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Surgery when you're a mom

By MamaBear87 May 23, 2018

I'm getting a relatively routine procedure to fix my svt this coming Tuesday. I'll mostly be under twilight sedation but will be put under for a short time while they actually ablate the extra electrical impulses in my heart.
I'm super freaked out to be vaguely awake for some of it but am equally scared something will go wrong under the anesthesia and I'll leave my baby without a mom.

I know some of you have had a surgery when you had littles. How do you deal with that feeling?

Rationally I know this is routine and everything will be fine but having a little makes it just that much scarier

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Sams Mom
grapefruit / 4492 posts

May 23, 2018

So totally not the same level of procedure, but I went under general to have my wisdom teeth out when my son was 9 months old. It is scary because complications can happen, even if they're not likely. You just have to remember how much better you will feel when you come out of it! For me it was not flinching away from my sons hands anytime he got excited because my face hurt that much, and for you this will help with the anxiety you've been dealing with and you'll be able to have another baby!

Just remember, my crappy, terrible, mean, 2 pack a day smoker, health issues out the wazoo FIL made it through this very procedure; yours will go great!
MamaBear87
nectarine / 2288 posts

May 23, 2018

@Sams Mom: thanks! And actually the heart doctor who's doing the procedure, who's amazing on all fronts, including bedside manner, said that this is so routine for him. He does it pretty much every day and people with all kinds of extra problems come out totally fine, so I will come through so easy.

Lol I wish I hadn't gone on the beta blockers, it's going to be so hard to go 5 days without knowing there's something that helps so much that I can't take!
Mrs. Carrot
blogger / nectarine / 2043 posts

May 23, 2018

@MamaBear87: I had back surgery a year ago, and I absolutely understand the feeling. Ultimately what helped me manage is realizing that having the surgery was more likely to give my child a healthier mom than not having it, and that if something were to go wrong, she still has a great dad and will be OK. I'm a control freak in many ways, but after a year of awful pain and not being the parent that I wanted to be because of those limitations, it was almost easier to resign myself to the uncertainty of surgery than to continue living with the pain. I hope that helps. Good luck to you!
Sams Mom
grapefruit / 4492 posts

May 23, 2018

@MamaBear87: It makes it so much nicer liking and trusting the doctor that is doing the procedure! That must be terrible having to go off of something that is helping you for almost a week before your surgery! At least you have a short timeline to countdown, and from what my FIL said relief is basically instantaneous!
Bluebonnet
persimmon / 1427 posts

May 23, 2018

@MamaBear87: Part of being a good mom is taking care of yourself so you can take care of LO(s).

I had a 2 hour sinus surgery last year where I was completely under and then I had an intense recovery. Before my sinus surgery, I'd only had my wisdom teeth out, and the thought of being "under" freaked me out. But, I kept in mind that I needed the surgery because of chronic health issues. Multiple doctors advised me that I needed the surgery and the risks were small. I chose a skilled surgeon that was highly recommended and whom I trusted. Ultimately I needed to take care of myself so I could take care of everyone else.

Surgery went well and I'm sooo glad I no longer have chronic sinus infections.
MamaBear87
nectarine / 2288 posts

May 23, 2018

@Mrs. Carrot: thanks for the reminder that my kid also has an amazing dad. It totally helps to hear other people felt the same.
MamaBear87
nectarine / 2288 posts

May 23, 2018

@Sams Mom: I keep telling myself that if it wore off instantly they'd let me stay on it so I'm crossing my fingers it won't be too bad! And glad to hear your fil felt better immediately, one of my irrational fears is it won't work at all

@Bluebonnet: I'm having some difficulty because it is decently controlled with meds right now, they do get less effective so eventually I'll have to do it. But a main component of doing it is I can't be pregnant on them so I feel like I'm risking myself for a kid who isn't even conceived. I realize this is mostly irrational. But thank you for the reminder that I'm a better mom when I don't have this health issue
bhbee
cantaloupe / 6086 posts

May 23, 2018

I went under for a d&c post loss last year and had the same feelings about the anesthesia. The whole thing just felt like crap emotionally but I knew it had to be done. If you really like the dr that’s great (I also liked mine) and you could ask them about their experience with the anesthesiologist. That might help a bit to hear about their experience. Actually that was most helpful for me when my newly 1yo had anesthesia for ear tubes that scared me even more!
MamaBear87
nectarine / 2288 posts

May 23, 2018

@bhbee: i know my docs nurse and anesthesiologist are also amazing. And he has assured me that he'll walk me through everything and that it will go fantastic. I'm glad it's routine for him, just wish I could somehow get myself in the same mindset
pinkb
pear / 1599 posts

May 23, 2018

I am a natural worrier and have a lot of anxiety especially health related. But I had a lumpectomy and have 2 little's. I was worried. I talked to DD and DS about it a bit because for a few days our normal routine was anything but. My parents and sister decided they had to come to help with the kids even though I didn't want them to. So I had to let them know something was going on. They are 5 and 3 so I kept it to I was going to see the Dr and was going to have several really big shots right in my boob and I was going to be really sore for awhile and have a boo boo. I kept myself as calm as I could with just only believing in the good outcome. I cant worried about what "could" happen. I was only going to believe everything would go smoothly and then deal with bad stuff if it happened. And they gave me some drugs to relax me day of, ha! I only completely lost it as I was wheeled into surgery and they put me out fast so it was all good. Good luck
MamaBear87
nectarine / 2288 posts

May 23, 2018

@pinkb: my mom and dad will both be here but that isn't out of the norm for us. I had to ban my in laws from coming though, I love them but having them stay at my house is always so stressful. I won't get put under right away so that's the part I'm worried about
Sams Mom
grapefruit / 4492 posts

May 31, 2018

@MamaBear87: How did everything go? I totally mom brained and forgot to follow up sooner.
MamaBear87
nectarine / 2288 posts

May 31, 2018

@Sams Mom: nothing went badly but it didn't go as planned. They spent 2 hours pushing my heart, went all the way up to 232 bpm, and weren't able to trigger my svt. Hopefully it just resolved on its own but I was really looking for some certainty from this. I'm feeling much better today but my groin is still super sore.
I'm cleared to get pregnant whenever I want to as I'm not going back on beta blockers. My doctor thinks the svt is gone or basically impossible to make happen anymore. He also has meds that are approved for pregnancy after the 1st trimester if it did come back. We're considering trying again this coming month, but we'll see.
Sams Mom
grapefruit / 4492 posts

May 31, 2018

@MamaBear87: well that's a little disappointing. Fantastic if it's really gone, not so much if it's not, but not repeatable for correction. At least you're ok, and that's good they have a medicine that is safe for most of pregnancy if it makes another appearance.
MamaBear87
nectarine / 2288 posts

May 31, 2018

@Sams Mom: i don't think there's any issue with doing another ablation if it reoccurs, just not while pregnant obviously. I haven't had a blip of it in a couple weeks and it can resolve on its own so we're all hopeful.
Sams Mom
grapefruit / 4492 posts

May 31, 2018

@MamaBear87: That makes it better that it can possibly go away on its own, I was concerned that they don't really heal on their own, so you would probably have to deal with it again. Well, I hope your groin stops hurting, and you everything continues to go well for you!
MamaBear87
nectarine / 2288 posts

May 31, 2018

@Sams Mom: exercise and relaxation can help your heart to reset. And I've been doing a lot of both those and with as often as mine was happening it's doubtful it could hide, they used epinephrine and something else which is stronger and not a blip. So fingers crossed. I still freak out its going to come back though, being couch bound for 2 days with another 5 of not doing much isn't helping

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