuality, and sense of wonder -- especially at young ages). I REALLY would prefer to send her to a play-based kindergarten, at least. After that, I think the best school for her would depend on her personality and abilities. It would kill me to have to take her all the way across the city for school instead of down the street if we decide to go private, but I guess we'd do it if we need to...but we wouldn't be able to afford two kids in private school so this is really only a consideration if we decide to be one and done.
pomegranate / 3565 posts
My boys will go to catholic school. Their father and I both grew up in the catholic school system. I like the values they provide. Plus, the public schools are lacking in my area.
pomegranate / 3127 posts
I'd seriously consider it if DH was on board. Of the 8 young people in my family that went through the NYC public school system, I am the only one who graduated college. One of us is still in school, one has turned into a permanent college student, and the rest dropped out at various points. Somehow all of this is not enough to convince DH how much the system sucks, so my backup plan is to do a big rearrangement of my work hours when DS starts school, and try to give him an education myself. I don't see it working very well though - it already seems like he's one of those kids that needs peer pressure to be motivated.
nectarine / 2274 posts
We actually live in an area with excellent schools, but we have plans to send ds to private school. We're hoping that with smaller classroom sizes and a smaller school in general, his teacher will be more aware of his food allergies. We do not have any nut free public schools in our area. His safety is the most important thing to us.
nectarine / 2204 posts
Based on where we live currently we'd do private since the public schools aren't that great. Although there is one suburb we could move to that has a good school system where we'd do public.
In a perfect world I'd do public since I believe in the system, but it just doesn't make sense based on where we currently live.
pomelo / 5132 posts
If we still lived in the city or picked a suburb where the schools were not very good, I would send to Catholic school. For preschool/kindergarten, we may end up private, but for 1-12, we will go public. We purposely picked a location with amazing public schools. ETA: I went Catholic 1-university AND I teach at a Catholic school.
pineapple / 12234 posts
DS was in public for kindergarten - it's a good school but he's advanced and bored. We're on a waiting list for a private school.
persimmon / 1420 posts
Mine will hopefully attend, if they can get in, because it will be the school I teach at. Otherwise, we live near decent public schools.
papaya / 10560 posts
I work in public schools so a variety of reasons we'll probably go private. I like the idea of raising children with religious education. Second, I feel like as soon as children get into 3rd grade here they only focus on reading and math because that is what is tested on state level. Rarely science until 5th grade (when it's tested) and you can pretty much forget about social studies.
It makes me super sad, so I'm hoping we can afford private.
persimmon / 1339 posts
I teach in a private school and will DEFINITELY send my kids to public school. I don't see the benefit at all for the kids that go to my school, and to be honest I kind of judge the parents for sending kids there...its a "big name" school in my city with a long tradition of celebrities/political figures attending. Most parents send their kids there just so they can say they do. I don't really see all the advantages that private schools are meant to have. The teaching staff are just as overworked and exhausted and under appreciated as at any other school I've worked at, and while there are some excellent resources, most of them are underused and gathering dust. I think my situation is probably unique, but still we'll be going public.
pomelo / 5660 posts
@ScarletBegonia: Just curious, are you in the US? I like hearing your perspective. It's a differing viewpoint and I like that.
nectarine / 2085 posts
@ScarletBegonia: I don't think what you describe is unique to your school. I'm familiar with several 'big' (read: very expensive) private schools in the U.S. I even paid tuition at one for a bit. And I can assure you that it is not unusual to have fancy resources that go underutilized and parents who are chiefly there for the name.
persimmon / 1230 posts
I am a public school teacher but am planning on sending DS to private school for a few reasons. I am philosophically opposed to the amount of testing that occurs in my city's public schools. The tests are not developmentally appropriate, they are stressful for all involved, they take away from real learning and the high-stakes tests serve no instructional purpose for students. I also don't like the conformity and rigidity of public schools here. We are lucky to have a few affordable independent schools in our area (including a Sudbury school), so unless we experience a bad financial turn, private school is the route we're taking.
@looch: I went to an IB high school and LOVED it. Honestly, I felt like I learned more in IB than college
persimmon / 1461 posts
I'll definitely be sending kids to the local private catholic primary and secondary schools. the particular school we want to send DD to is not too big, has had a good community reputation and good resources for students. in comparison, the local public schools (being a 5 minute walk) are not so great. I'd love to send her to a public school but the fact is that unless its an inner city school with extra $$ support from parents on top of govt funding I can't see it happening.
I'll probably get called out for this, but the outer suburbs public schools have a higher proportion of non-english speaking students from migrant backgrounds (majority middle eastern in my suburb), and it means thats going to be the demographic that your kids are friends with. I know that sounds harsh, but if you have a whole lot more of the kids being from the same ethnicity or cultural background, your kid is the odd one out. at the local catholic school the students are still of various ethnicities but less focused on 2 or 3 groups.
@BandDmommy: Nope, I'm in Sydney, Australia. There are levels of private schools here, and I suppose you could say the one I teach at is "top tier" - $40000+ tuition/year and like I said, insane name recognition. I would consider sending my son to a lesser private school, but luckily the public schools in my area are very well attended and have lots of parental participation (something that is sorely lacking at the school I teach at).
I guess in the end, unless the public schools in one's catchment area are really truly atrocious, I don't see the point in paying to send kids to schools that fundamentally are not that different.
watermelon / 14467 posts
We're planning on sending our kids to public schools, but I briefly considered going private. If they express an interest in going to a private school for high school, we'll discuss it then.
pomegranate / 3706 posts
@FannyMae: And that's bad because? Sorry, not calling you out, but someone will always be in the minority, and what's wrong with learning from friends with different cultural backgrounds and who speak different languages?
My girls will go to private school because they have specific needs that aren't addressed very well in public schools around here.
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