By that I mean, an online presence that no one (or very few people) in real life know about? A secret blog perhaps?
I do YouTube videos. My most popular video has over 70,000 views. Only my DH knows about it, partly because I would feel weird about people I know watching me on YT, and partly because some of the things I talk about are controversial. Sometimes I wonder what they would think if they stumbled upon them accidentally and realized it was me. 
nectarine / 2280 posts
I start out all secretive then I get bored with the anonymity.
ETA: that's a heck of a lot of views! 
wonderful kiwi / 23653 posts
Really just HB... I don't go out of my way to tell people I'm active in an online community, but I do mention HB to people IRL that might find the site/forum helpful.
But it's not like I try so hard to hide who I really am here!
cantaloupe / 6800 posts
Yep just HB! I mean it's not secret in the sense that I don't tell anyone here who I am..but I don't tell any IRL people (other than DH) about it. I just say "my mommy FB group" or "parenting forums" etc. HB is my happy place.
AKA if any of yall have me on FB and post about HB on my wall I will cut you 
apricot / 345 posts
Almost no one IRL knows about my blog (boring attempts to be crafty). And only few people know that I am a secret artist. I do exhibitions (paintings and sculpture mostly) using my nickname.
papaya / 10343 posts
I have sort of one-way anonymity. I have a blog where I do not use my first name (I use my middle name). Anyone who reads the blog would pretty easily know who I was in real life. I've given enough identifying info (my school, the year I graduated, and my middle name would be enough) that I don't consider myself anonymous. But I also don't tell people in my real life I have it. My husband knows, as does my bff and another good friend (and now one friend I've met IRL that I met because she was a blog reader!). But I don't tell other people because I think they'd think it was dumb haha.
Sometimes I think about starting a new blog that would be "out in the open" but I'm a crap blogger anyways, I rarely update!
blogger / watermelon / 14218 posts
@Skadi: aw man now I GOTSTA KNOW!!! can we at least know the subject matter??
wonderful pea / 17279 posts
Not really. I don't hide HB (my only on-line presence), but I don't advertise it either. What's on here is what I would say IRL.
apricot / 456 posts
@mrs. wagon: I'm a men's rights activist (MRA), so most of my videos are critiques of the feminist paradigm. I can give you my YT name if you're really interested...but I'm guessing my views are not that popular on HB.
nectarine / 2272 posts
I have a pretty damn popular horror movie blog, but I don't talk about it a lot to my "real life" friends. I'm sure none of them have ever even read it! But I meet "fans" when I go to horror conventions and stuff.
apricot / 456 posts
@Mae: Well, now I'm second guessing myself on whether I should share it. 
Okay, here's one of my videos...but if you love feminism, you're really going to hate me. Fair warning!
[link removed per Hellobee's self promotion policy]
grapefruit / 4187 posts
I started a blog once and DH was so proud of me that he decided to tell ALL of our friends and family about it! There was immediatley so much pressure to succeed that I dropped it right away. ONe of these days I will blog again but not even DH will know!
pomegranate / 3706 posts
It seems to me, most MRAs I've come across love to stir the pot...and get lots of views...
kiwi / 687 posts
@Skadi: I had no idea MRA was a movement! I think you make some excellent points without being abrasive or hostile. Thanks for sharing.
As for the question, I've tried to blog secretly a couple of times but never kept it up. I do stay somewhat anonymous on here, though.
apricot / 456 posts
@erinpye: If you think I'm here just to stir the pot to get more views, I think you overestimate HelloBee's traffic.
persimmon / 1183 posts
I have several big online identities in separate communities. But I keep them all away from each other and real life. =)
I used to run a very popular blog. Then I used to moderate forums. I used to run a server for a popular online gaming community as well.
Aaaaand that's as specific as I get.
cantaloupe / 6923 posts
@Skadi: I wish there was a clapping emoticon!! So done with feminists!
wonderful pear / 26210 posts
As in, do a have an alternate identity where I perform burlesque in a local theater? No. I'm not organized enough to have more than one active identity.
hostess / cantaloupe / 6486 posts
I have nothing to hide. I enjoy not having my friends on here but I wouldn't be upset if I discovered they were & knew it was me.
pear / 1852 posts
I'm Mrs. D both here and on my blog, but I'm not secretive about it. http://readingwithmissd.blogspot.ca/
pomegranate / 3759 posts
Nothing really secret, just more of a lifestyle I wouldn't throw in anyone's face. My IG has turned into mainly my passion of hunting.
pomegranate / 3791 posts
@mrs. bird: I'm wondering too. I think people who dislike feminism have no idea what feminism really is. I can't watch the video right now because the sound is broken on my computer, but feminism is thinking men and women are equal. That is it. Not liking feminism because of some things that some feminists do makes about as much sense as people who bash all men because of something a douchebag ex of theirs did.
pomelo / 5000 posts
@Lindsay05: I can imagine getting into bird hunting with a dog I've trsined. I'll leave the deer and turkey hunting to my husband. 
apricot / 456 posts
@wonderstruck: That's a No True Scotsman fallacy. And I find it hard to believe that anyone who is educated about feminism to the degree that they have read the major works of Steinem, Dworkin, Frieden, etc. actually believes that feminism is simply about treating men and women equally under the law. Far from it. In reality, feminists very often fight to have women elevated above men, whether it's affirmative action job quotas or the gender-biased domestic violence laws in California and OT or the way child custody meted out in deference for the female party. And then there's the whole patriarchy nonsense that paints every male as guilty of some form of oppression or another, and the broadening of the term rape to include all sorts of acts (like having sex while the woman is drunk, even if the man is also drunk) or Dworkin's belief that all sex of any kind is rape or...well, this post is getting too long. When you get a chance, watch some videos by MRAs to hear some of the arguments against feminism. They go into much more detail than one post could allow for here. Here's a decent starting point that addresses the "Feminism=Equal Rights" claim:
blogger / nectarine / 2600 posts
@Skadi: I have never heard of MRA before and watched some of your video before my son tripped and yanked the speaker cord out of my computer.
I wont lie, Im not a feminist (at least I dont feel I am though I do support woman's rights when it comes to their bodies, contraceptives, abortions, rape culture, etc) and I have to say some of the things you said about how men give and sacrifice and made the civilized world we have today etc is fine and good but so did woman. History may not speak as much about woman who changed the world as much as men but I guarantee that the world we have was built on just as much blood, sweat, and tears of females as it was males.
I feel like some of the things you mention about women not needing men but wanting support from the government system is somewhat biased and slanted. We have government assisted programs to assist those in need, men woman and children its not as if its solely there for woman alone and men never benefit or use the system either. Also men demand protection from the military, police, firemen, etc as well. Its not a blanket protection of just woman here. As for child support and such, men only provide these things if they make a significant portion more than their former partner. Woman can just as easily pay for alimony as well if they make more but traditionally they make less usually for all the reasons you seem to be against (gaining entry into field typically dominated by males), the idea that woman make less per dollar in similar fields even if they are just as qualified and schooled.
Like I said Im not a feminist so I cant argue statistics and numbers about this and that but I love my husband, he does work hard for our family financially so I can stay at home to raise our kids but I dont need him in the way I feel your speech implies. I dont need him to provide for me, I need him because he is my partner and I am his and Im sure he would say the same thing. We work together to create the lives we have and in part we both sacrifice and work hard at the aspects we need to. I dont need him to take care of me, I need him because he is my best friend, father to my children, my love. Its true I dont need a man; but I do like having one to by my side to love, cherish, care, and support me and I him in this life we share.
coconut / 8234 posts
@anonysquire: If you're done with feminists, you'd probably have to be done with a lot of people who give you great advice on HB then, too.
@Skadi: I watched your video, it was interesting. I agree with PP that you presented your argument in a clear manner, I actually watched most of it even though I completely disagree with you--and that's a good thing for someone who disagrees, normally I'd have stopped watching from the first few minutes (though I didn't make it through the entire thing).
To your OP: my only "secret" identity is here on HB, I'm not active anywhere else. It's not that secret though. People can find out who I am if they really wanted to.
ETA: Though if I did have a secret identity, I would keep it secret. Seems weird to divulge a secret identity unless you didn't want it to actually remain a secret?
bananas / 9628 posts
@Skadi: is it just women seeking freedom from oppressive practices that you take issue with or is it also other movements seeking equality such as racial equality or equal rights for the LGBT community?
pomelo / 5000 posts
@mrs. bird: @skadi: and anyone else who is interested......can we have a spin off thread about this topic? This is a whole new topic to me!
cantaloupe / 6669 posts
@mrsjazz: Yes! @anonysquire: I don't think you meant this literally because then you are done with me
@Skadi: I have studied feminism and I am a proud feminist. No fallacies here. That woman would not be able to wear her hair short and a sleeveless shirt - oh and VOTE - if it weren't for the life risking feminists of many generations. I proudly wear the title!
cantaloupe / 6669 posts
PS: I am just going to leave this here. Equity is where it's at!
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