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@Crystal: when I had an HMO for my insurance I had to see my general doc for any referrals to specialists, I think it is supposed to save money? But mine was cool about a referral (this was to an allergist a long time ago). I think primary care docs know that this is sort of part of their role so just advocate for yourself and you should be fine!

@Keppa: so sorry to hear about your hard day--hugs! I had two girls at work due right around the baby I lost, one 6 days earlier and one about two weeks after. They both knew about my m/c but even though I tried to be happy for them, it was hard to see them progress and think about what could have been for me. It sucks.

As far as switching practices, I never met my ob until I went in for my first appt with my pregnancy. She had come highly recommended by friends I respected and I was really happy. So I think you could do it either way but there is nothing weird about going in after you are KU if you feel confident about your care, it is so important to feel you are in good hands.

@MamaCate: That sounds like a great day!

My bright sides today: I am working from home, I have a refrigerator stocked with delicious foods, I got some surprising, big-deal news this morning that is going to have a big impact on my job search, and I am planning to get a pedicure tonight!

I am 9/10 DPO, BFN this morning. It's my bad side and I feel 0% KU, so I am not at all surprised or bummed. Just looking forward to more vacation in a few weeks and a glass of wine tonight.

@Crystal: Yes, everyone around me is KU too.

@MamaCate: Congratulations on the raise and glad things are mostly going well. DH used to have similar hours- it will get better!

@septca: Love your bright sides!

@KelLeeLeee: Yea for good timing!

I am doing a little better today. DH didn't get home til late last night, so we didn't get to talk too much. He is pretty supportive. He has plans tonight and will break them if I need, but I am trying not to need them. I want to have the conversation about this month (do we try or not since it will cause me big problems with the trip I REALLY want to go on, because now FW is right before I go visit friends). I also want to have the conversation about what the future plan is- do we see my old OBGYN, keep trying on our own, or give up. I want to have this conversation ASAP, and DH thinks that it's not going to change anything this week and to let my emotions settle down.

Given my last cycle was only 20 days, I am convinced it was an anovulatory cycle. I haven't had one of those since I started charting 4/2012. It really throws me- I have heard of not ovulating due to stress, and have been under tons of stress and always ovulated consistently. Then I do one session of acupuncture, supposedly fixing one of the fertility meridians, and have time off (less stress) and this. ??????????

I really like my old OBGYN, but had to change to my current family doc because of insurance. Now insurance has changed and he is in network. I just haven't needed to go back. I did a little research- he does HSGs, and does a couple rounds of clomid with monitoring, and if that doesn't work, refers to RE. In my experience, he is extremely willing to let me call the shots, so would be shocked if he didn't let me try femara instead of clomid.- particularly if I bring in a study citing femara's benefits over clomid. Given I don't want to do IUI or IVF, it sounds like he could do all the things we would be willing. It is also more likely that it would be covered, though we have a high deductible, so it only sort of would be. I do have mild cramping and the last cycle is irregular, so he might be able to use those diagnoses.

I also keep thinking of our crazy lifestyle and how kids would throw a major wrench in that, and is all this God's way of saying we aren't meant to have kids? I don't know.

Bright sides: I am off today. I have some errands to do at the new job, and I will get to meet some people- I hope that goes well. I had a chocolate chip waffle this morning. I also tried applesauce instead of oil to make it healthier, and it worked fine, no taste difference, so I might try that in other things. DH is supportive. My new menstrual cup is supposed to arrive today. Arby's has a free jamocha shake with coupon today. http://slickdeals.net/f/7068400-arby-s-12oz-jamocha-shake-free-w-printable-coupon

@Crystal: Not Oing on time and all the things our cycle does of schedule is similar to if all of a sudden, this week became 3 days instead of 7. How do you plan anything? The universe would come to a screeching halt if time worked the way our cycles did. Since AF came a week early (probably anovulatory cycle), that totally changes things for this cycle. argh!

Great day so far! Got a $20 pedicure list night after training (way cheaper than DC), got an email I'm appointed legal representative on a big project, and training is going well.

@dc yoga bee: Try not to be sad about TTC. And try not to worry about IVF until you need to worry about that. You don't know if you will ever even need it. And you are so young that even if you needed it, your financial situation may change in a few years and make it easy peasy for you!

@Crystal: If you have HMO, that is why you are required to have your PCP (primary care physician) refer you to the specialist. That's how HMO's work. But if your insurance at all covers an RE's services, then shit girl! You have it great! Who cares about the need for a referral? If you want to be able to see any doctor any time you choose, you need a PPO, but you pay more, obviously. I am going to stay under the care of my general doctor and obgyn as long as I can. At this point, I feel I have more time than money on my side. So getting to an RE isn't a priority for me.

@Keppa: In an ideal world, I would try to find an obgyn before I was pregnant. But how do you plan to get into the doctors' offices if you don't have a specific need for going in? The way I found my new doctor was to go for my annual well woman exam and I also requested a preconception appointment. My insurance covered both.

@AmeliaBedilia: Friend, I would go back to your old doctor. He sounds great! And there is a lot of testing you can do to figure out what's going on with your cycles and such that would be important stuff even if you weren't TTC. And the HSG and clomid are all great things that fall just short of IUI and IVF. Have you ever said how old you are? Just give things some time. And really try to relax. I don't like when people say that to me, but I think you need it said to you!! It sounds like your husband is great and you have such a fun life!! A baby would fit right in but do try to enjoy each day for what it is and what it presents.

@GoGoSnoGirl: Hey lady! I'm so glad you have so much to look forward to this next cycle. I just had an HSG this current cycle I'm on. I'm praying for a luck HSG baby like lots of HBers have had. And with CD3 blood work, you are knocking it all out this cycle! Woo hoo!

Well ladies, I just got off the phone with my RE's office. They have my blood work results... drum roll!>>>>>>>>> but the Dr. hasn't looked at them yet. arrrgggg. I did go ahead and set up a follow up appt for the 31st. I should know by then if AF is coming or not so we should be able to get a game plan together for next month... of course I PRAY I get to cancel said appt!

So today at 7 or 8 dp+opk (y'all like that precision????) I have zero symptoms. No cramps. Zilch. Nada. I think I might be crazy and take a hpt tomorrow morning. I did buy a 25 pack of some cheap but super sensitive (<10mIU) so I figure WHY NOT??

I'll post later once I hear back about my labwork.

I am really encouraged by all the positivity on here. It's uplifting and really just keeps me coming back to this group! I feel like we truly are friends and supporters of each other when "regular" fertile friends might not fully understand our madness. So thank y'all for that!

In the meantime, I am SOOO glad not to be in the stressful environment of the doctor's office and am enjoying so very much spending this time at home with my DS (who by the way just yelled from the toilet "Mommy! How many days until Christmas??") Next month I'll start teaching for my first time at a private, Christian, university-model school a few miles away. And DS will begin kindergarten there. Add to that we are getting new flooring, new furniture delivered, and just had a beautiful patio poured in the backyard, and really I am in a very sweet spot in my life. I feel very blessed. Life really is beautiful! Just have to keep the right perspective

YAYYYY!!! Just got my lab results back. So taking the clomid this month increased my 7dpo estrogen from 64 (last month) to a whopping 123 and my progesterone from a 10.2 to a beautiful 16.1. That is great news! Now for a sticky little bean!!!!

I tried to convince our sound guy he was supposed to provide icy beverages. He may have cursed at me. lol

I think I'll end up going to class (after all, I've had at least double the caffeine I usually do since the boss treated us after the event we threw). I just hope the professor doesn't give me a hard time if I don't participate at all since I haven't done any homework. I haven't missed a class yet, so this should count as my absence! But it's the last class before the final so I don't want to miss out if there's a review.

@lilyofthewest: wow, cool! But, I can appreciate the swirl of emotions with the potential opportunity this interview could bring!