Do you see debris or remnants of your first relationship/first time linger in to your relationship today? If so, how do you understand them, and what do you do?

My first time was with a man much older than me. I was 20. We were mutually attracted to each other. I had about 110% of my effort and life devoted to him, and he about 20%. This imbalance caused me a lot of pain. Several years later and in a marriage now, I still think of this person weekly.