We just returned from 6 days with my in-laws. It went very well up until the morning we left. My MIL has a lot of back issues and is on a lot of pain medication. It takes her an hour or so to get going in the mornings. We woke up yesterday to go to the airport and were told that FIL had a meeting and she was taking us. She could barely walk straight or back the car out of the garage- uh, no.

So DH told her she couldn't drive us, and did it in a very loving way, in that he was very concerned for her and he was sorry but he couldn't let her. We told FIL he would have to be late and take us to the airport, and we left. She kept saying she didn't know what the hell was wrong with us, and when DH texted her that we were on the plane and we had a lovely trip and he was sorry and hoped she was OK, she texted back, "Go to hell, " and hasn't responded to either of us since.

She is supposed to come visit in 2 weeks and I'm not sure how to approach this issue. We are both trying to be very gracious in that she is probably embarrassed and hurt, but I also think the entire issue needs to be addressed because her response was not cool. And I already told DH she isn't driving us anymore when we go visit them, so that's another fun conversation to have at some point.

Anyone been through his with an aging parent? Tips on how you approached it and what hurt or helped?