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@Cherrybee: oh honey! Goodness!! Is he seeing someone about his temper? My DH has similar issues with anger management especially with his 6 months off with a knee injury and not being able to walk... Men really don't like to feel weak do they?! Anyways, he's talking to some one about his issues and it really is helping. I hope your DH can do the same... I know how men can be though. I think you're doing the right thing in just taking it as it comes.... you have beautiful Elliot to smile at you everyday! Lots of hugs.
also.. Great job on not throwing him out the window! Lol I have wanted to do that too!
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@Mrs squirreld: Thanks! She has been a bit of a madam of late - not eating, waking up all through the night; this toddler thing is kicking our butts! But she's still wonderful and I could handle being one-and-done if needs be. I will just spoil her rotten. I'm forever telling him that he should see someone about it but he's resistant.He would never lash out at a person - NEVER - but what it's doing to him bottling it all up is awful.
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@Mrs squirreld: @strawberrybee: @chibee: @cherrybee: It's officially twins! Two 8 week old twins with a heartbeat of 168. I'm slightly stressed out about 3 under 2, but this is a much better result than I was planning on receiving.
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@marionberry: posted on your other thread as well, but I am so, so happy for you. Here's to some double sticky dust and a happy, safe pregnancy!
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@Mrs squirreld: omg he is adorable!!! it's so crazy that you are TTC again and @marionberry: is pregnant already - i'm a bit behind you guys but at this moment, i can't imagine ttc again for a loooooong time!!! that may change once i feel like a human being again and not just a milk and diaper changing machine for Jack.
@Cherrybee: her blonde bob kills me - what an angel face! i can relate - DH has anger/anxiety issues and it's been really getting to me, he never is angry towards me or our baby but he gets really frustrated easily and i wish he would take it easy and not become so easily frustrated, especially when i'm doing 90% of the work right now. i can tell he still feels uncomfortable handling the baby and sees me as a main caretaker and he is merely there to help. he also does not know how to handle stress like a normal person either.
@marionberry: i cannot believe you're having twins!! this is too exciting - congrats a million times over!
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@marionberry: Whaaaaaaat???! Yippee!!!! Wow, I'm so, so excited for you!! Are they identical twins or the two-egg kind? This is so amazing!!!
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@Cherrybee: The two egg kind, fraternal. I'm a bit scared about handling two more. It's more than I bargained for. Your daughter is so beautiful! I'd kill for a girl but I had a dream about 3 boys.
@mrssquirreld: hurry and get pregnant so we can be close together again with the babes! Jk. But I really hope it's easy for you this time!
@chibee: I don't think another one ever sounds good until your first sleeps through the night so no worries!
@strawberrybee: thank you for the good wishes! I do hope that they stick! They seemed pretty serene today in the u/s. Just hearts beating in unison. -
i am having such a downer day - i feel like i'm not getting this newborn care thing right, when did it feel like you knew what you were doing??
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@chibee: if it makes you feel any better, I had to get an xray on my foot today, and when the tech asked if I was possibly pregnant, I blurted out "god I hope not!" Lol Not gonna lie, life has been rough lately, and I have an easy baby.
Also, I still don't feel like I know what I'm doing! They keep us guessing. Anything in particular that you're feeling overwhelmed about?
@marionberry: that's so sweet that their hearts are beating together.
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@StrawberryBee: I know, that's kind of what I thought, and what my doctor said too. I watch "Don't be Tardy" and Kim just had twins and she always talks about their special bond and it's really cool that I already feel like my twins have that.
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@chibee: It was a gradual process for me. Things started to feel less horrific and at least a little bearable once we got into a bit of a routine at around 10 weeks; DD had an official "bedtime" and woke at regular intervals through the night for feeds. Prior to that, I felt completely out of control! The first time I can remember feeling confident enough to actually enjoy my baby was around Christmas, when E was 5 months old. Things really fell into place for me when she was 8 months old - although the joke's on me because as soon as you get the hang of something they change and it's like starting again!!! Big, big hugs sweetheart, those first few weeks are so, so hard. Your hormones are everywhere, you're so sleep deprived you can't even think straight and it's completely relentless. But you will get through.
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@chibee: I echo @cherrybee's sentiments. Even when you feel like you've got it down they throw you a fast one. I assure you you're doing a great job because you care enough to ask for advice. If you need any I'm happy to offer up whatever I might know but it's all trial and error. Your baby loves you regardless!
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Eeeek wanted you ladies to be the first to know!! Baby #2!! First cycle trying we DTD once!!!!@marionberry: I agree with you, the body must completely reset itself!!! I can't believe it!
@Cherrybee: @marionberry: @chibee: @StrawberryBee:
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@Mrs squirreld: congrats!!!!!!!!! So exciting!! :D. Happy and healthy 9 months
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@Mrs squirreld: OMG! Yay! So happy for you! I wanted us to continue this journey together and we get to. How awesome!! When is your official due date??
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@StrawberryBee: thanks!!!
@marionberry: me too! So excited! 25th of May -
@Mrs squirreld: Aaaaaaagh!! Congratulations!!!! I'm so happy for you!!!! xxxx
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@Cherrybee: thanks
how are things in your camp? Is DH back on his meds yet?
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@Mrs squirreld: No.... but to be honest we are moving further and further away from being TTC ready anyway. We need to work on us big time and need to get this parenting thing under control; our methods thus far - putting too much pressure on each other and ourselves - are just unsustainable and the cracks are starting to show.
So how many weeks are you?
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@Cherrybee: I thought that when you did that post about quality time. hugs
it's really about finding a balance, it's so hard. You'll find your groove, something different works for everyone. Don't be to hard on yourself. And if he's really driving you nuts chuck E in the pram (pushchair..is that what you call it?) and go for a nice long walk, give you both some space. xo I'm 4w2d..so early still...fingers crossed, looking forward to seeing that heartbeat in a few weeks.
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@Mrs squirreld: sooo excited for you!!!!
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@singingbee: Thankyou!!!!!
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@Mrs squirreld: My instinct when you suggest that is "Why should *I* take her? I work full time too! Why am I the default?" .... but of course I know that I would feel better after a walk and so would he - and E would enjoy it. This is just how far we we have disintegrated. The good news is that by being more reasonable and stepping in voluntarily a lot more, it has already altered the dynamic enough for DH to be Mr Helpful yesterday (he oicked up E for me and went to the shop - twice!) and for us to have a really productive chat last night. We are going with it being mainly my fault but I'm OK with that because I think it is.
Eep! A May baby! How lovely!!! Its so exciting!! I can't wait for you get post bump pics!!!!!
You can tell me how totally not hard it is for when we are ready (at this rate we will be lucky to have two under ten!!!!! 
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@Cherrybee: I totally get that, but IMO the stubbornness just causes more heartache! I've come to realize men are more stubborn and you've just got to be the bigger person and you are right, after a walk you do feel a lot better! Fresh air & exercise do wonders even if you felt like stabbing someone! lol and hey if you make the first move in making a change and he doesn't follow suit after a few weeks, then you'll know it's not about you! Communication is so so important. That's where DH & I struggle we have such different styles.... But the first step to fixing a problem is knowing it's there!
I am so excited for a May baby, as June is winter here so I get to have snuggly rugged up baby this time!! The due date is my mums bday too so no doubt she'll be excited about that! Hahha so when you have baby #2 I'll probably have 5 under 10
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@Mrs squirreld: ahhh congrats!!! That is fantastic news and may is a great time to have a baby! It still amazes me how some of us are on #2 already I feel so far from it but hopefully will catch up to you guys some day!
Although I have to say, I am having a hard time with my newborn and at the moment I don't think I can go through this again any time soon!
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@chibee: That's exactly how I felt! DH started talking about number 2 when E was 10 months old - he wanted to start trying 5 months later - and I posted on here in a blind panic because I couldn't imagine ever thinking I could go through it again. Someone (I think it was Mrs Blue) replied, saying that a lot can change in a short space of time and I might feel ready. I thought she was crazy but actually she was right! I started thinking about it only a couple of months later!! Of course, we're not ready yet (for other reasons) but it's true that your mind and body somehow forget how hard it is in time......
Chibee, how old is your LO now? When you say you're having a hard time, what do you mean? Is there anything we can support you with? (I HATED the first six months btw).
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@chibee: You're so new to it that if you were thinking you wanted another one already I'd be wondering what was wrong with you.
@mrs.squirreld: 5 under 10, lol! I am stressed about having these twins and then likely I'm done. Just praying for a girl as one of them. My mom is uber eager for a granddaughter (she had 3 girls). She texted me the other day and said that since my grandma is dying of cancer, I'll have a girl because God has to replace what he takes away. With my luck that just means someone else gets a girl haha. My friend got the blood test at 10 weeks which tells you the sex but I can't because with twins it's not all that accurate. Guess I have almost 10 more weeks to go until I find out.
@cherrybee: DH and I are certainly having a harder time lately. I thought we were doing pretty well but the past few weeks haven't been so great. We're both so exhausted and we just don't have time for each other. I think it's something all go through (we're both snotty to each other) as married couples and I have faith it will get better, for all of us! Hugs girlie! -
@Cherrybee: he will be a month old in 3 days! feeding has been really stressful - he has reflux and i'm nursing and supplementing and lately he's been really having trouble nursing and spitting up the formula and just been more fussy as the days go on. i know it's a combination of his reflux and being gassy - but now i'm wondering if we need to change his formula. He projectile spit up today twice, which he has never done before, so after we get through today (the ped's office is closed today) i'm going to call tomorrow and see if she can put him on zantac like we discussed last time. I just feel like i can't do anything right w/his feeding, he has been so stressful to nurse that i am probably going to exclusively formula feed soon. Combined with just complete exhaustion from not sleeping at night, makes me very cranky and dramatic! I'm just praying for the day he sleeps more than 2.5 hours during the night. PRAYING!
@marionberry: well i certainly hope i change my mind because i want jack to have a sibling, but right now, DH and I are in the camp of one and done!
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@chibee: I'm so sorry feeding him has been so rough. Not sure that it will help anything but we put our Jack on gripe water really early on because it seemed like the milk was really bothering his belly and it helped a ton. We gave it to him about every 4 hours. It's completely natural, so always worth a shot. I would imagine he likely needs the zantac though. Hang in there. It will get easier. I remember when Jack had croup that he stayed up all night long screaming and I swore in that moment we were not having another kid, but we made it through and you will too. Then you'll be having so much fun you'll be wanting a kid sooner than you thought.
also.. Great job on not throwing him out the window! Lol I have wanted to do that too!
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