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Kudos to you for craving out time for yourself.

I work on my hobby (sewing) and catch up on shows that DH doesn’t like watching. I usually do this at the same time. I wear headphones while sewing because sewing is sort of loud even though I have a quieter machine.

It took me years to find a hobby though. I tried a lot of things and I still like them but sewing is my default. I also want to try other hobbies when the kids are older.

I would suggest making a list of things for you try out!

Things I have tried in the past

Cross stitching – this is a lot of fun, I still try to do one a year
Embroidery
Knitting – I liked this but for some reason I couldn’t make anything more complex than a scarf and you can only gift so many scarves.
Reading – I love reading actually I try to read something every week
Pottery – so not good at this
Marital Arts – I tried a bunch of different types, I did judo for 4 years but then life happened, not sure if I want to go back to this.

When I have time I hope to try

Yoga
Pilates
Woodworking – there is a woodworking workshop near where I live that seems neat, a young coworker of mine told me about it
Metalworking – again there is a metalworking workshop near where I live
Glass blowing
Painting
Maybe even going back to school for another degree – I like learning

TL;DR Make a list, find something you like that makes you happy. ^_^

I'm in a similar situation to you. I am self employed, working out of my home and have been crazy busy the last few weeks (10 hour days, almost every day and weekend work too). When I do find downtime I don't know what to do with it! I actually made myself pause today and had coffee with a friend, which was great since I have very few adult conversations during the week, other than with my DH of course.

Downtime... what's that? I don't have a lot these days, but I like to read, do yoga, read magazines, get a mani pedi. I'm training for a marathon so exercise is no longer down time for me, but that used to be a big part of my relaxing. .

Sometimes its just hard to shut off your brain long enough to transition to me-time - there's like this anxiety that prevents me from doing so sometimes and I just feel like I have to gogogogo. Its why playing with your phone is easy because it feels like its relaxing, but its just another stimulating thing buzzing your brain and actually counterproductive.

One thing that helps me is to ease into the me-time activity by scheduling it and automating it. For instance, let's say you will give yourself a 30 minute walk after lunch every day. Schedule it, create a ritual around it (grabbing a fresh mug of coffee or a cold drink), and then ease into it by listening to a podcast or an audiobook for 15 minutes, then walk in silence for 15 minutes. The audiobook and walking motion will "feel" busy, but its helping you ease into relaxing, and then the last 15 minutes in silence or with quiet music playing will help you become more present and relaxed. If there's bad weather, pick a backup activity in advance, like getting a manicure or walking around Target or going to Starbucks.

My husband works for himself and he had to do a similar scheduled, ease-in routine in order to help him take that break. He started taking walks with podcasts and coffee, and then once it was in his daily schedule and routine, he eventually changed it to a jog, and he really looked forward to it. If there was inclement weather, he would lay on the living room floor and do some crunches and zone out staring at the ceiling, resting his lower back, and then take a long shower. Or he would go get a haircut and a coffee.

Read! I love reading during downtime.

Read! Honestly I haven't in awhile, but need to!

Maybe look into meetup.com in your area?

I run a sewing/knitting/crochet group, and probably 75% of the members are moms of young kids craving adult time and some accountability to finishing craft projects.

The one I run only meets once a month, so it's not as overwhelming as the ones that meet weekly (or more). But it could be a good way for you to find something to commit to.