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Me!!!!! I want one child for sure, but i've never been the kind of person who kids enjoy being around nor do I get all mushy every time I see a child. I know I want one but i'm genuinely terrified that I'll be a bad mom so even though DH wants two i'm worried I won't want that.

*I don't mean bad mom as in abusive or neglectful, I just don't know if i'm going to bond with a baby, idk. eek.

Before having LO I was thinking 2 or 3...but now that she's here I feel so fulfilled and want to spend all my attention on her...she's just perfect to me and I don't have any ounce of baby fever.

It's silly but people tell me that you only have one easy baby so I am freaked out at the thought of having #2 and he/she being super difficult. We will almost 100% have another baby but as of now I feel like I could be happy being one and done

Yeah, we were thinking about being one and done but I think DD would like a sibling so we went for #2.

@sandy: My BIL and SIL had the easiest baby in the world with their first...their second *screamed* day in and day out for 10 months, with 15-20 minutes of passing out every few hours in between. No one could console him, nothing helped...I didn't know DH then, but all of the family--MIL and FIL included--still talk about it with a shudder. He's 5 now, and has a smoker's rasp. That story alone makes me want to have only one (and hope it's the easy one, lol).

@mediagirl: We're only planning on having the one, and I feel the same way. Maybe if we won the lottery or something we'd consider a second someday, but as it stands we feel we can give one a good life, but two would be harder.

We don't really talk about it with our families, but I've been amazed by the judgement even the idea of only having one seems to bring. I haven't even had this one yet, and we're already being told how selfish we'll be if we don't get on giving him or her a sibling ASAP.

I've always wanted four (before I turned 30 and was younger!) but two is enough unless we have an accident.... then we'll be having three! LOL! A girl would be nice to sort of balance things out in our household!

Honestly, now that I know how difficult it is to have a child, I think I'd probably be happy with just one... but yes, we do feel like we have to have at least one more kid. DH is an only child, and both of us are from very small families. If we only have the one child, it's possible that she will never have *any* first cousins, so we feel like we at least owe her a sibling.

We get enormous outside pressure to have a second child when we tell people that that we are probably only going to have one. The pressure comes from family, friends and even acquaintances. It's amazing how people like to tell you what you should and should not do.

Our decision was made based on a number of items including my age (38), career, finances, etc. The sibling argument is valid, but both DH and I are not very close to our siblings at all so we know just because you have more than one child, doesn't mean the children will get along.

Now that little one is here I do feel the tug to one day have another because honestly, this is the best feeling ever. I fully expected this and knew it would be tough. That being said, I still feel like one child is all we can handle well, especially right now. If we have a second it won't be for the reasoning of providing a sibling to LO. It would be because we feel it is something that is right for our family and that we would have the time, energy, and resources to devote to baby #2.

We are only having one (that I know of) because we have just enough on our plate, without overdoing it ---time, resources, energy, health, etc. Yes, I feel a little guilty since I know siblings can add so much to a family. I read a book on advantages (and things to address) of single child families. That helped me realize there can be benefits too. But yes, I hope she doesn't get mad one day. We will just make sure she has lots of good lifelong friendships since we don't plan on moving anywhere.

I'm the opposite. I really want 2, but I think we can only have 1 financially. I hate it because both DH and I are only children, and it just makes me sad that they won't have a big family at all like we did when we were growing up with all the aunts and uncles and cousins and everything. Everybody is so spread out now, or dead, or not talking.

I'm an identical twin so I never got to be the only child. We are having two and that is more because DH wanted more than 1 child.