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Mostly culturally, honestly. There are religious components that I would like to incorporate more in our lives, but honestly the cultural, tradition, communal based parts are more of what I hope my children carry with them as they grow older.

DH was raised Jewish but doesn't practice. He and his brothers were never truly accepted in certain temples because their mother is Catholic. We make sure to celebrate the Jewish holidays with my ILs but DH only identifies himself as Jewish when it's convenient for him (mainly to get out of going to church or something).

LO is being raised Catholic like me. I don't agree with all of the church's teachings but I find I feel immense guilt when I think of leaving. She will be exposed to the Jewish holidays but she will not be given gifts for Hanukkah by us. My ILs insist on giving me a gift for Hanukkah so I assume they will continue to give R gifts. It bothers me because she's not Jewish. I am all for teaching her about the holidays but I don't think she should get double the presents either.

Same as @lawbee11: explained...SO is Jewish and was raised with some cultural elements but has no desire to include them in LO's life.

In the 10 years we've been together he's enjoyed celebrating Christmas and his family has stopped celebrating Hanukkah, although I suspect they're doing the holidays more with their other grandchild. They secretly don't consider LO theirs anyway, and with him looking Asian I doubt he'll be included.

I was raised in a family that was culturally Jewish. We never went to temple, and I didn't have a bat mitzvah, but we'd have family get-togethers for the holidays. Except the events were always about food and family, and we never prayed or took part in any of the religious aspects of the holidays.

My cousins all had bar/bat mitzvahs, they're a bit more religious than our part of the family. I'm a staunch atheist, my mom is agnostic, and my sister is spiritual but doesn't believe in God.

Since my grandparents died, we haven't gotten together as often

ETA: As a kid, we always celebrated the Christian holidays as well, because my stepmother and step-grandfather were Christian. So there was always Christmas AND Hanukkah, Easter AND Passover.

As far as my daughter goes, she'll probably have more exposure to the Christian holidays since my husband's family celebrates them. But while they are fairly religious, they support the fact that we're not.

Our tie to Judaism is more cultural now even though we were both raised with the religious component as well. Although we intend to raise LO with some formal Jewish education, my hope is that the traditions we keep as a family (our little family and also with our extended family) are what sticks for him. Who knows, perhaps our traditions will lean more to the religious side as LO grows older (for example, if we send him to a Jewish nursery school as we are considering) but for now, I want LO to understand and participate in the holidays and have a tie to his extended family.

My husband is Jewish (culturally but not really religiously) and I was raised Christian (currently not religious).

We would very much like to teach our child about Jewish values/heritage. I'm in the process of learning about Judaism to support this goal.

I have learned that a child is not really considered Jewish if the mother is not Jewish. But, I think that's an orthodox POV.

Culturally, mostly. We will raise our kid(s) as Reform Jews - Sunday and Hebrew school, holidays, bar/bat mitzvahs. I read somewhere that something like 40% of Reform Jews are atheists so I don't feel too bad that I fall into that and see it more as a heritage/culture thing. Also, Jewish summer camp plays a big part in our lives - my husband and I met there and many of our closest friends are from there, so we plan to send our kids as well.

Even though I'm not really spiritual, I agree with the tenets of Judaism (Reform, at least) - equality, charity, standing up for the oppressed - and those are values I hope to pass on to LO.