Internally I would be having a hissy fit. Externally - I have no idea how I would handle this!!!!!
ETA: I just googled them and found they are called "gauges." Either way. They're going to impact them for the rest of their life!!
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Well they can't legally do it without my permission until they're 18, although I could pull the ole "if you're living under my roof/going to school on my dime, no gauges allowed" -- I'm not positive I would do that if they're college aged. If they did it while in high school, I would make them take it out! I'm all for piercings once you're 18--I think it's a great way to experiment and not leave permanent marks, so hopefully they won't be drawn to anything more permanent.
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Haha I had gauged ears for a bit, but it hurt too bad and I took them out
I have no problems with my kids having piercings, provided that they take good care of them, keep them clean, etc. That and hair dye are great ways to be "rebellious" without leaving permanent marks! (Although I do still have a little mark from my lip ring!)
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@Bookworm: do you have holes in your ears from them? That's what worries me - they get so big that they can leave big holes in their ears and then....you've ruined your ear lobes!
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I honestly wouldn't care as long as they weren't big. DH has his gauged to either a 6 or an 8 (not sure exactly) and it's not bad at all.
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@mediagirl: Nope! They are perfectly fine, BUT I did have pretty small gauges. If my kid were to get the really big, stretchy, could fit a hand in there kind, I would have some issues with it!
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If they are over 18 then that's on them. I am not going to be the parent that micro manages my adult children.
If it isn't life threatening or illegal then god speed.
Just have to hope and pray I've taught them how to make good choices. -
DH has two in each ear. :-O (they arent huge so when he doesnt wear them - like for work - you can barely notice)
Im sure he wont have them in anymore when DD is older but if she were 18 it would be her choice. -
I'm such a dork-- I thought this was about a medical thing like getting tubes in your ears because of ear infections!
Under 18, yeah, I'd make them take it out, I think. Over 18, but still dependent on us for measly little things like college tuition-- I guess I don't know. I'd be worried about it leaving a huge hole, but I'm sure there is a really minor plastic surgery procedure that could fix it if it got really out of hand. I'd probably discourage it but that's about it. My brother had a tongue ring that my mom wasn't thrilled about, but she would just warn him about the damage he was doing to his teeth and let it go.
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I wouldn't be happy so I'm sure I would voice my displeasure and try to let it go.
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I would tell them to go take a long look at "Uncle" Tommy's ears. My little brother had them at one point they were almost an inch in diameter. He started when he was 14 and convinced my mom to take him to the piercing place in the mall and just get studs before you know it he had these huge discs in his ears. Now he rarely wears gauges and his ear lobes just look gross.
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I'm in the under my roof, my rules camp. I don't want them to damage their bodies and have regrets.
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ugh they're sooo gross and even as a teen I thought they were nasty. I wouldn't allow them and I SO know DH wouldn't allow it either.
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I wouldn't care. They'd have to wait until 18 and pay for it themselves though.
My parents were totally against tattoos. I got one for my 18th birthday and my brother paid for it.
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I think I'd totally freak because this is something permanent and could affect their future! Imagine going into an interview, and you have a gaping hole in your ear lobes! Who knows, by the time that happens, it would be "socially more acceptable".... I sure hope not though. Eek!
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Fine with me. Like others, they'd have to pay for it themselves and wait until they're legally old enough. Just like tattoos and stuff... Face piercings, to me, are worse than gauges since they're so front and center. even if you take it out and it heals, most people have a scar where it was. Again though, that's their choice I guess and if we don't make mistakes, we can't learn from 'em.
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Honestly, I wouldn't care. I know plenty of successful people with ear gauges. Besides, it is his/her life. He/she is going to have to learn to make his/her own choices and deal with whatever consequences come with it.
There are worse things in life than ear plugs.
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I'd freak out and point out to her her father's incorrectly translated tattoo, effed up teeth (ohhhh tongue rings) and scars from his facial piercings. His stupid decisions about his appearance as a kid have negatively effected him as an adult and she'll be made aware of it, so if she did something dumb and potentially permanently damaging like this I'd be PO'ed.
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Oh, what a great thread, this totally took me back! I stretched my ears out in high school to about a "zero" gauge I think - about the size of a pencil. Took them out a few years later and they closed up more or less. Still kind of a larger hole but not that anyone but me would really notice (currently work as an attorney).
I also pierced my tongue when I was 16 - found a place that didn't check ID. For the gauges, you can stretch out regular pierced ears using just about anything, or using the jewelry made for it, which can be sold to those under 18 - so the "my house my rules" may not work 100% with a rebellious teen
My parents were pretty mellow about it, though we did fight about the tongue piercing for a week. I am probably in for it with this LO!
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wouldn't care. they would be responsible for paying for their ears to be sewn back up though. (and yes, this is possible - my best friend had gauged ears & she got them sewn up. Now you can't even tell she had them in the first place)
i had my eyebrow, tongue, nose, ear, upper left ear, & monroe pierced as well as numerous tattoos.
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I wouldn't like it, but I wouldn't stop it.
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I wouldn't be happy about it but I also know first-hand the effect of having a parent forbid you from doing something. From the time I was 15-18,I wanted a nose ring sooooo badly and my parents said absolutely not, so less than a week after I turned 18, I got a tattoo instead! Parents didn't find out about it for another yearbut when they did, sure as heck bet they wished they'd let me get that nose ring, haha!
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@mediagirl: Well i think when your child is over 18 (canada) 21 (usa) they are old enough to make their own choices. My sister is a body piercer by professional so you know what that means. She's got piercings everywhere and yes she has stretchers as well.
My parents died a little at first, but that's who she is. (Wait you haven't seen her tattoos!)
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I actually made her buy the ones she's wearing (with rhinestones) for my wedding. haha!
I have no problems with my kids having piercings, provided that they take good care of them, keep them clean, etc. That and hair dye are great ways to be "rebellious" without leaving permanent marks! (Although I do still have a little mark from my lip ring!)
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