This year was the year of "air clearing" with my family.

1. I cleared the air with my mom and we didn't talk for six months, but I did send my kids over for a visit (DH took them) and we are all getting together for the holidays, so maybe things will calm down.

2. Had a big blowout with my ILs over Thanksgiving.... they've since watched the kids overnight so I think all is ok but husband is going over there today to smooth over any remaining hurt.

3. I actually told off my dad's side around Easter! My dad and stepmom had this habit of arguing around the kids that I asked them to nix. That was actually the calmest conversation, it was over by the afternoon but I was a wreck going into it. It was the best example of calm assertive behavior that I employed this year for sure.

Overall I must say my relationships have improved thanks to no more bubbling resentment. At least on my end.