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@Sunshine1810: Thanks! Glad you had a fun weekend

@Sunshine1810: that is so soon!

I wrote a guest post for the blog about my experience with embryo adoption so far. Part 1 was posted today!

@bluestriped bee: Enjoy the next couple of months! You'll have your schedule tacked down and be getting started before you know it!

@Leialou: LOVED it! Can't wait for the next installment! Thank you for sharing!

ETA: where does anyone who know what DH and I have been through and how long we've been waiting to conceive naturally and with assistance, get off offering the single word explanation of "stress"???

I'm waiting for my doc to enter in my u/s results from this morning to see exactly how many follies and how big they are, but she did say this morning there were "a lot" and "both sides look great". I will be back in on Friday for blood and u/s again, and she said retrieval could be as soon as Tue!

@Leialou: Great blog post! Thank you so much for sharing your story!

@FliegepilzHut: Ugh! People are so ignorant when it comes to infertility. Sorry you had to put up with that. I too have heard the 'stress' explanation many times. So frustrating.

@PurplePumps: Almost there!! So exciting!!!

@FliegepilzHut: There is no evidence of that, and it impossible to completely cut all stress out of your life. I too would have to quit my job which would cause all sorts of other stress! When people bring up stress, it actually stresses me out more about getting stressed!!! I wish people would think before they spoke.

@Sunshine1810: BTW-- I'm sending lots and lots of good vibes your way! Will you start stims later this week? Or is it next?

@Sunshine1810: Sadly, no. Wouldn't that have been nice, though?

@bluestriped bee: I went through a lot of emotions right before we started IVF. I started second guessing. I started thinking maybe we should have just gone straight to adoption, etc. I think that's normal. I finally decided that I at least wanted to try IVF, because I wanted to feel like I did "all we could" so to speak. It's not that I don't want to adopt, because I do, but it was important to me to exhaust all my medical options first.

@bluestriped bee: It makes lots of sense to really try and wrap your head around your options. For me, the idea of actually getting pregnant and having a biological child really took hold after my first m/c. Before that, I was pretty sure I wouldn't ever pursue ART. But...things change, your mind changes. If we aren't successful after 2-3 IVF cycles...or if things get too hard...we're back to adoption...but that's going to require some adjustment. Is there anything in particular that's making you question the step to IVF? You don't have to answer that, of course...but sometimes these "breaks" (I'm in one right now) give you a unique opportunity to take a hard look at the goal and the path to get there. And I absolutely hate feeling jealous...but I've had a fair bit of that too, lately.

@bluestriped bee: Try not to doubt your process, hun! You've thought a ton about this and you highly considered adoption at one point. But you are so close now to actually doing your first IVF that it's only natural to have a few jitters. You can always re-evaluate if you need to later. I am very hopeful for you. You WILL get to the finish line, friend!

@FliegepilzHut: Wow, I commend you for being able to keep your cool. I'm sure I would have exploded and lost it on someone if they said that to me.

@bluestriped bee: I've had to hide a LOT of people from my feed cause I was tired of seeing announcements, pregnancy updates, and then newborn pictures... all the while we're still trying. Geez, 7 years, I wish I had 7 years to wait and relax with. But really, after that long her own answer was relax? Sorry, but I'd have had a hard time looking at her with a straight face. Maybe it's a good sign that once there's a baby in your arms you sort of forget all the pain it took to get there. For me, even just last night after my husband gave me the injection, I laid there and though 'what the heck are we doing', 'why are we doing this', 'maybe we should just forget it'. I think doubts and wonder always linger with everything we have to do and go through. It's almost like it's been so long that I've lost the original excitement of a child cause it seems so unreachable now though but I just want to "win" and beat this IF.

@bluestriped bee: I'll admit to being jealous of other IFers too. I feel like I'm one of the members who has been trying the longest without having a child through some method. Then I get mad at myself for being jealous because everyone deserves to take home a child and IF hurts no matter how long you struggle.

@Leialou: I'll look for it.

@Leialou: I feel like this sometimes too ::hides:: I get jealous sometimes of people who know what the problem is, and people who have gotten farther along in treatment than us in less time.

But then I'm sure there are some who are jealous of me because I have seen a BFP. So maybe it's all relative?

I think it's ok to be jealous of each other. At least we know that we are not naive about the process, you know? Not for example, like a gal who'd post on FB that's she's pg. at 6 weeks! (True story.)

And I think possibly, that it'll help us to become better mommies when the times comes. Ugh, ok now I'm getting all teary! Dang (dr. prescribed) hormones!

@TheSwissWifeStyle: Indeed, dang hormones! Thinking of you!

@bluestriped bee: I'm sorry that it's so hard right now. I agree that distractions and just keeping busy can definitely help. (I just overload on house renovations pretty much every spare moment I have) Definitely do what you need to feel as good as you can in this situation.

@PurplePumps: That's wonderful! You'll recruit lots more by the time of your ER!