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@Cherrybee: If you look at my BFP chart, we didn't BD the day of O either (per FF). Frontloading is more important. I read a study somewhere that shows most couples conceive when they BD O-1, I think. Sperm last somewhere between 3 and 5 days in the right conditions. You're golden.

So many good looking charts this month, ladies!!

@Cherrybee: Bahahahahah. Took me a second to get that, but yeah that makes sense I calculated that since we BDd 4 times in the 5-day window before O, I had approximately 1 *billion* sperm swimming around up there. Loaded indeed!

@Cherrybee: Absolutely not. That was the advantage the monitor gave us that month - 5 days of notice instead of 0-1 OPKs gave us, and because my cycles were irregular, it was hard to guess with any regularity when O would be month to month.

Ohhhh.... you guys.....!!!!!

I'm 4DPO and I really, really care again!! I've been telling myself all cycle that I'm not in any rush for my BFP, that I can take it or leave it this month... I've even tried convincing myself that I don't want that BFP until next cycle so I can have a drink at Christmas.....! But it hasn't worked and I still really, really want it - now, now, now!!!

I hate wanting it so much because it's blatantly setting myself up for a big disappointment.

3rd (extra long) cycle TTC - COME ON!!

@marionberry: This is your Jenny Renny cycle too, huh? It doesn't matter how much we tell ourselves it's just a bit of fun, one can't help but wonder if there might be something in it and hope she's right. Are you having any symptoms yet this cycle?

@marionberry: Nah, nothing! I didn't have anything on the BFP cycle, either, and I barely get symptoms pre-AF so I'm not concerned. Besides, I'm onlt 4DPO. I'm not temping this TWW, either, so we'll see what happens!

@marionberry: I left my thermometer behind in a hotel room 2DPO while I was away for work! I did mean to buy a new one but kept forgetting so I'm going to try not temping for the rest of the cycle and see how it goes!

@marionberry: nice temp jump!! how are you feeling?

We decided yesterday, to officially NTNP going forward. No charting, no OPK - and I will try to be less baby-feverish. Not too sure yet how this is at all possible, but I am sure going to try. It's been too stressful and my obsessive personality has really gone off the deep end with this process, I am type-A to the extreme and it really hasn't helped me in this process. So, time to focus my energy on something else, but I will never leave HB! haha

@marionberry: well, I never said I could really DO the NTNP - I will for sure try. At this point it's easy bc AF is still lingering, but who knows, how can I turn my mind off to something I know is going on in my body? I'll let you know how it spans out. I'm trying to keep myself occupied - they've almost finished gutting out my in-law's house and now I'm helping them design their new kitchen, and I'm having a great time with it! So googling baby-related things has become looking up kitchen designs. So far so good!

@cherrybee: Thanks for the high hopes! I spent a bit on FF looking at "charts like mine today" and it looked pretty positive but there were some that looked like mine that took a nosedive about 10-12dpo so I'm trying to keep my hope in control.

I know that baby feeling! I absolutely love the times I spend with my friends' kids. I visited my friend in the hospital when she had her daughter recently and it was so much fun to hold her baby for an hour. It makes you happy, but I get that when you go home and realize you don't have one for yourself, it could be a let down. I guess visiting them just makes me excited for a baby even more, and looking forward to the moment when I'm the one sharing my baby with friends. Your time will definitely come soon and then you'll be in the opposite role, where others are jealous of you!

@cherrybee: Aww hun, I know it's hard. Had a total melt down for about 3 days when one of my really good friends got pregnant recently. I was in fits of tears randomly everywhere. It's natural to have moments in the process where you're down. But do your best to hold out hope and stay positive. You will have a baby!! And if it helps (because it does for me) buy baby things in the meantime. I find it really fun and I figure this way I'll be overly prepared when it finally happens. *hugs*

@marionberry: just winding down for the night! I just uploaded a bunch of books on the kindle app on my phone. This is how I'm trying to NTNP - by occupying my free time with anything other than baby obsessing, because i was SERIOUSLY 24/7 preoccupied with all things TTC, like in an unhealthy way. Like embarrassed to even admit on HB level of obsessing. Also, had a delicious burrito bowl for dinner - after a horrendous commute home. Commuting between two Sandy-disastrous areas has been rough! How's your night been?? How's your tww going?

@.twist.: How many DPO are you? Very exciting!!!

@marionberry: Its half seven here, just getting up for the day. I'm FULL of cold! Not good! 8DPO today, no symptoms. I'm just hoping AF stays away until 14DPO as she came at 10 last month which was a bit worrying. I might buy TCOYF if she does arrive. How are you doing?

@marionberry: Really??? You still feeling....erm.. well, pregnant?!! Oh blimey, I hope you are!!! I'd give up a BFP this month for you to have one, straight up! You've done your time, it's totally your turn!

@marionberry: I'm sure it is, too. I'm really, really trying to take it in my stride this month - not succeeding too well but certainly doing better than last cycle!! I had a total breakdown the other night - but as soon as I started telling DH about it, it all came flooding into my mind and I realised I was upset about my dad - my friend and her baby were in the ward directly below where my dad was for three of the last three and a half months of his life so I had to walk down the same corridors, use the same lifts and the sadness just came back. It wasn't at all about her baby (phew) and I can't wait to go and see him again (at home!) in a few days!!

@Cherrybee: @marionberry: @chibee: Ladies, I don't know!!! I'm so scared to try!! Not sure how many DPO I am, I should be about 10DPO...ish. I could go at lunch and get one.....

@marionberry: thanks!! The open circles are kind of all over the place because daylight savings time really threw me off (and I was concerned that at first I didn't get a high temp rise like I did every other cycle). I finally got myself back on track so the last couple of days have been at 6:15 instead of 4:30. Still feel no different though.

Work has been crazy busy lately!

@chibee: Oh! I'm excited to read it then. I was a little worried, I borrowed it (and a few others) from a friend and the one I picked to read first has been terrible and made me question her taste. HAH.

I've heard the 3rd & 4th Game of Thrones are a little slow but still totally worth it. I'm kind of saving them because I loved the first 2 so much that I'm scared to finish the series and then feel emptiness!

I found Pillars of the Earth to be a fast read, the book is about 1000 pages, but if you're really into it it moves along quite quickly.

As for recs, I just recently read a book called Sisters Brothers by Patrick DeWitt, it's a modern western, and not my usual type of novel. Not a "deep" book but totally cute. Red Dragon by Thomas Harris for a thriller, the first in the Hannibal series, very very good. I can't believe it took me this long to have picked it up.

I think I'll wait! I totally thought about going out and getting a test at lunch but then decided against it! No symptoms other than the cramps so, I won't jinx myself.

Okay ladies, I am doing my usual trick of driving myself crazy peeing on stuff. Im 8DPO - okay - 8DPO. This is too early to tell anything, anyway. I had a cheap internet pregnancy test strip in the cupboard and I decided I may as well use it, just to stop myself wondering all day if I might just see a result if I tested today. 8DPO. Waaaay to early. Well blow me if I can't see a really, really, really faint line. A ghost line! A greyish ghost line! On a super cheap test! It has all the marks of an evap line AND this picture I'm about to show you was taken 20 minutes later (the line was there within 10 though, honestly!!).

Why oh why do I do this to myself?!!!!

And like you said, 8 dpo is so early! I took one at 9 dpo last week and it was negative... Good luck, I know how hard this is!!!