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They do! In laws always send gifts
Last year they sent a $200 gift card to.. Omaha steaks! -
My husband's family isn't a gift giving bunch, in general. His dad and stepmom do send LO gifts but they're the only ones. They also never send birthday cards or anything like that. My family always celebrated birthdays and holidays and always did gifts, so it was strange at first to me to see his family not do anything.
We would always send his brothers and their families Christmas presents but we hardly ever got a thank you, do I just stopped shopping for them. -
No none of my in-laws acknowledged my birthday. And my husband told them when it was like 2 weeks before when they were here for our wedding. I didn't even get a call or a card or an email or anything. I shouldn't be surprised because they don't do anything for Christmas.
It is just so crazy how different 2 families can be. My family takes DH out every year for his birthday, gets him a cake and everyone gives him presents and a card. And for christmas they treat him like another son, giving him gifts from Santa, from the family, they even gave him a cruise trip last year.
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They always call me (my mil accidentally called a day early this year, lol) and give a gift.
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@mamapink: Aw, well if they do for everyone else I can totally understand why you would be bummed
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Gee, I don't think any of them know when my birthday is. And it's never even occurred to me to send my inlaws anything. DH always calls his dad and sister on their birthdays, so I add my Happy Birthdays to his. I have no idea when my sister's husband's birthday is. Birthdays just aren't that big a deal to me.
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@MediaNaranja: happy belated birthday! =)
@evenstar982: my in laws live about 45-90 min away (depending on traffic) but they visit us EVERY SINGLE SATURDAY.
the past two years i've been making excuses to be busy around my birthday so that they don't visit us. it kind of defeats the purpose of celebrating your birthday if you have to ask/force people to do it for you.
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I've decided that starting this new year I am going to send a card to my immediate family and in-laws for their Bday and major holidays. NOt because then hopefully they will remember my birthday, but because maybe I need to remember peoples bdays too!
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It's a family thing! My family has always been big into birthdays. Use to give small gifts but the last few yeas we have stopped doing that because I was getting married and saving money, its more about the kids anyways. Christmas is a whole different story! My family has broke me a time or two so last year we agreed that the "young adults" would only spend 20/ person.
With the MIL & FIL there is a card with 20 bucks & they usually take us out to eat. If not we get together for cake and ice cream. The rest of the family usually does a FB or Txt message. Except for this one sister, she is REALLY cranky, I expect nothing and get nothing & I'm fine with that.
Christmas is way different with them. For the hubby & I we exchange gifts with the parents and that's all. We really hate that we can't get gifts for the nieces and nephews. They said when we have kids we can. There is about a 20 yr age difference between my husband and his siblings. Thankfully their kids are old enough and understand that its not our fault.
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My MIL does (they are divorced). She always sends a card, calls, or gives me a gift.
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Definitely! I get a card, a gift, and a phone call from them...and my parents do the same for my DH. I think we just both come from families that like to celebrate birthdays!
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@mamapink: I've been married for 28 years and my mother in law ignores only my birthday. My kids get cards with money, my husband gets a visit at his office with a card, money and a gift. I get nothing. I have the entire family to my home with an elaborate dinner for Christmas Eve. I had my father in laws birthday dinner here this year. It's very hurtful just to be treated differently. I don't need a gift and wouldn't mind if they just acknowledged the kids and not my husband or myself. It feels as if she feels I'm not part of the family, despite what she says. What hurts more is that my husband won't address it. I don't want him to be rude or fight with them. I suggested he tell them not to get him anything because it causes hurt feelings when they don't do the same for both of us. He says they have been good to him so he can't. I'm to the point of stopping all the celebrations I do at my house for them. I work hard to make them special but I'm done! Not sure what the solution is. I love my husband but it feels like he is protecting his mother's feelings over mine.
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My MIL usually sends me a gift for my birthday, but I would not care if she ignored it. I am not all that into celebrating my (or any adult's, really) birthday. I feel a little responsible to plan something for my husband's birthday but that is about it. He never does anything for mine though, so the bar is low.
I do, however, think it's important to celebrate a child's birthday! I think is weird that she ignored her grandchild's birthday.
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My in laws celebrate my birthday more or less the same as their children. We usually have a dinner with cake and gifts. This year we were on vacation so they came down for the day with a cake in a cooler. I think it's important to treat in laws like family.
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I barely acknowledge my own birthday, so it's not important to me if others do anything at all.
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I think the first year DH and I were together they did, when we were only dating for a few months.
They haven't mentioned it once since. I personally think it's rude. My birthday is 2 days after MILs too, so it's not like she's forgetting it.
My parents give DH a card and small gift every year.
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Yes. My mil's bday is the day after mine. My husband's family actually makes a bigger deal about bdays than mine does and they always expect a get together. My in laws always give me a thoughtful gift. My own parents just give me a check. Lol.
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This year I got an unsigned card with an Amazon gift card tucked inside. I'd much rather receive a signed card, or even a text, than a gift.
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@mamapink: Unfortunately I share my Birthday with my MIL. Until this year this has meant we had to have dinner with them on our birthday every year. This was different cause baby two was born I we moved further away!
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Eight years later, I'm still waiting for my husband's sister to acknowledge our marriage! The b*&tch still sends Christmas cards addressed only to him and, of course, sends a card for his birthday every year. She's 75 now...I'm practicing the dance steps for her grave.
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