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How is your relationship with your MIL?

  • poll: How is your relationship with your MIL?
    I love her! She's like a mother to me : (23 votes)
    17 %
    We get along okay, but I don't think of her as a mom : (91 votes)
    68 %
    We don't get along at all : (10 votes)
    7 %
    She's not in the picture : (4 votes)
    3 %
    Other (explain below) : (6 votes)
    4 %
  1. BSB

    hostess / wonderful apple seed / 16729 posts

    Mine is very complicated. There are highs and lows over the past 15 years that I've dated/engaged/married to DH. Currently 'ok/eh'.

  2. newlypregnantlady

    kiwi / 556 posts

    I'm very lucky to have my MIL. My own mother was a bipolar addict while I was growing up and I had a very unstable home life. My husband, on the other hand, had the exact opposite. I met DH when I was 17 and she's always treated me with respect (which is crazy considering her son married the weirdo with pink hair he met in high school). If I wanted her to be a mother figure to me she would be. But I'm just not the kind of person who leans on other people. The environment I grew up in has made me very independent and disinclined to rely on people.

    She's a way better person than my own mother and while we do have various issues regarding communication, I'm very lucky to have her in my life. Most of our issues just stem from the fact that we are very different people. She's very outgoing and extroverted and flexible while I'm the opposite. My biggest thing is just that there's very little planning when it comes to family gatherings and it makes me a little batty because I'm never sure what's happening.

  3. pineapple

    pea / 16 posts

    It's very up and down. One, he was a momma's boy. He listens to her no matter what. She is super bossy. But I understand she's a mom and she just means well. The things, though, is calling her "mom." In my culture, we have no choice to because it's a respect thing. I always try and avoid to say it, but there are times I have to get her attention or acknowledgement. It's like biting bullets calling her mom.

  4. Dahlia

    clementine / 935 posts

    We get along fine, although we don't have any real connection. She's VERY laid-back and deferential to me almost to a fault - like I wish she's take charge when she visits and start doing things around the house/with DD. But I can't complain at all.

  5. Mrs. Turtle

    blogger / pear / 1509 posts

    I really like her and wish I could get to know her better. I really wish she would visit us. But she's kind of in her own little world and just isn't that involved in her kids' lives. I was hoping when we had kids it would change. So far with the foster kids it hasn't at all (she hasn't even met O) but maybe when we adopt she might start thinking of them as grandkids? One can hope.

  6. RainbowMom

    pea / 18 posts

    I chose other. My MIL is good at projecting a sweet little old lady image for a while, but in reality she is very negative, passive-aggressive and would be manipulative if she were smarter. It's not entirely her fault, she has at least one mental health diagnosis. On her good days she can be fine. But much of the time she is very unpleasant to be around.

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