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Here are some things that I found helped:

I made a list of things that made me happy. Little things like a cold glass of wine, a new magazine, spending half an hour in a bookstore. And when I started to feel really sad I would do one.

I planned vacations. It gave me something to look forward to so I wasn't always living from month to month.

I made a list of things that I was going to miss when I was pregnant/a parent - things like impulsively going to a movie, sleeping in, spending a whole day on the couch watching Netflix, eating cereal for dinner. I added it to it as I thought of things.

I started keeping a daily journal of the happiest moment of my day. It only takes a minute before bed, it forces you even on sucky days to think of a bright spot, and it's so great to be able to look back through it and remember little moments.

It's hard - I spent five years trying to get a baby, and my first pregnancy also ended in a miscarriage. I'm crossing my fingers for you!

This is a strange recommendation to make on an online forum but stepping back from the Internet and social media was helpful - this included less time on facebook and not participating in the monthly POAS boards here, not browsing reddit ttc boards etc. Tough at first but really helped me - i know this may be an individual thing as a lot of people find so much comfort in online support.

I'm so sorry for your loss and I hope there is an uneventful pregnancy just around the corner for you.

I had to step away from social media and online forums for a bit. It was painful to see other people announcing pregnancies and getting BFPs while I was mourning my losses. It helped my mental state tremendously.
Other than that, having plans to look forward to really helped. We also started remodeling our bathroom which is a big distraction.
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lots of great ideas above! I also have a private blog that I used as a journal. it really helped me to get my feelings out and ramble . . . I kind of work through things that way. I would write as often as I wanted to (or not), and definitely when I was feeling down, or when something exciting happened. it's also been interesting to go back and read different points in my journey now that I've had success.

@erinbaderin: I love the happiest moment of the day journal! What a great idea.

Getting off of social media helped my mood tremendously! Also, planning girl's night out, date nights, etc really helped me focus on the joy that I do have.

Our first took 8 months to conceive and we had a miscarriage at the 4 month mark. It was very hard because all of my friends were having babies and no one seemed to struggle. We planned a few trips - ones that I knew I didn't want to be pregnant for! And I did practice self care in the form of working out a lot, enjoying alone time with husband, going out with friends. It is very hard, especially when trying for that first baby. Hang in there!