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Yes, started in December. Engaged the next month and married shortly after that.
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@septca: Oh yeah, ours too! We actually got engaged the first year we were dating. Yes, we had an 8 year engagement LOL I eventually stopped waiting to plan the wedding and didn't talk about it until he brought it up LOL I knew we'd get married eventually.
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Hell yes!
We dated for three years before moving in together, then were engaged for another 1.5 years before we got married!
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For years before we were even engaged. We met when I was 20, moved in together when I was 22, engaged when I was 25 and married when i was 27.
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@snowjewelz: Us too!
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Yep. I even got pregnant before we were even engaged
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we moved in together about 3 months before he proposed. he said he wouldn't have proposed without living together first(which I doubt, since it's come out that he was looking at rings like a year BEFORE we moved in together and he proposed.)
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@Mrs. Lion: my guess is that this is true because people who choose not to live together prior to marriage are often more conservative in their religious practices, which would also make them less likely to choose divorce. i don't think it's because living together prior to marriage is bad for a relationship.
i lived with two people, my ex & mr. bird. i would never consider marriage without living with someone. i also can't imagine marrying someone without sleeping with them first. i think you need to know you're compatible with a SO on all the levels married people need to be before making a decision
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@locavore_mama: Totally! It is still a secret. Shhh...
@yoursilverlining: LOL! Us too. We bought our home in June and got married in August. We had been engaged for a year at that point and we found a home sooner than we expected!
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Yes! I had just moved out of my parents house & was spending so much time at his I just ended up moving from living with a friend to living with DH. We ended up closing on our house about 6 months later & finding out we were pregnant at the same time (*gasp* lol) & we got married when LO was 1 month old
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Nope. I wanted to but dh didn't. He wanted to wait until we were married.
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We got our first apartment together while engaged about 5 months before wedding. We might as well have been living together for the 2 years before getting married though. We rarely didn't sleep at same place during that time.
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@mrs. bird: maybe so. I have plenty of very happily married friends who lived together first. For me, i felt like the commitment of marriage would make learning to compromise on the little things that come up living together easier though. I was choosing to devote my life to this person. I knew plenty about him to decide to marry him without living with him first. We agreed on the big stuff...kids, faith, family, career tracks, how we spend our money....the little things don't really matter to us. But, everyone is different.
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We lived together for about a year and half before getting engaged.
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We totally shacked up. Before we were even engaged! The horror!
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nope. we didn't live together until we were married and the first time we had sex was the night of our wedding. easily one of the best decisions we ever made.
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No, I never had a live-in boy friend. For a hot moment when my husband and I were long distance we entertained the notion of me moving to his city and into his home. In that scenario we would have moved have married sooner. But, after a job search we started focusing on me moving to his state and living about 3 hours away in another city and my own apartment. If we ended up doing the
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Well, it wasn't really a choice. I went straight from graduating college (living with my parents) to getting married and moving halfway across the country into our first house.
However, I told him that after I graduated and moved to be by him I was NOT going to live him - I seriously think that's part of why he proposed and we got married so quickly! -
Yes. We got engaged and moved across the country a week later. We got married two years later.
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With my husband no, we lived on different continents. We moved in together after we were married and I moved abroad.
Prior to that, I had a long term boyfriend, but he and i never lived together as in we split the rent. He stayed over, yeah, we didn't live together.
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No, we never lived together before getting married. For one thing, my parents would have flipped out. However, it never really came up because my scholarships required that I live on campus. We got married a month after I graduated.
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Yep, we moved in together after I graduated and moved to a different city. My parents were surprisingly ok with it. For us it went:
- live together for 2 years,
- buy a lot, start building a house
- get engaged
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we moved in together in August, got engaged the following July, bought a house in February and married in October. I knew it would all work out for forever.
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Yep. Originally I wasn't sure about it, but DH was super insistent because prior to us meeting he was in a 4 year relationship where they moved in together shortly after getting engaged, and everything totally went to hell immediately. So I compromised on it and moved in with him, but he obviously knew it was important to me and didn't string me alone or anything - he proposed after about 3 months of living together.
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yip, we lived together for 1.5 years before we got engaged...and I lived with my ex-boyfriend for a year before DH. My parents didn't mind at all.
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Yes, we were engaged for about a year and half before we moved in together. We lived together for 10 months before getting married.
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<---- big sinner. We lived together 4 years before we got married. We also bought a house & had a dog together. My dad was a pastor growing up so they were less than pleased.
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Yup, and I lived with others before him. DH and I even bought a house before we were engaged.
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Oh geez I moved in with DH after high school and didn't get engaged until 9 years later, we were already on our 3rd house. We got married after another year and DS came 53 weeks later. We got married to start a family, best thing we've done!
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We didn't technically live together, but we stayed at each other's place really often.
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@septca: yes! We also bought our house a year before getting engaged. So hard to wait for the proposal!
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Nope- we didn't live together until we were married
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Yep for about a year before we were engaged!
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I moved in with him and his roommates after about a year of dating. I was spending a ton of time over there and having a really hard time finding new roommates (I had been renting a room from a couple and they were about to have their second baby, it was time for me to go!). One of DH's friends was moving out so I moved in. While technically I rented my own room in the house, it was mainly just storage. I stayed in DH's room. We lived there for about a year before getting our own place.
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Heck ya we did. Our wedding invitations were addressed from where we lived.
ETA: The wording on our invitations was a huge discussion, because we felt that, being in our 30's, that our parents didn't need to be on the invitation. Neither one were giving anyone to the other. Probably a huge etiquette breach, but how we felt at the time.
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I lived with a boyfriend for several years prior to meeting my husband. When I met my husband, we moved in together within three weeks of starting to date. We were married in less than a year.
I guess I don't really see what the big deal is, I don't know anyone IRL who waited until they were married to live with their SO.
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My DH moved in with me bc my brother moved out. I was too old to find a random roommate and all my friends were married or living with their bf. My parents hated the idea, but what are they going to do to their 30 year old daughter that owns her own condo?! We lived together for 3 years before getting married.
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Nope. I mean, I moved into his place a week before the wedding but didn't officially live together.
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@Honeydew: Exactly. Whether my parents were uncomfortable with it or not, I have no idea. Nor do I care.
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Yes we did -- for 3 years and through a move across the country for my job. I also lived with an ex previously, and through living together, we discovered that marriage was not in the cards for us.
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