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Yup. For about two weeks I cried everyday when the sun went down. My baby blues were mostly tied up in anxiety (which I deal with regularly). I was constantly worried that the baby would suffocate, or was starving, etc. I even worried that maybe I hadn't been ready to have a baby because caring for her was just so totally overwhelming. But once the hormones leveled out and I became accustomed to meeting her needs everything was fine and I never progressed to ppd.

Well, I'm only 3.5 mo out, but so far no. I had one rough day/night when we were supposed to be going home from the hospital but instead were moved to Peds due to jaundice. I had to stay with her alone (only 1 person was allowed after visiting hours) and feed her every 1-2 hours to help with the jaundice. I was totally sleep deprived (I'd missed 2 nights of sleep due to labor), sad she had to be in an isolate, and disappointed not to be going home. I cried SO much. Other than that though, my mood has been great despite a lot of stress.

I think there's a pretty powerful combination of hormonal changes, sleep deprivation and stress. For thr first couple weeks it was pretty rough. I was so tired and for me, breastfeeding made me feel alone in the beginning. It was painful in the beginning and as much as my husband was willing to help I felt so completely responsible for her care and like i might never have a life again. It never got out of control but I cried a good amount. I'd call that baby blues.

@JerricaBenton: this! I also spent a fair amount of time thinking I would never have a life again! Now at 4 months in we just tote her around wherever we go and it's great : )

I experienced it with DD; I had a lot of anxiety with her and cried pretty much every day at the same time. I didn't have it nearly as strongly with DS, though, and once we left the hospital, I felt great.

@Honeybee: I didn't know that! I thought I'd have it really badly with #1, but I had just 2 really good cries and sailed through the rest. WhT shocked me more was the blues I experienced with #2. I had no idea that there were such strong hormonal shifts in adoption! Going back to work right away didn't help. That took a little longer, but after a couple weeks I was fine. I don't know that I even cried. I just felt shell-shocked.

Yup. I cried almost every night the first couple weeks, about breast feeding, being a mom, lack of sleep.... But by 2-2.5 weeks after birth, I was basically fine. My husband was amazing! I had had him read up on PPD, and basically said to him, "tell me if I need to call someone, and I will. If you think I'm ok, I trust you." He was great, and at 5 weeks, I'm fine (and the breast feeding and sleep deprivation are MUCH improved!).

@Honeybee: I thought going from 1-2 was initially a much harder adjustment than 0-1.... But it got easier fairly quickly (though it may have played a role).

Yes, I was emotional - I loved the baby but I wasn't happy like my DH and family for the first couple weeks. Happiness creeped in slowly and by 3 or 4 weeks ppd I finally felt like we were so blessed.

What was the worst was other people's advice or helpful hints on being a mother - they always made me feel like I was being judged. I would excuse myself and cry in the bathroom after those conversations. Even though I knew I was being irrational, I couldn't help the tears.

everything stressed me out. breastfeeding, visitors, calming DS when he cried, the lack of sleep. I cried and cried.
It took about 4-6 weeks for me to be happy. I never thought of it as the 'baby blues', I just chalked it up to learning how to do everything and being physically exhausted.

I've had bouts of it since LO was born. The worst was when MIL visited. It was all about her drama, etc. I felt like I had no one in my corner, not even my husband. Nobody seemed to take into account that I was 8 weeks postpartum and breastfeeding. When the drama ramped up, LO's and mine's health suffered emotionally and physically. I'm fearing our upcoming trip for these reasons.

Yep I cried everyday when the sun went down like pp have mentioned. I had no control over it so I just cried as long as i needed to, DH was very supportive and understanding. Mine only lasted about a week but that was a tough week to get thru. I couldn't even really tell you why or what was going thru my mind cause it was just a completely overwhelming feeling of everything that was going to happen/ change. It seemed to really help to get out of the house and get some sun. So i would walk a few houses down and back or sit on the back patio in the sun.

i definitely had baby blues and like @JerricaBenton: said i think it was a combo of the sleep deprivation, stress, AND hormones. I know from being in school for years and pulling all nighters what effect sleep deprivation can have for a few days, never mind weeks! I look back on those first 6 - 8 weeks and they are a blur. I think the fact that they are a blur is the only reason i want to have another child! It was hard!! Luckily, like you, I had DH attend the class with me and he was VERY supportive, kind and understanding and did everything within in his power to make things easier for me. I think his goal was to not let baby blues turn into PPD, and thankfully it didn't. One thing that helped for sure was that L started STTN at 8 weeks. I can't be sure how long i would have felt that way if the sleep deprivation continued for months like some people have to deal with.

I did both times. I had stressful births, and with my first I had a low milk supply and had to supplement, which I felt awful about. I wanted things to be different the next time, so with daughter #2 I actually dehydrated and made smoothies with my placenta. We had a heck of a time getting the hospital to release it to us, but finally we said we wanted to plant a tree over it, and they thought we were weird fringe people, but they gave it to us. It helped big time, at least that's how it seemed. Even though that birth was more stressful in many ways I had an easier time. It does also help lots to have a supportive partner, which I had the second time around but not the first. Also, the placenta is supposed to help with lactation. I can't say if it did for sure, but I did not have to supplement with my second.

@Mrsjets: I felt the same way! People would tell me in the beginning to "enjoy every moment" and that made me feel like garbage because I was just so overridden with anxiety.

Yes, and was diagnosed with post-partum depression. I was prescribed medication but I opted (after much thought, prayer, and counselling) to not take it. I believed that it had to do with a colicky newborn, high expectations on myself to be a great mom from the get go, and a tough recovery. It lasted for about 3.5 months.

I said no. I should note, though, that when my daughter started doing some truly terrible wakeups at about 7 months (5-7 times a night), I had them then. And now that I get to sleep all night, I see how badly it affects me when I don't. Interrupted sleep is a huge depression trigger for many people.

I was all over the place emotionally and had more than a few breakdowns. When my sister booked her train ticket to go home I had a complete meltdown and she changed her ticket for stay one more day! lol!

The first week I cried constantly. The second week I cried most of the time. The third week I asked my doctor for a Rx of Zoloft. I've barely cried since then. But now I don't know if I would have felt better on my own around that same time, or if the Zoloft is just doing its job. But I feel like things ain't broke, so I'm not going to rock the boat right now.

My mom had severe PPD and I'm very cautious about it.