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  1. snowjewelz

    wonderful kiwi / 23653 posts

    @azjax: I wouldn't mind rocking my kids to sleep till I literally can't lift them up anymore!

    @SKINNYCOW: I use the crib for storage basically... We attempted with DD1, and I just don't even bother with DD2!

    @RonjaL7: I have to use my phone to bribe my 2 year old to change!

    @gingerbebe: You are doing great!! Mine likes the canto soups we make, so I tell myself the soup is so nutrient dense so she is totally ok haha!

  2. IRunForFun

    pomelo / 5509 posts

    As long as she's not straight up crying and just fussing a little, I keep sticking the pacifier back in 12 week old DD's mouth to keep her quiet while I drink my morning coffee.

    Also, they have these newborn stimulation videos on YouTube (basically a black/white screen with dots and other shapes moving all around and music) and if she's crying and I can't get her to stop I put it on my phone and let her stare at it. So my 3 month old gets screen time. Whoops.

  3. maddyz

    persimmon / 1270 posts

    Pizza, still has milk in a bottle two or three times a day at 26 months.

  4. Coral

    clementine / 874 posts

    @IRunForFun: Girl. DS started watching Baby Einstein at that age so I could have some peace from the whining. I know it has no educational merit but at least I wasn't losing my mind.

  5. thepicklemonster

    apricot / 271 posts

    I don't rinse off the paci or other toys if my DS drops them even in public. I figure germs are good. And I'm lazy. He's only 6 months and I'm sure I'll do all the things you guys are describing. My parenting style is... survival.

  6. babycanuck

    pomegranate / 3105 posts

    My almost 18 month old is a suuuuuuper picky eater, and honestly, I just don't care or stress about it. Daycare is worried "He never eats veggies". Guess what? I grew up eating grilled cheese and Kraft dinner, and I turned out fine (and eat a lot of different foods now), so whatever!

  7. gingerbebe

    cantaloupe / 6131 posts

    FWIW, this thread motivated me to cook a nice coconut curry with all the veggies for dinner tonight!

  8. matador84

    papaya / 10560 posts

    @Mrs. Blue: I use candy on days I'm in a hurry to get to work and they won't cooperate! On occasion I let them watch shows on their kindle while I'm getting the other one ready. When I'm really desperate I have to ask them, "Tell me what you want and I'll give it to you!"

  9. californiadreams

    pomegranate / 3411 posts

    well, i gave my son nutella when he was two and thought it was adorable. even posted it on facebook!

    now, i would say that we have more pizza nights than we should. And I don't give my kids baths - only DH does it. So if he is not home before bedtime for 2 days in a row, they don't get a bath 2 days in a row (putting 2 kids to bed is enough for me without throwing in bath time).

  10. DesertDreams88

    grapefruit / 4361 posts

    My kid is only 14m and sometimes I let him have bites of our junk food because I love seeing his joyous face. I don't believe in beating yourself up about food and let's face it, chocolate and pizza are both delicious. FACT.

    LO gets TONS of verbal stimulation all day with his grandparents and when DH & I are together, but when it's just me, I don't talk much with LO (14m). I talk ALL DAY for my job, so at night, I just want to chill out.

    DH & I watch too much TV around LO, especially at meal times.

  11. LulaBee

    pear / 1837 posts

    Both my kids eat too much pizza.

    My 16 month old still has a bottle at bedtime (and in middle of the night). She also takes a paci.

    My 4 year old watches a lot of tv on weekend mornings.

  12. sojellybean

    cherry / 100 posts

    I still help feed my 3 yr old most of her meals. She gets rocked to sleep for her nap. For some reason she is very anti-hand washing after potty so I let her skip it a lot. I guess I'd rather her be germy than screaming in a public restroom.

  13. nana87

    cantaloupe / 6171 posts

    Lo1 (3yo) has a pretty terrible diet. We offer her healthy choices but she is pretty picky and lots of days will eat plain rice or pasta only for dinner. She eats a lot of fruit and yogurt and cheese at least.

    Also, I forget to push teeth brushing-- she only really brushes when she randomly asks too (it's so rare that she thinks it's fun...)

    I don't bother washing lo2's pacis when they fall o. The floor inside...

  14. gentlelunette

    kiwi / 698 posts

    My two year old pretty much never eats vegetables. I offer them (if we have them 🙈) but she just won't eat them. Lots of fruit though, so that's good, I guess! I also am really bad at remembering to brush her teeth.

    So far, I haven't messed up the 8 week old (that I know of). Hahaha

  15. CatchAFallingStar

    nectarine / 2806 posts

    My 2-yr old watches wayyyy too much Daniel Tiger and plays with my old iPhone (pbs apps) way too much. But, hey...she learns from it! And, she eats a LOT of buttered noodles. Oh, and she still nurses and co-sleeps. 😳

  16. CatchAFallingStar

    nectarine / 2806 posts

    @lilyofthewest: wow! Does the caffeine make him hyper at all? Hmmm. Might let my daughter try some. 😜

  17. Tanjowen

    nectarine / 2521 posts

    My 3.5 year olds almost entire vegetable intake is from pouches.

    We are potty training and the only way he will try without freaking out is to give him a tablet to play games while he sits. I know I'm setting up a battle for later but he's using the potty without screaming so I'm going with it.

  18. snowjewelz

    wonderful kiwi / 23653 posts

    @matador84: Hahaha I like that. Help me help you!

    @californiadreams: I don't bathe my kids daily even though we absolutely can!

    @CatchAFallingStar: I think it's so sweet that she still nurses! I offered mine (since I nurse DD2 now), and she looks at me like uhhh heck no!

  19. CatchAFallingStar

    nectarine / 2806 posts

    @snowjewelz: yes!! Our crib is our giant laundry basket. Hahaha!!

  20. catlady

    grapefruit / 4988 posts

    I ignore the fact that my 4 month old watches full episodes of Doc McStuffins along with my 3 year old most mornings (technically, he's always on his playmat or in his bouncer, but he definitely turns his head to watch TV).

    My 3 year old gets snacks like 10 times per day.

  21. snowjewelz

    wonderful kiwi / 23653 posts

    @catlady: omg yes I try to turn her bouncy chair around b/c DD1 gets TV in the morning and my almost 4 month old will stare!!!

  22. rachiecakes

    coconut / 8279 posts

    We order take-out a couple times a week. I work long hours, am the breadwinner, and I give myself a break here and there. I wish I could do it all but I just can't.

  23. emilye519

    cherry / 129 posts

    10 week old gets waaaaay too many car seat naps, I "forget" to brush dd's teeth about half the time in the morning, and dd1 is in daycare full time while I'm on maternity leave. Major props to SAHM of 2+, I bow down to you but I just can't.

    Also, that Easter egg candy is mine!

  24. newlypregnantlady

    kiwi / 556 posts

    We live in a very liberal area and have a very crunchy circle of acquaintances. So in terms of their standards I do so many crazy things:
    -sleep trained with CIO
    -have a strict bed and naptime
    -give my kid gluten and white flour (she has no allergies)
    -let my child eat tons of raisins and Cheerios (this one I do feel bad about because I worry about tooth decay)
    -let her drink juice and junk food at ILs (honestly the junk food doesn't bother me but that everyone gives her bites of their food does bother me. FIL basically has a perpetual cold!).
    -given her InNOut

    In terms of normal parenting my biggest thing is that we don't brush her teeth nearly enough. I try to do it at least once a day but there are definitely times it's only 4-5x per week. It's just such a struggle because I literally have to pin her down and it's the worst part of the day.

    The other one is that she watches too much tv. She never used to but then I got pregnant and I just need a break sometimes. I'm definitely getting it back down to a reasonable amount because she gets intractable when she has too much tv.

  25. Dahlia

    clementine / 935 posts

    DD gets way more pouches than a 21 month old should.
    I bribe her with Elmo.

  26. psw27

    pomelo / 5220 posts

    My child doesn't eat vegetables. And I don't really even try to make him.

  27. MrsRoo

    pear / 1642 posts

    @oscarthegoon: I feel you, dear. My husband just changed his schedule to be home during the week, but I also did 5 nights a week drop off, pick up, dinner, bed by myself for months. It sucked. Sorry to hear about your kitty

    We all get our clean clothes from the piles on the upstairs couch. DD1 still wears a pull up to bed after being daytime potty trained for 2 years. I haven't yet brushed DD2's teeth because I keep forgetting to buy a tooth brush. Screen time cures everything at our house.

  28. Mrs. Carrot

    blogger / nectarine / 2043 posts

    I ended up having a crazy busy today and didn't get back to a computer until 4:15 and wow, this is the coolest thread! Everyone is doing an amazing job, no matter what the judgementals among us feel. Lots of love to everyone!

  29. youboots

    honeydew / 7622 posts

    Oh also my DD has a shake and fries for a meal at least once a week because I love 5 Guys, Red Robin and In N Out.

  30. LindsayLou

    persimmon / 1322 posts

    We bedshare. I don't feel guilty about this, it's what works for us. But I don't like admitting it to people. She used to start the night in her crib and end up in ours when she woke up. But she hasn't gone to bed in her own room for more than 5 nights since thanksgiving.

    My kid is 19 months and knows what candy is. And we give it to her more than I'd like.

    My kid dislikes most vegetables, and pretty much lives off of carbs, fruit, cheese, and yogurt.

  31. peaches1038

    nectarine / 2047 posts

    @DesertDreams88: same here! I don't talk much with DS on our way home from daycare, which is about 30 minutes. I feel like we both need that time to decompress from our day. I used to feel guilty about it but he seems to enjoy just looking out the window while we listen to music or a podcast. Of course, if he says something, I respond, but he's usually pretty content

  32. Mrs. Cereal

    blogger / kiwi / 626 posts

    My 3 year old still uses her binky and I am not even remotely interested in fighting that battle.

    Both my kids sometimes only eat yogurt for dinner. I load their plates with all kinds of good food, but they don't eat it. I don't care that much.

    We bed share. This one of more of my dirty proud thing rather than dirty secret, but holy crap I get judged a lot for it.

    Most days I am just trying to survive, and parenting is freaking hard, so none of the things listed above have me clutching my pearls. Moms gotta do what moms gotta do.

  33. skipra

    pomegranate / 3350 posts

    Way too much screen time! And now that my oldest doesn't nap, the TV or tablet sometimes acts as the babysitter so I can nap! They eat too much junk and I yell more than I should. I don't think any of these are unheard of with young kids!

  34. PawPrints

    pomegranate / 3658 posts

    @Mrs. Lemon-Lime: @Adira: Carbs aren't bad for adults either! If you happen to be trying to lose weight, it can help to cut down on carbs, but otherwise they're a perfectly healthy part of your diet. Little kids definitely are not trying to lose weight of course.

  35. SweetCaroline

    pear / 1718 posts

    The only veggie my child (26 mo) eats is green beans and I serve them cold from a can, when I remember.

    I usually only remember to brush her teeth when they're looking scummy (every other day or so) and I'm petrified I'm setting her up for a mouth full of cavities. Every brushing session is awful.

  36. azjax

    kiwi / 578 posts

    @newlypregnantlady: @SweetCaroline: my ped recently recommended starting the tooth brushing sessions at a differnf part of the mouth each time, so even if you only get a few teeth, by the end of the week each tooth has been brushed once. Works for us! I just can't to an all out scream session over it, ugh.

  37. petitenoisette

    pear / 1521 posts

    We don't brush DD's teeth in the am.

    I get bored playing with her after like two minutes 😜

    She won't eat veggies except for avocado but I mean seriously what am I to do about that? I do offer but I dont go crazy trying to get her to eat more.

  38. FaithFertility

    eggplant / 11861 posts

    @catlady: I love Doc!!!!!!

    Ok, DD only drinks milk/water and knows coffee is off limits so any drink we have that she can't have is "coffee" to her

    She will ask me to hold her and walk and sing before a nap some days
    This is rare so I always give in

    I truly love to co sleep so I give into it if need be from DD or D'S!

    My DD knows I love the Today show and on weekend mornings will ask where the Today news is?!?

  39. FaithFertility

    eggplant / 11861 posts

    @petitenoisette: Ohhhh I brush hers like never in the am

  40. Canoli

    persimmon / 1458 posts

    This is an amazing thread! I do so many of these!
    My one son is a horrible eater. I send chicken nuggets to daycare every day for lunch and he frequently eats them for dinner too. He doesn't eat any other meal food except breakfast foods, the rest is just snack foods. We have been in the habit of getting fast food almost every Friday. My kids watch wayyyyyy to much TV and are on the tablet wayyyy too much. We use bribery frequently. We yell more than I care to admit. We threaten to take away privileges and then don't follow through. We eat on the couch but tell the kids not to.

    Good grief Mother of the year over here!

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