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I tried, but I had already used the word "donor," so they weren't convinced. I even asked if they required that straight couples to be married (because it seemed that they wouldn't take MY word for it, but that they take everyone else's word for it). No, of course not. They don't have to be married. They just have to say they're together. Very frustrating, and exactly why California passed the law that allows recipients to waive the testing and quarantine if they've used the donor before at home. Because that use of the donor at home basically qualifies as a sexual relationship.

Thanks guys. It's actually really encouraging to hear other people getting mad about this. It's very frustrating, and while I know some of it has to do with federal regulations, there are also a lot of factors that the clinic isn't willing to consider in individual cases. Mostly I just wish they'd told me up front that they wouldn't be able to help me. I was honest when I made the appointment, and honest during the appointment with the doctor, and in both conversations it sounded like they'd be able to help no big deal. So $282 that could've paid for an IUI with a midwife is down the drain. Incredibly frustrating. I'm not even sure they're willing to do the tests now, as they said it might be next week before they call me back about that. Next cycle starts next week. We've had such great experiences since moving here, everyone has been so incredibly welcoming and wonderful to us, even though we are basically in a pretty conservative, rural area. Luckily experiences like this are the exception and not the rule.