I hope I'm not asking a dangerous question!
It's easy to get along with my in-laws since I only see them once a year, but honestly they are both pretty laid back and cool.
Mr. Bee gets along with my parents as well because they are pretty laid back too (for Asian parents!).
Maybe that partly has to do with the fact that both of our parents live far away, but we've always had a good relationship with our in-laws. I know that family can = drama!
Do you and your SO get along with your in-laws?
honeydew / 7622 posts
Yup. My MIL is one of my closest friends and truly a second Mother to me. We've become closer since T was born. But I've known her since high school so that helps. She can hover a bit at times but that's just her way. Her husband we don't see much. That's fine with everyone, he has his own adult children. No bad feelings.
I don't consider M's Dad my FIL I have not had any contact with him since our wedding 9 years ago.
apricot / 347 posts
Yep! We get along great! The relationship between my MIL and her other DIL is strained. Although, my SIL's relationship which everyone is strained so...
hostess / eggplant / 11068 posts
Yep - everyone gets along. I just experience the normal "shit my MIL says/does" stuff - it's all good though.
pomelo / 5607 posts
FIL (and SMIL) are mostly awesome. DH is close to his dad. But now that we have a kid, it's going to cause issues. FIL is very old-school authoritarian, and we're just not. At all. He's already told DH at *least* five times not to hold her too much because we'd spoil her (and he started this when she was still in the nicu). DH is hiding the fact that we cosleep from him. Once she's old enough for him to realize we not only won't stank (ETA- stank? Really phone? Spank!), but actually won't use traditional punishment at all, it's going to be a fight. Not to mention how he'll respond to extended BFing (assuming we successfully manage BFing at all).
MIL is a chain smoking, pill popping alcoholic. She started stealing from DH when he was a teen and still asks us for money. She also has always blatantly preferred his sister and youngest brother, and only started wanting to see us, or even answer DH's calls, once LO was born. So no, we don't get on with her so well.
hostess / watermelon / 14932 posts
Generally speaking. We clash on a lot (parenting styles, um, being accepting of other lifestyles.. Etc).
nectarine / 2994 posts
We get along, I just try not to see them too often and see them for short amounts of time. We used to live with my in-laws and so now anything longer then a couple of hours drives me crazy, especially mil.
GOLD / wonderful pea / 17697 posts
Yes, the whole family is absolutely wonderful. I'm incredibly lucky--I hit the IL jackpot (which makes my estranged relationship with most of my family much easier to swallow).
coconut / 8483 posts
Yep! Sometimes annoying things happen, but that happens with my family too.
pear / 1770 posts
NO. My DH's father is dead and my MIL is truly a nightmare (manipulative, verbally abusive, mentally ill addict). My own mom is dead, and I would have loved to have had a close relationship with my MIL, but it's sadly not in the cards.
honeydew / 7504 posts
I get along with them fine. I can't be around them for more than an hour or two, and don't always particularly like them, but we get along ok.
pomelo / 5621 posts
Yes we get along, I think I got pretty lucky. Sometimes they drive me crazy, but sometimes my own family drives me crazy too.
persimmon / 1396 posts
Yes, my in laws are wonderful. I couldn't ask for a better Mil and fIL.
persimmon / 1447 posts
Yes. I find myself getting irritated with comments about parenting style and the like, but they seriously love my kids and will (and have) dropped everything to help us out. We lived 3.5 hours away from them when I was pregnant with my son and they drove down twice when I thought I was in labor and wasn't. And I heard NO complaints from them. When we moved in June from FL to VA, they made the trip with us and stayed and helped us unpack and get settled. So I tend to get over their comments and general spoiling of my kids. Because at the end of the day, they adore my kids and my kids adore them and that's all that's truly important to me.
GOLD / wonderful olive / 19030 posts
Yes, I get along with his parents great and he gets along with mine great. I wouldn't say I'm "friends" with my MIL that I call her to hang out, but we have a great relationship and she's an amazing grandma to my girls.
wonderful olive / 19353 posts
My parents and aunt LOVE LOVE LOVE DH so he gets along great with them. He gets along great with my younger cousins also.
My in-laws are pretty laid back so I do! We just can't work together though or we butt heads. New school vs old school doesn't work well. lol
pomelo / 5573 posts
Sort of. I have two sets of in-laws. FIL and SMIL are generally great, although after 2 weeks of them staying with us this summer (plus their 2 adult sons plus their girlfriends) I started to hate them all - I think that was just too many people in my space for too long, plus my SMIL, who is the world's loveliest woman, is SUPER mother-y and does things like ask me if I have to go to the bathroom before we go out anywhere, which makes me crazy because I'm 36 years old and I have to pee I will just do that on my own volition. But generally I love them. Unfortunately, they live in England and we only see them once or twice a year.
MIL and SFIL are nightmares and we have virtually no relationship with them except when they call to ask for money. Luckily, they also live in a different country so they're not part of our lives at all - I've literally only met them once (and it wasn't at our wedding, because they didn't attend).
clementine / 849 posts
I probably have a closer relationship with my ILs than my own parents...
pomegranate / 3604 posts
We get along because we're reasonable, polite people. As for actually liking each other ......hmmm, not so much.
pomegranate / 3032 posts
We get along just fine... They just moved to our town and we have dinner with them probably every other week. Its nice to have them close and they adore their grand kids. hubs works at the same place as my FIL so they see each other more. I wouldnt say we go out of our way to hang out with them and I definitely dont have any where near the relationship I have with my family. They dont really "do" anything so we tend to make plans with my family more. Plus my family is huge and there is always a birthday dinner, cousin graduation something, or obscure holiday to celebrate.
grapefruit / 4355 posts
Yep - they live pretty close to us so we see them a lot. But they are pretty chill and laid back (and much like my own parents).
wonderful pea / 17279 posts
Now I do! For a while my MIL were awkwardly cordial, but a little effort to break the ice has gone a long way.
nectarine / 2641 posts
We get along--no hostility, but my ILs have a really, really hard time accepting our authority over our kids. They take it a bit better from me, but hate that DH tells them what (not) to do with our kids, so visits tend to be strained. They want a lot more freedom with the kids, but until they can demonstrate they will follow the rules we set out, they won't get it. But they are nice, generous people and we enjoy having them, aside from this issue.
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