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@Sunshine1810: I have read that the vaginal doses are much more effective, so hopefully it works quickly and painlessly for you. Hugs!
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@ValentineMommy: Thank you!
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@Sunshine1810: I am so sorry you have found yourself here.
I, too, had a blighted ovum that was diagnosed at 10 weeks when I started spotting. The bleeding held off until my d&c a few days later when it started on my way to the hospital.
I opted for the D&C because it's what my OB strongly recommended and I wanted the finality of it to be over. I started work (I am a teacher) the next week and there was no way I could be at school not knowing when I would miscarry.
My recovery was pretty straightforward. I bled for about two weeks or so and got my period back and AF returned 6 weeks post D&C.
I totally understand how overwhelming this is and how you feel the need to make a decision right now. It's terrifying. Do whatever feels right in your heart. I knew I just wanted it over with and didn't want a surprise.
My husband, too, had trouble understanding it the way I did because he described a blighted ovum as being "a really long false positive" um.....no! He is a wonderful man but he will never understand the losses the way I did. I won't discount his feelings at all but he was more worried about me, felt powerless and disappointed vs me who felt like we lost a child. In my mind, it wasn't an empty sac but a beautiful baby who was constantly changing, growing, developing.
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@Sunshine1810: Welcome to our group, like everyone else I'm so sorry for your loss and that you are joining us, but this is a great support system. I don't have any experience with the misoprostol because I had a D&C but I hope it works for you if you choose to go that path. My DH was like yours. He was great but I knew he was hurting. He was trying hard to be strong for me. It took a little while but eventually he was able to let out his feelings and we talked it out. Please use this group and the wonderful ladies for support in anyway you need it.
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@simplyfelicity: Thank you! My DH had a similar response to the blighted ovum that yours did at first. I immediately started crying and told him that this was a loss of a baby for me, and I know he felt bad after that. Thank you so much for the support. It really does help!
@HappyBluebird: Thank you
The support really means a lot.
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@Sunshine1810: I am so sorry you're here.
I took misoprostal orally before my d&c, because it helped things along. I've never taken it on its own though.My biggest fear with this miscarriage is that I'll stop progesterone, but have no luck getting a bleed. I just want this baby gone, if it's gone. I can't do this again!
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@jaguar: thanks, I'm so sorry we are both here!y heart is breaking for you right now. You've been in my thoughts a lot today! I'm praying that we will both start bleeding without needing assistance! I'm so mad at my body right now. *hugs*
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@Sunshine1810: Me too! FURIOUS in fact! I just want to be able to flip a switch and start over. I'm also scared that if this drags on, we won't be able to squeeze in a whole new IVF cycle before Christmas when the clinic shuts down. Just one more added bit of pressure.
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@jaguar: I have the exact same fear. I don't think I'm going to be able to get in an FET before Christmas. Once the new year starts our deductible will kick back in for our insurance that we will have to pay. I also have this fear that we might lose our infertility coverage. We hopefully won't but I always worry about that!
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@Sunshine1810: Same here - our 'safety net' so to speak expires on January 1st. So if we can't squeeze in a stim, we pay full price next year. I can't believe how badly this is all working out. So much for a miracle rainbow baby!
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@Sunshine1810: Hey there... I was going to write you an extended wall post, but since you're here: I am SO VERY sorry... I had a terrible time initially trying to process my blighted ovum loss.
I have taken Misoprostol...multiple doses, both oral and vaginal...and unfortunately it just doesn't work for me for some reason. At most, I would very mild cramping, a little spotting, and a little diarrhea (after the oral doses)...and I wound up having to have a D+C after both losses. Everything sucks, but if the Misoprostol had worked, I would have been pretty happy, given the circumstances.ETA: Luckily, my OB did a good job and my lining was pronounced healthy (by my RE) after both D+Cs. But I think initially she was concerned about that particular set of risks...or maybe she just didn't want me to "go through that"? It's a hard decision. Sending lots of hugs and I hope you come through on the other side very soon!
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@simplyfelicity: My DH (who's a pretty fantastic and sensitive guy) said something like that...it's amazing how they don't really "get" "being pregnant."
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Today's level was 76.5. going down, so no more progesterone & now we pray for a quick loss.
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@jaguar: I am praying for you that you are able to squeeze in a stim cycle before the end of the year!
@FliegepilzHut: Thank you so much for sharing your experience with me. It is definitely helpful for me to determine what I am going to do. I agree that guys really don't understand being pregnant. It's frustrating but I just have a remind myself that he doesn't really get it.
Well still no sign that I am going to m/c naturally. I stopped the progesterone on Monday so I am guessing I could be waiting for quite a while if I just let it happen. I am going to try to get up the courage to take the Misoprostol this weekend.
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Well I called my RE's nurse with a question about the dosage of the Misoprostol, and she said not to take it yet. She said give it a little more time. Well, I have a really busy week this week at work, so I think I am going to have to hold off until next weekend. Who knows, maybe I'll get lucky and it will start on its own before then!
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@Sunshine1810: I'm sorry you have to wait. I hope you aren't waiting too long, I'll keep you in my thoughts!
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@HappyBluebird: Thank you! Waiting is really difficult, because I feel like I'm never going to be able to move on. It's weird though because at the same time, I am glad I will be able to relax this weekend a bit.
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@Sunshine1810: Waiting is extremely difficult! I didn't have to wait for a m/c but we have to wait until we can TTC again. I think anytime anyone who has had a loss is told to wait for any reason and any amount of time it just adds some stress.
I understand how you feel about relaxing a bit though. As much as a I would love to be TTC right this second, we are looking at the positives and the things we can do that we probably wouldn't have before.
Hope you have a relaxing weekend!
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@Sunshine1810: I hate that you have to wait but am glad you're seeing the silver lining!
Does anyone have fun plans for the weekend? I think this is my only weekend to lay low for a while. November seems to be getting rather busy! But DH and I do have a breakfast date tomorrow while my car gets service (oh the glamorous life of a responsible adult!)
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@MaryM: Yum, I love breakfast! Today we have a Halloween party to go to, but I'm leaning toward changing my mind. I'll probably just stay home and pass out some candy. The rest of the weekend will be a low key one for us, last weekend we were busy with a wedding and a dinner on Sunday so I'm ready to relax!
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@HappyBluebird: Are you working on any projects while you relax? I finished up a quilt last weekend, so I'm trying to decide if I should start another.
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@MaryM: I've got a couple things I'm working on. I'm sewing a dragon stuffed animal, only because I wanted to try the pattern. I'm trying to finish up a gift for my coworker who should have her baby any day now. Its a Minnie Mouse crochet hat & diaper cover. I was having a hard time working on it, but now that its coming together I think its cute and I want to see the end result. I'm also debating starting a crochet blanket for my mom for Christmas but I have a horrible track record of starting blankets and not finishing them. Generally I start lots of things when the weather starts to get colder, the small things I finish, the big things are hit and miss.
Did you make your quilt as a gift or to keep?
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@HappyBluebird: It's a gift. My cousin's daughter is 5 and I've been meaning to make her something out of my bridesmaids dress from my cousin's wedding.
I posted a picture of just part of it on facebook (I didn't want my cousin to recognize what it was or see the whole thing).
The back is a comfy flannel. the front is four squares that have vintage appliqued stars on them (I got them off etsy years ago) and I used the dress for the sashing. It's not very large. I made it in a week.
I hear you on blankets. I've only ever crocheted baby ones...until my mom loved a baby one I was making and asked me if I could make it bigger. I'm afraid it's still not big enough, but it was my first time using yarn from a fancy store, and I've already put $90 in it!
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@MaryM: What pretty colors! That's a great idea for a bridesmaids dress! Yarn adds up quick when making the bigger blankets! I think if I commit to making this blanket I will probably make it lap size to make it a little easier to finish
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The one I finished for mom is definitely lap sized!
I got tired of baby colors, so I went with a random mix. I can see why she wanted it (it's super soft too)
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Great colors! And I Love the pattern!
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@HappyBluebird: It was super easy. It's a sprialling granny square, so you never have to tie off and change colors. I used this tutorial http://smoothfoxlover.blogspot.com/2011/03/smoothfoxs-spiral-granny-square-or.html
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@MaryM: Oohh! Thanks, I will add that to my patterns!
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@HappyBluebird: From far away, you can see the spiral if you unfocus your eyes. But close up it looks really random.
I figured out how to do it after making a blanket where I changed colors every row. Never making that mistake again!
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@HappyBluebird: Waiting is very difficult, and honestly I go back and forth. I just think I need a weekend break because this week has been so hard. Every time I think about the fact that we won't be able to try until after Christmas when we will be able to have an FET, it makes me crazy. I am trying to let go of that the best I can, because I know that really I have no control over it. It sounds like you have a really good attitude about waiting to TTC though! I think I have my good days and bad. Let's hope this time passes quickly for both of us!
@MaryM: I see the silver lining today...my moods are subject to change.
I LOVE the colors you're using for your co-worker's gift! I wish I could make something like that! Going out to breakfast sounds like fun! Enjoy! DH and I are going to go see Ouija tonight and out for dinner. I wanted to see a creepy Halloween movie. Otherwise not much up for this weekend, besides painting our upstairs bathroom (so exciting).
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@Sunshine1810: Well, seeing a silver lining today is still better than not seeing one at all, even your mood does change!
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@MaryM: I completely agree!
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@MaryM: I love how crafty you are! Very talented. I wish I could but I am so bad at knitting, etc. Probably just need to practice more. DH and I are going to see my nieces and nephews and then go swimming with dolphins tomorrow...eeeek!
@Sunshine1810: Sounds like an awesome night! Hope you have a relaxing and peaceful weekend. @HappyBluebird: Your night sounds awesome, too. I love handing out/eating candy. -
@simplyfelicity: have fun swimming with the dolphins, that's so exciting! I love eating candy too! I try and buy the kinds that aren't my favorite otherwise I'd eat it before Halloween even got here!
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@simplyfelicity: I was bad at knitting too. It took so long, I'd lose interest. Crocheting is much faster!
Crafting is my therapy. After my dad died my therapist accused me of letting my social anxiety get the best of me. To "prove her wrong" I started a monthly meet up group and got a lot better at it!
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Is it bad that I think I need to hide out just here & the IVF threads for now? I can't even handle the front page of HB right now.
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@jaguar: I've done that a lot. It's perfectly fine
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@jaguar: No shame in that at all! I think we've all been there!
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@jaguar: I have almost all the boards hidden and most of the time I go straight to this board. Definitely understandable!
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Hello all. Started miscarrying last week and looking for some community with and support from ladies who have gone through this as well. I imagine I'll be on this board for awhile especially as we wait to TTC again.
1. What is your story? Waited to try for a year, finally started TTC in August, BFP in October (thankful!!), blighted ovum and started MC last Wednesday while at work (boo!), still MCing.
2. How do you feel today? Well, today I had a horrible appointment so I am just really tired and sad. I *thought* my MC would be completely natural because I've been bleeding for 9 days and I passed significant tissue Sunday night. But my ultrasound today showed a gestational sac still stubbornly stuck at 5w2d, and the obgyn wants me to take Misoprotol if it's still there next Friday. I really want(ed) to avoid medical intervention.
I'm also sad because the obgyn said no sex for four weeks after I stop bleeding, AND, to wait 6 months to start TTC again, supposedly to let my uterus heal and strengthen. Given that it was a blighted ovum / MC at 6w5d, this recommendation is totally not in line with any advice I see online. I don't really plan on waiting 6 months, more like... 2? We'll see. I also will never be going to this obgyn again.
3. If you have any "next steps" what are they? See above.
4. Is there something else in your life you are "investing" in? Probably mainly my emotional and physical recovery. I'm trying to look for all the silver linings and stress out about my job less. If I'm not pregnant by April/May next year I will be seeking a job change and possibly a career change. Long story short, I'm a teacher in a school that operates antithetically to my beliefs as an educator.
I, too, had a blighted ovum that was diagnosed at 10 weeks when I started spotting. The bleeding held off until my d&c a few days later when it started on my way to the hospital.
I LOVE the colors you're using for your co-worker's gift! I wish I could make something like that! Going out to breakfast sounds like fun! Enjoy! DH and I are going to go see Ouija tonight and out for dinner. I wanted to see a creepy Halloween movie. Otherwise not much up for this weekend, besides painting our upstairs bathroom (so exciting).
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