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I gained the same amount with both pregnancies and it took much longer to lose it after DD2. After DD1 I was back at prepregnancy weight within a few weeks (I think I lost over 2/3 in the first week). I think it took about 9 months until I lost it all after DD2. My activity level after pregnancy wasn’t super different in those first few months where I think it would count, and I ate less after DD2 was born than DD1 so I have no idea. I was one of those lucky moms who gets super skinny breastfeeding with DD1 but wasn’t so lucky with DD2. While they were both very normal healthy pregnancies, they felt different from the start and so did postpartum if that’s any indication. Are you breastfeeding? I lost weight after I stopped breastfeeding DD2 (and gained when I stopped with DD1 🤷‍♀️).

I also lost the weight really easily just by breastfeeding my first. Like by the time she weaned at 20 months I was the skinniest I’d been since high school, just from breastfeeding and walking a ton with the stroller (we lived in the city and walked everywhere, which was a big difference from my previous desk job).

After2 I was much slower and I never got skinny like that. I haven’t gotten as thin as I was when I got pregnant with number 2, but I’m ok with that since honestly I don’t think that’s where my body is meant to be. I’m ok with where I am now (she’s 2.5). I’d prefer to be a little thinner and I’m actually working it regularly for the first time in my life, but I think I’m healthy and look fine. And on my good days I remember that my body grew and nourished two whole amazing babies and of course it’s changed. On less confident days, I look at a friend who has two kids the same age as mine and is the same size and shape as she was in college and feel like I’m just making excuses. (She doesn’t judge, it’s just in my head).

But most of the time I have more important things to worry about and am fine with it. And like @SweetiePie: I won’t beat myself up about clothes that no longer fit and am willing to just buy things that make me feel good.

Yep, same. With DD1 I was pre-baby weight by about 2 months pp, and actually lost an additional 10 pounds without trying. Got to my ideal weight. With DD2 I gained more (40 vs 25 w/ my first), and it's taking much longer to lose. I'm 6 months pp and have about 7 pounds to go. I just recently got to pre-baby 1 weight, and would love to get back to my ideal weight by October (trip planned with friends from college where I'll be in a swimsuit).

I'm only 3 weeks pp with baby #2 but I can already tell it's going to be like this. With my first the weight melted off super fast, I had to do an elimination diet for breastfeeding and by 3 months I was at my prepregnancy weight and I had gained 40 lbs.

With this baby, I gained 40 again but I started pregnancy about 13-14 lbs heavier than I was with baby #1 (gained weight back after weaning/eating dairy again!). A week after coming home from the hospital, I was only down 10 pounds... in spite of, you know, birthing a 7 lb 6 oz baby and placenta and all that crap. I have only lost a couple pounds since then.

But I'm trying to just be patient and give myself grace, although it's frustrating having literally no clothes that fit and being the heaviest I've ever been non-pregnant.

@catchafallingstar I'm also 5'9'' - I feel like it makes the weight easier to "hide" but my clothes still don't fit. Pre-baby #1 I was 125 which was too thin probably, pre-baby #2 I was about 137-138. I have a small frame and my "comfortable" weight is about 130-135. Dunno if I will ever get back there.Right now I'm about 160.

Yeah, I can commiserate. With DS1 I was back to normal within a month or so. He was born early so I didn't gain as much plus I was nursing and walking him everywhere. With DS2 I nursed and walked even more but I still feel like things aren't the same and he's 14 months. I work out a ton (like...I've run a marathon since having him.....) but I still have at least 5 lbs that just won't budge. I feel like I'd have to go on an extremely strict diet to get it to go away and I'm not super motivated.

For me it has definitely been harder. I never lost all of the weight after #2 and then had #3. My body has changed and I am now pushing 40. I’m trying but I’m coming to the realization it will just be a much slower process. Or I’ll have to be more stricter food wise than I want to be.

Samesies as everyone here and same timeframe as you.

I've lost 30 of my 40 lbs but I've hit a plateau for the past 3 weeks, whereas before it was about 1 lb a week. However, I do think my supply has been impacted, we are supplementing 2-3oz a day which we never did with LO1.

Things that have helped have been using dietbet.com ($$ is a great motivator), measuring my food, figuring out my lower calorie meals and eating those more regularly, and sticking to 3 meals / 1 snack a day.

Yup same. With the first I was also on a total elimination diet and LO1 woke up a lot more at night so that is probably making a pretty big difference. For this one I’ve still had to eliminate dairy, soy and eggs so you’d think that would help!

This is nothing to be ashamed of but I bought a one piece bathing suit for the first time bc no way will I feel comfortable in a bikini anytime soon (or ever? ). But it’s still unflattering bc of the c-section pouch I’m rocking.

I struggled for 3 solid years postpartum to lose the baby weight after LO1 and never managed to get it off and keep it off. (I exercise, generally eat right, and gained and lost the same 10lbs over and over again.) I really think having a baby flipped a metabolism switch for me and it never flipped back. I’m really worried because I’m on track to gain way more this pregnancy and I know it won’t budge after delivery. Any weight I lost postpartum tanked my supply and it was just really frustrating. But all of the women in my family were super skinny until they had kids and ended up over 200lbs post babies, so maybe it’s just genetic for me.

I’m working to focus on being healthy and accepting that healthy involves a bigger pants size.

@crazydoglady: ugh me too!! i'm a week out from my due date for #2 and was just thinking how nice it will be to shrink back down--hopefully that's not a pipe dream!

I did not lose the weight quickly after LO1 and I’m also not losing quickly after LO2. I also gained an extra 20 the year we ttc LO2 so needless to say I have a lot of work to do! Last time I walked a lot and went to a water aerobics class once a week and measured food/did MFP. I’d like to do a Whole30 again but LO2 needs to sleep more before I can commit to anything much more than watching portions and walking.

I think it took me two years to lose the last ten pounds! And that ten pounds was a lot, because it either sat on my stomach so my old pants didn't fit, or somewhere on my chest so my old dresses didn't fit. Oh well, I did lose it eventually, so I hope I can do it again.

I kept 5 lbs from Lo1. I wouldn’t say it all fell off quickly. More like gradually over a year.
With Lo 2 I lost a ton right away and then I’ve held onto that extra 5 plus a river 5. Everything looks normalish except stomach and love handles and my slightly flabby arms. But this all might have more to do with me living overseas and EATING ALL THE FOOD because it’s so freaking good and you only live once and my breastfed baby is 99th percent for weight so I must be doing something right. One day I’ll work out.