So I know we don't talk politics around here much because it gets so heated, and this is not that so breathe a sigh of relief! 
what this is about I see alllllllllllllllll the sexual harassment, rape and miscounduct, that literally everyday 5 more men end up being accused of. WTF?! Seriously WTF?! Is it really that hard to treat a woman, another human being with mutual respect and dignity! Are men really only thier penis'? Do you fuckers even have a brain? Everyday when I turn on the news and see deuchebag after deuchebag apologizing for "misunderstanding" a woman or thier sooooo sorry for what they did, my blood pressure gets a little higher. I knew that we were a long way from true equality, but this has made it abundently clear that we are VERY far away. As a woman I'm literally just a fucking sex object and that hasn't changed ever! Now I'm just a sex object capable of making money. The worst part is I don't see the outrage anywhere, it's not on my Facebook feed, not on the news, I can literally hear George sigh every time someone new is accused. I just want to vent, Its so disheartening, the human race really is terrible 
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I'm right there with you. I was listening to the David Bowie/Bing Crosby "Little Drummer Boy" this morning and just started bawling. The lyrics are so beautiful and hopeful but it makes me sad that they're still so relevant. How have we made so much yet so little progress? It makes me sad. It makes me angry. But it also gives me a glimmer of hope that our daughters (and sons) won't have to grow up in a world that just accepts this kind of behavior.
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I actually love that this is all over the news now, because it's not being 'shushed' anymore. Companies will no longer be able to ignore these kind of allegations. #metoo has been HUGE and I think it will create positive change.
I wonder how many celebrity men are just shaking in their drawers waiting for someone to call them out.
ETA: obviously it's a shame that is this way to begin with, but people have accepted it for far too long. No more. -
@josina: yea I should have clarified, I'm glad that it's on the news, and that woman are standing up for themselves and other women, and that a movement is happening. I just feel defeated at the sheer number of cases that are coming to light everyday. Like how is this that prevelant?
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I wish I could say that I'm surprised or that I thought this was going to change everything, but I don't know - I think the belief that this kind of behavior is to be expected (including amongst many women) is pretty deeply ingrained in quite substantial segments of society and change is often slow. The fact that it's so much easier to record now does make me hopeful that increased transparency will hasten change.
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I’m really conflicted about how this is playing out. Part of it is that I like many women and men are just conditioned to live with harassment, misguided jokes, and bad behavior. Some of the accounts really showcase what I would consider malicious intent and some is what I would consider microagressions. The account that resonated with me during this recknoning was Jenny Lumet’s encounter with Russel Simmons.
There should be consequences for these men; however, the current trend of automatically losing your job seems unsustainable. There are just so many men who have wronged women and work (jobs) have to get done. I feel like Congress is dragging their feet because so much is at stake if their is a change in representation.
After Weinstein and Halpern I asked DH if he ever harassed a woman at work. He claims no, but uses the legal definition of what that means. Who really knows if something he did or any of the men in our lives made a woman uncomfortable. I’m sure my wonderful colleagues would be dumbfounded if I shared what I felt were slights.
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@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: yes to what you say about the microagressions as well as clearly egregious acts. When #metoo started, I first just felt extremely lucky (especially since my own university department has been a site of some truly horrifying accusations, so this has hit very close to home as well as occurring in national news), but then I started thinking more about my own experiences and the way we are just conditioned in a patriarchal society to accept unwanted attention, etc.
@arosebyany: that's really disheartening that you aren't seeing the outrage. There is a lot of outrage on my fb and my social circle, but I have a very politically active network.
I've also noticed a real drop in political talk on HB lately and wondered about it. Like, the tax bill is a HUGE deal and no one is posting about it the way we talked about healthcare or other issues earlier this year. I'm guessing it's just fatigue.
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I read somewhere that this is a scary time to be a man and a response that no, it’s a scary time to be a creep.
DH and I had a really interesting conversation about all of this last night. I don’t think that there is a scale of what is ‘worse’ each issue and complaint should be thoughtfully considered based on the situation.
It is terrible that this behavior is ‘normal’ someone could be in jail for what they did to me. Raising a daughter in this world is daunting. But I’m glad to have DH be there as a model for how she should be treated.
There are no easy answers.
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@nana87: yeah I think it's just fatigue. I mean, I pretty much disagree with almost everything happening in our government right now, and other than writing my state representatives, I'm just waiting for three years to pass and hoping for the best in a shitty situation. Beating a dead horse over and over is just tiring.
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This national moment has given light to two instances of men I sorta know being called out publicly for truly horrible things (sex with multiple underage girls in one case). It's been amazing to see the tides change where before people had known that these things wore going on but had brushed it off because no one pursued charges to now the community is not standing for it. It's really important that the community comes together to support survivors and that just hasn't been the case before. I hope we can keep up this momentum and set a truly high bar for respect and equal voice for all. This is especially true for POC and LGBTQIA+ and others who's experiences are undervalued.
Also, fuck that tax bill is terrifying and will wreck the little bit of humanity we have left in healthcare, higher ed, and other public assistance programs....
And net neutrality is vital to the world as we know it.
It's increasingly hard for me to look outside of my family bubble because the world I see is heart breaking when I think of what my children will be inheriting,. We must all speak up.
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http://time.com/time-person-of-the-year-2017-silence-breakers/?xid=homepage
Time POTY: The Silence Breakers
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@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: Was just coming here to post that. I got chills when I saw it! So awesome.
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@littlebug: the article is so powerful. Thank goodness Trump wasn’t picked. He’s in the news all the time already, This article is so eye opening for me and I am really happy it casts a wider net on sexual harassment.
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@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: I'm slowly working my way through it between work stuff.
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