I'm not sure what I should do about this, if anything. DS and DD1 (6 and 3) are fairly reasonable kids on their own, but their behavior together is awful. They put each other up to all kinds of bad behavior and trip all over themselves laughing. They'll rough-house until someone ends up crying. They'll "cuss" or spill food at dinner for laughs. They throw their clothes and shoes everywhere, again for laughs. They don't register that I'm telling them to stop till I physically remove one of them. I'm glad they're enjoying each other's company, but this doesn't seem to be going in a healthy direction. Should I fight this? How? Or just be happy they get along?
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My kids (almost 2 and 4) are often hitting each other and laughing until one hits harder and hurts. I usually let it go because I can't deal.
They have also been throwing toys, but I'll take away those because we don't throw.
Overall, as long as they aren't screaming at each other, I'm just happy that they are getting along. I haven't figured out how to fight it, so I'm not going to.
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Oh man. If my kids aren’t fighting, they “get along” by being crazy like this. They are 2.5 and almost 5. It’s fine sometimes because they aren’t beating each other, but when I’m trying to get out the door for school and they are being wild it’s so frustrating. I have no tips
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Mine are 2.5 and 5 and I swear the only time they get along is when they play “battling” which always ends with someone hurt. I’m just letting it be. They have also pulled everyone’s clothes out of a closet. I just made them clean it up
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Solidarity!! Mine get so wild together. Sometimes it helps to threaten to make them split up to play in separate rooms. But mostly probably is what it is!
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Mine get wild too, but I would draw the line at purposely throwing or spilling food.
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OK, I feel a little better that it's not just my kids! I hope they grow out of the dinner nonsense soon though. I've already threatened to make them a separate "baby" table because they're being so immature... the threat didn't work though,, they were thrilled
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@Mama Bird: I would take their food away from them.
I take food when they start playing with it and silverware when they start banging it on the table. Instead of a fork, spoon, and knife, all they get is the fork or spoon. If they bang that, then everything is taken (including food) because they aren't eating with their hands.
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When I see my kids doing this too much or for too long, especially after warning them to stop, I split them up and make them go into their own rooms. I tell them they aren't in trouble, but they need to do something calmly by themselves in their own rooms for awhile.
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I’ve started letting it go more but it drives me insane.
But the other day they were fighting over the Little People, escalating, and I let it go because I didn’t have any fight left in me. Finally the 5 year old yelled “fine! If we can’t get along and play with this, no one gets to play with it!” And started angrily putting the pieces away. So.... you can imagine what my usual response is
When they get really out of hand I give them one warning before I separate them, one can play upstairs and one downstairs. They really want to play together so this is a big threat. Sometimes it works. Sometime I separate them and they both cry and scream.
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ok - reading this makes me feel better and worse.. better than maybe my kids aren't entirely atypical, and worse that yes, I am just a grumpy mother cringing at who they are.. we are always saying how much we LOVE being with them one on one, but together they are a NIGHTMARE
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