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Sending huge hugs.

@MoonMoon: We are unsure about having any more children. Most days I'm content and happy to just wait and see what happens, but other days it makes me sad. Big hugs! I hope your day gets better.

Hugs!

@MoonMoon: Absolutely. One day at a time. I need to remember that too.

@MoonMoon: I totally get how you feel. I always wanted 2 kids but it may not happen now.

@FliegepilzHut: we are in the same position. When I first had DS I thought I would be happy just to have one child, but in the back of my mind I always wanted a 2nd. We have frozen embryos so we have a chance, but money is already tight for us.

I understand. For different reasons. I flip flop a lot about what I want and yea, anyway, I can relate. Big hugs!

I have this mental debate daily, so I can totally empathize!

Big hugs! Figuring out what's best for you and your family can be so hard. I hope you find peace in whatever you decide.

I can kinda relate... We are def going for #2 but sometimes I freak out over finances and wonder if it will be feasible, etc without turning our lives upside down... Big hugs Try to think about the positive! Honestly even knowing we'll have #2, I get sad that I have to share DD!

@MoonMoon: I can commiserate. I am still hoping to have another, but after multiple miscarriages, I am starting to wonder how many more I can go through before giving up (plus I am 35). We are also really enjoying life with our toddler and it's getting harder and harder to envision going back to dealing with a newborn. I've been feeling pretty down about things lately too. We are taking a few months off from trying and I just see time and opportunities slipping by. Then I think about going through pregnancy and newborn stages again and it makes me so anxious. I feel like I'm on an emotional roller coaster sometimes.

I know this is hard, so just sending you some extra hugs.

@moonmoon: Sending hugs your way, too I am really struggling to accept that DH will never be onboard with having a second kiddo. I totally recognize all the positives about having just one, but it's still really hard.

@moonmoon: and anyone else struggling with this, how are you doing with the number of kids thing lately? I'm having a super rough day about it, so I wanted to check in to see how everyone else is doing. My DH has been commenting lately about how big/old our son is (he'll be 3 in July) and how much fun he is. That, plus we're in the process of buying a 3 bedroom house made me think he was reconsidering. We looked at a few places with two bedrooms and a tiny 3rd bedroom that would basically only be used as a den or playroom. And I said that I would be open to them because I'm really trying to get on board with the one kid thing, but he didn't want to buy those. Then we saw this big house (and had a discussion where I said that this is a house for a big family) and he wanted to buy it.
I realize now that I was reading what I wanted to into his behavior when he didn't mean anything by it. He said last night that he still feels firmly done with one. But I let myself get a little hopeful and now I feel heartbroken all over again.

@jhd: Thanks! I appreciate it. I keep waiting for it to get easier, but it hasn't yet. Are you also unsure about what's happening with more kids?

@jhd: I think I remember reading about some of your son's challenges My son didn't have anything too extreme, but we dealt with a lot of GI and oral motor issues. He needed feeding therapy, OT, and PT. Feeding is going well, but he's still in PT. I think part of my DH's concern is that we got lucky that S is doing well now and he wants to stop now while we're ahead. (I say this feeling like a total whiny baby after reading about winniebee's news)