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I feel the same way. We were such an awesome couple before. I still think we are, but having kids just makes the relationship harder. We both work full time, plus he has 2 side businesses (so he can eventually drop his current "job"), so I hardly ever see him after we put the kids to bed.

It's made me appreciate him more. He's really transitioned into parenthood gracefully and makes my life easier as much as he can. I do love him more because I see him in a new way.

I voted differently. Because I agree that since having DD there is obviously much less us time, and we do snap at each other, or sometimes focus on our own stress more. But at the same time, it's very attractive to see him as a dad. He solo parents way more than I do, and with certain things, he does way better than me w/ DD! So that does make me love him in a whole new light.

I'm not going to answer the poll because I'm just not sure how. I think that we have much more extreme highs and lows since having our son. Some moments I feel such an overwhelming love for my husband as a dad that I could sob. But I also want to kill him way more than I did before My patience is way lower and the same annoying habits he had before annoy me more. We definitely argue more, but we also get over it a lot sooner and make up nicely. We do communicate more, but it's still not enough (he's just not a feelings/talking guy).

So I can't say I love him the same...but not less...and not more. Maybe differently is the right answer. But I still have romantic love for him, we have plenty of alone time and go on regular date nights. I still see him as the man I started dating 17 years ago. So it's not like I only love him as a partner/parent. So I really don't know how to answer!
Plus we had a REALLY rough first year of parenthood. So sometimes that still plays back in my mind, despite being in a great place now.

The same, and differently. I love watching DH be a father, and he's a great dad. He's been an amazing husband since LO came along, and is still amazing after I found out I was pregnant again, and constantly tired. He does so much, and I appreciate him so much. Before having kids, it was just us, and I did the majority of the household work because I could. Its been amazing seeing him step up. It came with some bickering though.

More, for me. Although it may just be that I feel my emotions more since becoming a mom (and also due to our several losses). I think maybe it helps that we always re-iterate to each other that we are part of a team. Pre-LO, we were both pretty independent (especially with grad school and then our careers, since we are in very different fields) so having LO has really bound us together more.

More. I've seen different sides of him as a father and they're great. But, being pregnant with the third is crazy, me and him are in need of a mini vacation sans kids, we're kinda in a pass each other sleepily in the hall stage.

Differently.

I think more. Our relationship is certainly worse, we fight more, I have less patience, and we have no alone time, but through all the hard times in parenting there is no one is rather do it with and the idea of doing it without him is horrible. I look forward to the time when we can spend more time with each other but I'm glad he is on my team.