Don't get me wrong, I love him. But I keep having this thought lately when I hold him or look at him that geez, it doesn't seem like this is actually my kid and maybe his parents will come for him soon. I don't know the person I am when I'm caring for a baby, if that makes sense.
How long did it take for it to sink in that it was really your baby? And you're not babysitting, that is the new you for the rest of your life?
GOLD / coconut / 8266 posts
Maybe 4-6 months. Things started getting easier with R around 4 months and I felt more connected to her by 6 months.
persimmon / 1495 posts
My LO is 13 months and still every once in awhile I kind of forget that I'm the mom and not the nanny 
I think it's just because the idea of having a kid and being a mom is such a weird identity adjustment
persimmon / 1171 posts
19 months and I still have times where I can't believe she's my kid and I'm her mom. I tell my husband all the time that I have this weird feeling like she doesn't belong to me...like she's her own little individual that just so happens to live with us. An awesome roommate if you will. It's hard to explain.
cantaloupe / 6730 posts
Lol - I had that feeling recently. LO was 9 months old and her aunt (DH's sister who lives far away), was carrying her. I was walking behind them and had this overwhelming feeling that LO was SIL's daughter. And then LO wanted me, and it was all better.
cherry / 106 posts
I had the exact same thoughts as you with my first LO. It took me about 3 mths to sink jn and really 6 months to say i've fallen in love with her.
persimmon / 1194 posts
I still feel that way from time to time and DD is 2! It really sunk in when she started calling me mommy though so around 7 months.
cantaloupe / 6692 posts
I feel this way sometimes still at 5.5 months! I totally understand where you're coming from. I don't think it's a bad feeling or anything...just yourself trying to adjust to the HUGE change!
GOLD / wonderful coconut / 33402 posts
She is almost 17 months and I still have those like that!
GOLD / wonderful grape / 20289 posts
For my first just a couple of days. For my second longer because she looks nothing like me.
apricot / 469 posts
At 18 months I still have those moments! I kinda thought I was the only one though - and this is why I 
HB! So thank you ladies!
grapefruit / 4006 posts
21 months here and I had that feeling the other day...can't believe I am a mom and have a kid!
grapefruit / 4311 posts
I'm only a few weeks in, but we joke all the time that F is thinking "when are my real parents gonna come rescue me from these people?"
GOLD / wonderful apricot / 22646 posts
20 months and I still pinch myself from time to time, Is this for real? 
cantaloupe / 6669 posts
I think around 5-6 months I stopped thinking that regularly. But I still have no idea what I am doing!
kiwi / 714 posts
okay reading this and the comments to it is making me feel SO much better. I'm only three weeks in but I've felt so bad that it still hasn't seemed to hit me yet, and I don't feel that crazy connection. Glad to know it just takes some time.
eggplant / 11408 posts
I'm just now feeling like she's mine more often than I am not! Though yesterday, I looked at our reflection in the mirror while I was holding her and rocking her to sleep, and I felt like an imposter. I can't describe it- just that she looked so out of place with me. But I am starting to be more confident when I say that she is my daughter...LO is 16 weeks old.
@Aimed: @lauraeabel: amen!
watermelon / 14206 posts
D is 7 and it's still weird being his mom. It's weird to be talking about school stuff and all. I feel like I was just in 2nd grade lol.
pomelo / 5469 posts
I still think sometimes "how did I end up with a kiddo?" and I'll look at her when she's with my parents or DH's parents and for a split second I forget she's my responsibility and not theirs! LO is 10 months.
I'm glad it's more common than I thought!
papaya / 10570 posts
It's funny you should ask this today because earlier this afternoon we were playing and I was saying "come on, walk to mummy" and I had this lightbulb moment where I realised that I actually felt like her mummy - like completely naturally. I'm not sure when it started happening but I think it was a sliding scale effect, the more confident I got the more I felt bonded to LO and the more I identified with the role. It has only been in the last few weeks that mummy has become a part of my actual identity and I have felt at home with the title. She's 1.
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