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We deal with rough drop offs all the time unfortunately.

I would never leave them until a teacher has taken over - otherwise they would run out of the classroom after me.
In your case I would have looked for another teacher to help or waited until the only teacher available was free and then passed her off.

I think the comment , although probably true, was unnecessary

I've dealt with this a few times recently and had a talk about it with our head teacher (in our case, we prefer the head teacher to the assistant, who is generally the one to ignore us during rough drop offs). My LO has been fine at drop off since the beginning (over 20 months now!) but recently picked up clingy behavior from some newer kids. The teachers now know to grab my LO from me so I can leave quickly on the rough days. It's true that it's easier for everyone if you can exit quickly...but someone needs to help you out if a LO won't let you go. So I don't think it's fair to put it all on you.

I agree that fast is best, BUT, when LO is having a tough time our teachers ALWAYS hold her. I'm not going to dash out of there while she's crying in the middle of the room with no one comforting her. If our teacher was reading a story she would have pulled LO on to her lap to give her some comfort while I dashed out the door.

Although she shouldn't have verbalized it, I agree that a fast drop off is better, even if she is crying and screaming.

I've taught preschool for 4 yrs and there are many moms who I've wanted to say it to but held my tongue. She shouldn't have called you out like that.

I would've been upset too. I don't like leaving LO crying and even though I know faster is better, I don't drop and run and would feel badly if the teacher called me out on it.

I always hang out until a teacher can take LO to comfort him if he's having a hard time. I don't think it's fair to ask them to drop everything, so I wait.

I don't think it was fair for her to say that in this scenario. I would never leave my child wailing at school without handing her off to a teacher.

@BlueWolverine: The wording may have sucked but I've always thought a quick drop off is best when it's rough. I read somewhere that you should be positive and upbeat and that helps show that you trust that lo will be fine. I have left lo (3, started preschool the first time about 1.5 months ago) crying (loudly! She only has one volume!) in a group setting when we first started and were having really rough drop offs (and rough days in general.) We were pretty consistent with that but a teacher always at least acknowledged lo. If your lo generally calms down after you've left I would honestly try to quicken the drop off. I know they held my lot but it wasn't necessarily right when I walked out. I haven't been too bothered by it but I have worked in this setting and know firsthand that sometimes kids cry on their own, sometimes they just have to wait because there's no choice. I wish the teacher would have explained more and been more professional though. The know it all condescending teachers drive me nuts though.