When our LO was born my SIL came to the hospital to visit and we told her that if anything happened to us that she and my bro would be the guardian for LO. We are going to visit a lawyer in the new year. She then informed us in a joking manner that if anything happened to them that we would be guardian for their 3 kids (which are 10, 7 and 1).... I literally had no idea! It was never brought up, they had never told me in the last 10 years, or told my parents (who have had a huge part in raising them). I literally had no idea, and never thought it would be me (now us). When the eldest was born 10 years ago my parents told them that they needed to decide who would be the guardian, tell the person and go to a lawyer, which they said they did. (um, they never told me then- I was single then-So unless they changed it..... )I just thought it was weird that we find out now.
Is it standard to not tell??? I always knew growing up what would happen to us if something happened to my parents....