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The blog wont' load on my computer, but I do understand the basic idea from your OP! Even though we took time as a married couple before TTC and were 100% sure we wanted a baby, it was still kind of shocking to change the family dynamic so much. We will eventually go out more often if we ever sell our dang house and finally have spending money!

We're only 9 weeks into parenthood and I miss my husband a lot! We've been together 10 years before LO came, so it's not like we didn't have plenty of time to enjoy just each other... but as much as love our son, we both miss the twosome that we were. It sound weird to say that out loud (or online)!

We have always made our relationship a priority and I think with that comes being very blessed to have 2 sets of grandparents within close babysitting distance and who we trust. I've also never been one to fret about overnight stays, so LO has always been comfortable sleeping at their houses allowing us a chance to catch up on sleep (when she was a baby.) This was lifesaving to us! We thought our relationship was better post baby than before, we just worked as a unit so much better, I know this isn't normal though.

Yep, I feel this way. I feel like we hardly know each other anymore. And I actually sort of wonder if the many years of independent adult life I had before marriage and the long courtship and years of marriage before kids made the transition harder. I had way too many years to get selfish and lazy. Like having so little say over how I spend my time, and how we spend our time as a couple, was a complete shock because we'd had it all our own way for so long.

Wow this strikes a chord. I think our relationship is definitely stronger and we bicker far, far less since having DS - but there were times in the early days when I would be sobbing with how much I missed DH and what we had before.

We do, but damn, sometimes life changes. E was supposed to go to MIL's tonight and DH and I were going to go out for a nice dinner, rent a movie, etc. And she's sick with a fever, so all our twosome plans have come crashing down. SUch is life. I distinctly remember feeling like I "missed" my husband and "us", but it was a phase that passed. One that I am not looking forward to again

@Mae: I think for women, becoming a parent is something we're forced into pretty quickly. (If you're carrying your child, that is.) You adapt your life to fit this new development and literally carry it around with you for 40-ish weeks. We start thinking about what this means for us and our relationships right away. For dads, this revelation really only occurs when the baby is on the "outside" and it can take them a bit longer to adapt/come around to parenthood.

@dagret: That is probably true. But also I think that it can sort of just depend on your personality. I've always just been sort of a "this is our situation" type person. I think that I just tend towards contentment and so it is easy for me to adapt to things and be happy. My husband is more of a "wouldn't it be nice if" person. I think he just has always tended to spend more time thinking about his "ideal" and has to work harder at contentment than I do.

@Mae: I agree, my husband is the same way, even now, with an almost 2 yr old and another on the way. He's always saying "we never spontaneously do things anymore" - um, duh, what part of having children did you think would be footloose and fancy free?